Could the 1st trimester go any slower?

emilyj77 · October 2015

Is it just me or has time all of a sudden slowed way down to almost a crawl? I'm 8 weeks and I look forward to every Monday when I'm officially in the next week and that much closer to 2nd trimester. I have plenty to keep me busy (DD, DH, work, grad school, etc), but the days and weeks seem to just crawl by. Added to this the fact that we're not telling anyone until 2nd trimester, so it's just me and DH with our secret, and he's not real talkative. Maybe he will be after our ultrasound next week. Anyone else out there anxiously counting down the days till the relative safety of 2nd trimester?

lilyaster · October 2015

Seriously! My u/s is in 2 days and I'm sure it will be the longest 48 hours ever. We are waiting until after the u/s to tell anyone but it's getting pretty hard to conceal this week.

slk03 · October 2015

Feels like forever! Was just thinking today what a long lonely phase this is, especially when I found out super early. Plus, I feel like it's the trimester with the most worry (though it's my first so I could discover I'm way wrong later). Pair the worry with the secrecy and well, yeah! It's a long lonely road!

AnastasiaBeaverhausen09 · October 2015

Yes! I have known I was pregnant since the end of August and it seriously feels like six months ago.

tripledaggerWed95976 · October 2015

Yah I'm 9+3 and each day goes by slower and slower

emilyj77 · October 2015

slk03 said: Plus, I feel like it's the trimester with the most worry (though it's my first so I could discover I'm way wrong later).

The worry changes and morphs into other things as you go. But you're right it's a super lonely time for those of us waiting to tell people. I'd like to tell my parents first, but I want to wait until after our appointments this month and then until we see them in person, which won't be till Nov. I don't remember this happening with DD.

katykatykaty · October 2015

Ugh, to me it's going too fast. I'm dreading telling my boss and family and am putting it off as long as possible.

babycakes8214 · October 2015

Longest days of my life. I found out I was pregnant at 3 weeks 2 days, super early. I'm now 7 weeks 1 day and it is a miracle I have not told anyone other than my neighbor and my best friends.

My first ultrasound isn't until 10 weeks. And I figure I'll wait until after my NT scan/Thanksgiving to share the news with everyone else. This is so hard.

I just want to be safely into the second trimester and less worried.

MellieRoseVargas · October 2015

I totally understand. We actually found out when I was 6 weeks and I swear the time just went slow motion from there. I'm about to be 11 weeks tomorrow and all I keep thinking is ugh that's it? Just 11 weeks lol

H0neyC0mb · October 2015

We're also waiting to publicly announce till Thanksgiving, I'll be almost in 2nd trimester by then. We've told our parents and a few close friends though.

Quite honestly I'm just ready for my morning sickness to be gone! So sick of feeling sick all day everyday. I know it could last the whole pregnancy but my mom's started to fade right before 2nd trimester. So here's to hoping!

mrsjlopez12 · October 2015

It is crawling! We decided not to tell anyone until after Christmas. I'll be about 20 weeks then. Currently 11 weeks and it's just me and DH. I go back and forth wanting a bump and not. Mostly not because we are waiting so long to tell everyone.

sjecc09 · October 2015

I agree! I'm 9w2d and we are waiting until our 12 week appt to tell friends. We have told our siblings and parents already, and we each confided in ONE close friend. But this wait... It feels like it's been forever! Especially since the friend I told is pregnant and 5 weeks further along, so many of our friends know and I'm still trying to keep it a secret!

saladflambe · October 2015

I don't really care about the trimester ending, but I am SO READY for the nausea to end

emilyj77 · October 2015

MellieRoseVargas said: I'm about to be 11 weeks tomorrow and all I keep thinking is ugh that's it? Just 11 weeks lol

I keep thinking that too! 8 weeks! That's it! And I have to go all the way to 40? Are you kidding me? How did I do this last time?

kbrands7 · October 2015

Lol, yes. I'm 10 weeks today and found out at 3.5 weeks... it just feels so incredibly long between the symptoms, the secrecy, and no kicks or anything interactive/fun yet.

