pregnant and sex?

SelenaRosales1219 · October 2015

I'm 32 weeks pregnant 33 weeks on Saturday and my boyfriend wants sex I feel uncomfortable and it makes me sad when I tell him no cause I feel he gets upset with me

dec15mum · October 2015

Obviously sex is very safe during pregnancy unless said by you doctor. However if it makes you uncomfortable that's a good enough reason to not do it and your partner should understand that!
Please don't feel bad about not wanting to have sex, it's completely your choice if you sleep with him or not, he's not entitled to it.
Maybe if you explain your concerns and feelings to your partner he'd understand more?

spottedginger · October 2015

Umm... Welcome? Do you have a question about the safety of sex or relationship advice? Just commenting?

Mother0fDragons · October 2015

I think most of us are feeling uncomfortable having sex at this stage. Have you explained to him how you feel?

yl1m32015 · October 2015

Mother0fDragons said:
I think most of us are feeling uncomfortable having sex at this stage. Have you explained to him how you feel?

I was just going to post this meme!!!! Great minds.

taysun · October 2015

If you want advice I'd explain to him how you're feeling and if you're up for it maybe just going with it and see how you feel. But you're by no means required to sleep with him if you don't want to.
I often don't quite feel up to it but make the effort anyway. Even if I don't feel as comfortable I still enjoy the closeness and I also consider the fact that we won't be able to afterwards for a period of time. If I really don't want to I say so and he takes care of himself or goes without. We don't make it a big deal.

Bombmom3 · October 2015

This is something a lot of pregnant women struggle with. Some women have zero sex drive or are too uncomfortable having sex or are just too tired to get in the mood. I've also known women who have m/s their whole pregnancies and nothing makes someone feel less like having sex than 24/7 nausea and vomiting. While I completely agree with what others have said in regards to your bf needing to respect your wishes I know that doesn't alleviate you feeling sad about saying no to him.

Maybe a frank talk with him about it - explain how uncomfortable you are and how it's hurts or is just miserable for you to "sit through". If you are interested in trying to maintain a physical relationship, you can discuss and try different positions or maybe just take care of business in different ways (touch/oral). Remember you can still be intimate without having sex as well - cuddling, (non-sexual) touching or massage and kissing can help him feel like you still want to connect with him and will make you both feel loved/special. Most men are pretty receptive to listen to their pregnant SOs when they explain the why behind the no (not that you need a why, a no is a no end of story).

kristen2b · October 2015

I just throw the BJs around like they're candy. He's happy. I'm happy. We go to bed.

suchaglencoco · October 2015

kristen2b said:
I just throw the BJs around like they're candy. He's happy. I'm happy. We go to bed.

I'd marry you in a heartbeat.

kristen2b · October 2015

suchaglencoco said:

kristen2b said:
I just throw the BJs around like they're candy. He's happy. I'm happy. We go to bed.
I'd marry you in a heartbeat.

It would be my honor.

iqueeley · October 2015

Funny how the world works n My situation is so opposite. Like for the past month I've been wanting to jump his bones and he's denying me the good stuff. Says he's uncomfortable and he thinks he can feel the baby when we do it. At first I thought he was cheating cuz if he isn't doing me he's doing somebody right? But then a dear make friend told me I need to be more understanding, go figure. The friend also mentioned that maybe he's scared to hurt the baby cuz him and his ex had a stilborn a few yrs back and he's traumatized. So I'm trying to be very sensitive and not yell n be mean. But at 36 weeks and then waiting another 6+ weeks after birth for some beef cake, aren't you guys going crazy?

I watch a ton of porn to keep me sane...smh.

nickimonroe · October 2015

So wish i could take a break!!!!! I giggle up a storm during sex! It's like I just never find a spot that feels great or sexy! He seems a bit understanding that it's not that I don't want him!& most of the time he laughs with me! I learned with my DD how important vibes are during pregnancy!!! I think it's really every pregnancy/relationship. Since he wants it so bad buy him a male survival kit! With toys lotions maybe a few sexy pics of u! That way he know u know what he is missing!

mrs14678 · October 2015

We tried last weekend, but.... Le boobs are too sensitive, and it hurt down there.... Poor guy. I offered a handjob, but he says that sounds weird. Haha

GinnyBarrette · October 2015

Mother0fDragons said:
I think most of us are feeling uncomfortable having sex at this stage. Have you explained to him how you feel?

Thank you for making my day!!!! Love this!

rain0831boww · October 2015

We have had to casually schedule it almost. I want to and he of course wants to but with how much he works and how tired I always am, we are exhausted at the end of the night. It allows us to get a excited and do it earlier in the evening so we have the energy. I can't wait for when my body is back to normal size for a range of positions and being more comfortable.

ACarter0914 · October 2015

We finally did last night for the first time in a few weeks and OMG it was uncomfortable and so just not good (for me at least). I can't wait to have normal people sex again!!!

ColoradoHiker · November 2015

I'm not sure if it's hormones or what, but after not being interested at all for weeks, this past week (around 36w) I was suddenly interested again. DH is happy! It did take some effort to find a comfortable position for me, but it's definitely worth it.

That being said, if you're not interested, uncomfortable or whatever, just explain that to him. You're not obligated, ever, to do anything you don't want to do. He's a big boy, and has hands. Let him take care of himself.

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