Grandparents booking a trip out of town when baby is due

Jeenyus · October 2015

A little bit of a vent today, also wondering how some of you would handle the situation.

My husband and I are expecting our first after 5 years of infertility and multiple losses. I am 38 weeks, but my doctor said Monday that he feels baby could be coming soon due to some symptoms I've been having. We let our parents know the news on Monday, and told them we would let them know as soon as anything happens.

Both my and my husbands parents have been "off" throughout our pregnancy, but we figured this might change when baby arrives. By "off" I mean not a lot of interest, none of the stereotypical buying outfits for their future grandchild or checking in to see how baby is doing. We figured they would be over the moon since this will be the first grandchild for my parents, and the first in town (but third) for my in laws, but understood that they are probably being cautious due to our history.

Yesterday, my in laws told my husband that they will be booking flights to go visit with his brother and their children out of town. The plan to leave this weekend and return next, and said they just felt like getting away to go visit since they haven't been there in a few months. They will be getting back a few days before our official "due date". When they told him, my husband reminded them that the doctor thinks baby is coming any day, and that they are risking missing the birth of his first child. They seem pretty sure that baby is coming late, and booked their flights anyways.

I know it's their decision, but I can't help but feel sad for my husband. Things may very well work out and baby may come later, but I can tell it hurts his feelings that his parents would book a last minute, just-because trip so close to baby's due date.

Anyone else surprised at the reactions from their parents? Or have their parents decide to go on vacation when baby is due?

PetitNightingale · October 2015

First, I am very sorry for your losses. I do not have a lot of good advice for you but I can say I understand the hurt feelings of one's parents not being entirely involved in this very special process. The regulars should be here soon. Good luck.

Elyse1384 · October 2015

Don't take this the wrong way, but no one can predict when a baby will be here unless medical intervention is planned for the health and safety of mom, baby or both. I wouldn't expect my folks or DH's folks to stop traveling around the time of my DD; particularly to visit family. I understand it is difficult to not take personally, but maybe they're visiting their other grandchildren now so that they have more time with your LO once the baby is here. The baby won't remember who shows up at the hospital, but he/she will remember who was around for milestones, birthdays, etc.

shellperry · October 2015

Honestly I think it's nice that are giving u space. Also they may not want to add any stress to u. Btw my doctor has been telling me for two weeks I could go anytime. I'm getting induced on the 25, he doesn't think I'll make it that long but they're still cooking. Often for first time mom's you'll go past your due date and have alot of symptoms of labor coming soon. With my first I was 4 cm dilated and 80 % effected from 37 weeks and I still went two weeks past my due date. I'm sure when your child arrives they'll be over the moon about the baby. Also sorry for your previous losses and congratulations on you bundle of joy.

modanz1 · October 2015

I understand how you & your husband are feeling. My MIL was pretty cautious at first, as she was worried about getting excited if something were to happen. (Which ticked me off at the time. Thanks for expecting my body to fail.) She and my mother just got back from a trip to Hawaii and she is planning more travelling in the next 2-3 weeks (I am due in 2.5 weeks). I was a bit taken aback by these plans at first, but to be honest at this point, I don't care. She's not going to be in the delivery room anyways and as much as I love her, if she misses the moment of his birth because she is travelling, that's not really my problem. It's her loss. This child is a gift (we also struggled with infertility) and anyone who wants to be a part of his big moments & his every day moments is welcome to be, but if they have other things going on that are more important, that's fine too. Their problem, not mine.

gumby22c · October 2015

Elyse1384 said:

Don't take this the wrong way, but no one can predict when a baby will be here unless medical intervention is planned for the health and safety of mom, baby or both. I wouldn't expect my folks or DH's folks to stop traveling around the time of my DD; particularly to visit family. I understand it is difficult to not take personally, but maybe they're visiting their other grandchildren now so that they have more time with your LO once the baby is here. The baby won't remember who shows up at the hospital, but he/she will remember who was around for milestones, birthdays, etc.