Last time, I remember the second trimester seemed to be over as soon as it began. The third dragged for me, but mostly because I developed Puppp and was ridiculously uncomfortable until it went away after false labor at 37 weeks.

yodasmistress · October 2015

Yes

elsa1688 · October 2015

It's sofa king slow and my anxiety is insane. It's suck. Come onnnnn second tri

yogahh · October 2015

Geesh. My due date is 5/15. Which means its SEVEN MONTHS AWAY!!! That's a lifetime!

sillyfox · October 2015

I'm in the this is going so fast camp! First pregnancy took about 6 years it felt like. But this time, I found out at 3 weeks 4 days and that's been 4 weeks ago?! I blinked! I blame my toddler. I thought pregnancy would slow time down and I could enjoy her being little forever, but I swear once you have that baby it's like someone hits fast forward. How is my tiny baby already 16 months and walking and talking? Crazy. Plus DH and I have talked about it and he said if we have more than two it will be through adoption. So I'm pretty sure this is my last pregnancy. I complained through the whole first one and then I missed being pregnant (weird, right?!) ... so I'm trying to savor this one, aside from the morning sickness and fatigue and all the downsides. But I want to really enjoy getting to hog my baby, and the kicks and wiggles when they come, and the eating anything that sounds good without worrying about getting fat.

I'm not looking forward to telling my work yet either, I guess I'm a total introvert is mostly why. Plus it's a new job and I'm due a year after I started. So it will be interesting.

LadySamLady · October 2015

Counting the days and weeks like this makes it seem like time is standing still. I have developed a ritual on my ticker change day where I look at all the web sites for the following week because I can't stand all the waiting for time to pass. Looking forward to checking out week 13 on Friday when I'm 12 weeks!

lest12 · October 2015

Absurdly slow. Sometimes I feel like I forget I'm even pregnant. Except for the constant exhaustion and nausea.

AmmyBelle · October 2015

I feel the same - it's going so so slow... I think part of it, for me, is just that no one knows yet and I am dying to tell them all!

emilyj77 · October 2015

sillyfox said: So I'm pretty sure this is my last pregnancy.

Thanks for the reminder. This is most likely my last pregnancy too. And potentially the last grandbaby on both sides. I promise I'll enjoy it more when I get to tell people.

katykatykaty · October 2015

@sillyfox I so hear you on the job thing. I'm back at the same job I started 2 weeks before I found out I was pregnant with my second. I worked for 9 months and then quit after he was born. When I was ready to go back (14 months later) my boss was nice enough to rehire me in May. Now I have to tell him I'm pregnant again and somehow convince him I'm coming back right away after this baby since unfortunately we can't afford my staying home this time. I'll be 9 days short of the one year requirement for FMLA protection.

tgortney · October 2015

YES omg yes! I'm 10 weeks and 4 days, I got my BFP 2 weeks after ovulation so it was super early. The days have been CRAWLING. I got an US at 6w5d, saw and heard HB :x but my next appointment is 2 weeks away when I'm 12w4d ugh! I await every Saturday to see my ticker change and pray that baby is okay when I go in 2 weeks. Which is the most terrifying part [-O<

dshannah · October 2015

Well, you could find out you're even less far along than you thought...

I like the Ovia pregnancy app, because it gives updates every day, rather than once a week. My baby has a nose today!

cortney626 · October 2015

With being so sick every day, all day; I'm anxious for it to be the 2nd trimester when I hopefully feel better. I found out at 3w3d and I'm currently 10w4d. So it does seem like this 1st trimester is taking forever! I'm having a repeat c section at 39 weeks, so once I hit 13 weeks I'll be 1/3 of the way done!!

seasalt123 · October 2015

I am not enjoying the first trimester AT ALL. I hate all the doctors appointments that can't be consolidated or done on weekends or after work. All my tests and ultrasounds are always at like 11 am during the work week and there's a long wait to get in anywhere else. I can't stand that women are basically asked to lie to their employers about where they are sneaking off to. I don't find that the medical community seems set up to alleviate fears. When I hear of first ultrasounds at 20 weeks it just makes me roll my eyes. It's psychological torture to put women through that sort of a wait to find out if they even have a viable pregnancy. I, too, look forward to each new week where I know it's one week further along. The only thing for me is that I am not looking forward to telling family or work. I wish I could put it off until as late as possible. Unfortunately, I have several new specialist appointments I now need to schedule and can't lie to my boss indefinitely. First trimester rant over! :-)

nerdymama15 · October 2015

I wish the first trimester would hurry up as well. I am only 8 weeks and one day; I am fast (or rather slowly) approaching the timeline of when we lost our first. I need to hurry up and get past that time frame. Last pregnancy we went to the hospital at 9 weeks 5 days only to find out that the doctor said the baby had died at 8 weeks five days. So I guess I need to get past both of those time periods. I have a doctor appt a week from now so that should be some reassurance. Granted this is just an exam and does not include and ultrasound. Got an ultrasound last week. Won't get another one until a month from now

babycakes8214 · October 2015

-------previous loss mentioned--------

@nerdymama15

Today is the day of my last pregnancy that I started spotting, 7 weeks 2 days. 2 days from now is when they thought the heart stopped. I didnt find out until 9 weeks 3 days. So, I can completely relate. I have an ultrasound at 10 weeks so Im glad it is past all these trigger days, but it just seems like so far away.

This trimester needs to be done. Now.

sillyfox · October 2015

katykatykaty said:
@sillyfox I so hear you on the job thing. I'm back at the same job I started 2 weeks before I found out I was pregnant with my second. I worked for 9 months and then quit after he was born. When I was ready to go back (14 months later) my boss was nice enough to rehire me in May. Now I have to tell him I'm pregnant again and somehow convince him I'm coming back right away after this baby since unfortunately we can't afford my staying home this time. I'll be 9 days short of the one year requirement for FMLA protection.

I'm not covered regardless because my company has about 6 employees, obviously far less than the 50 minimum. There is nothing in the employee hand book at all about maternity leave or short term disability. I had hope before getting KU because the CFO had back surgery and was home about 6 weeks, but I later found out he took 1 week PTO then "worked from home" for the remaining 5.

With my first, I got 8 weeks paid and took an additional 2 weeks vacation. I thought that was too short. Now I'm kind of panicking. I might be applying elsewhere soon. How awkward would that be!? :-SS

zekesmommy611 · October 2015

I'm most impatient with waiting for my next appointment. My first u/s is scheduled for 10/21 which seems like it's never going to ever get here. I hate waiting!

dshannah · October 2015

seasalt123 said:
I am not enjoying the first trimester AT ALL. I hate all the doctors appointments that can't be consolidated or done on weekends or after work. All my tests and ultrasounds are always at like 11 am during the work week and there's a long wait to get in anywhere else. I can't stand that women are basically asked to lie to their employers about where they are sneaking off to. I don't find that the medical community seems set up to alleviate fears. When I hear of first ultrasounds at 20 weeks it just makes me roll my eyes. It's psychological torture to put women through that sort of a wait to find out if they even have a viable pregnancy. I, too, look forward to each new week where I know it's one week further along. The only thing for me is that I am not looking forward to telling family or work. I wish I could put it off until as late as possible. Unfortunately, I have several new specialist appointments I now need to schedule and can't lie to my boss indefinitely. First trimester rant over! :-)

Amen!

kbrands7 · October 2015

I'm getting to the point where I'm anxiously awaiting my u/s on the 26th. I wanted to get a fetal doppler, but DH is against it. For some reason I feel more concerned about things going wrong between appointments this time around. I don't know if it's because my symptoms are starting to cool down (they're at the stage where some days they're strong, other days they're not) or if it's just that I'm chasing around a toddler so much/ he sits on my lap/stomach so much that it worries me sometimes. I can't wait for this little peanut to be big enough for me to feel him/her wiggling and kicking.

proudparent2b · October 2015

I'm over feeling pregnancy tiredness and restrictions. In particular, I miss being able to run and work out as hard as I want without having to keep my heart rate below 140 and having the energy to do something other than watch tv or read after work.

Pascal86 · October 2015

I think this wait would be totally fine if I had more people to talk to about it!! Right now it's just me and my husband - first ultrasound is on Friday though (10 weeks), and I think then we'll tell my parents. My mom is a doctor and I cannot handle having stuff going on in my body that I haven't talked about ad nauseum with her. I almost told them early anyway, but my grandma passed away last week and I want to let her focus on that for a while, and then have some good news for her once she's had time to grieve.

dgreen77 · October 2015

So slow... And guess what happened, went in for my 12wk u/s and found out I'm only 9wks... Talk about time going crazy slow now! Was so excited to tell everyone and now it's like 3 more weeks......

laurenfrost8 · October 2015

Seriously. Longest 12 weeks ever!

cmeags · October 2015

@babycakes8214 @nerdymama15

I had the same experience as you ladies. My m/c spotting last time started on 10wks 2days (actually became heavy clotting and doctor didn't even bother to examine me ...horrible experience medically and emotionally). This time round I was concerned at that same time and used my fetal doppler to find the heartbeat (which it surprisingly did!!)

I am with you at wanting to be done with first trimester. I hope you are both passed your sad marks from your last experiences and onto happy healthy pregnancies this time.

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