This is where I am. I live nowhere close to my ILs or parents, so even if they booked a trip or not they wouldn't be here for the birth. So it wouldn't matter to me. As long as they can be reached to let them know of the birth if it happens while they are gone, that's about all I'd care about.

Lolo427 · October 2015

Jeenyus said:
A little bit of a vent today, also wondering how some of you would handle the situation.

My husband and I are expecting our first after 5 years of infertility and multiple losses. I am 38 weeks, but my doctor said Monday that he feels baby could be coming soon due to some symptoms I've been having. We let our parents know the news on Monday, and told them we would let them know as soon as anything happens.

Both my and my husbands parents have been "off" throughout our pregnancy, but we figured this might change when baby arrives. By "off" I mean not a lot of interest, none of the stereotypical buying outfits for their future grandchild or checking in to see how baby is doing. We figured they would be over the moon since this will be the first grandchild for my parents, and the first in town (but third) for my in laws, but understood that they are probably being cautious due to our history.

Yesterday, my in laws told my husband that they will be booking flights to go visit with his brother and their children out of town. The plan to leave this weekend and return next, and said they just felt like getting away to go visit since they haven't been there in a few months. They will be getting back a few days before our official "due date". When they told him, my husband reminded them that the doctor thinks baby is coming any day, and that they are risking missing the birth of his first child. They seem pretty sure that baby is coming late, and booked their flights anyways.

I know it's their decision, but I can't help but feel sad for my husband. Things may very well work out and baby may come later, but I can tell it hurts his feelings that his parents would book a last minute, just-because trip so close to baby's due date.

Anyone else surprised at the reactions from their parents? Or have their parents decide to go on vacation when baby is due?

So Actually it's interesting for me to hear this. My parents are gone the 24-28th as my dad has a business trip and my mom is going with him. I have cervidil scheduled on the 25th/26th and if need be pitocin on 27th- meaning baby will be here that night. This is the first grandchild for my parents and if anything I find the fact they're out of town relieving. I know I'll be able to do what I need to do on my terms and without an audience and at the end of it be able to focus on just my little family for a day or two while we get situated and have other visitors ( DH family) when we're ready. Perhaps just having ' family' time could be the silver lining if grandparents do happen to be away.

Falchas · October 2015

Hi, I know it is hard not to be hurt, and severely irritated when you see your husband hurting. My in-laws were similar. Not really into the whole pregnancy thing. They came to visit a few weeks after the baby was born (that ended up being fine with me), but when they were with us, showed very little interest in the baby! They just sat there staring at us. We had to actually ask SO's mom if she wanted to hold our son. And she outright refused to do things like change diapers or rock him. At one point she actually told me that when her kids were born, her MIL annoyed her with wanting to help, so she wasn't going to do that to us. Fast forward three years and they are awesome grandparents, they love having our little guy and are great with him. Turns out they really aren't baby people, even with their own grandkid. A fact we didn't know because we had never had a baby before! Once he was up, walking, talking... they just seem to handle him better as a bigger kid. Maybe your in-laws are the same way and feel like giving you space is the best thing they can do for you.

MoRay05 · October 2015

As PP said, no one can predict the birth date. I would look at the bright side of them giving you space. I would love it if my in laws were out of town for the birth. I know that sounds harsh but I don't really want anyone coming up to the hospital. You won't really want people seeing you in that state and you will be worn out.

CarrieOct15 · October 2015

I WISH my in-laws would fly out of town for a while, because they are a huge PITA.

That's just me, though. I do understand your irritation, and I think your feelings are definitely valid. Everyone reacts to pregnancy differently, though. Some people are over the moon excited, and others are more reserved. Doesn't necessarily mean they love the baby any less than those who are more outward with their excitement. I hope things change once the baby is actually here. I mean, who can resist a ridiculously adorable baby?!

apritch88 · October 2015

My mother went through this with her parents. She said it was one of the big dissapointments in her life- that her parents weren't interested in being involved in me and my sister's life. They still sent Christmas presents and birthday cards and such, but we lived 6 hours away and saw them MAYBE once a year, much less in the later years.

I don't think she ever really got over the dissapointment. As a result, she is very involved in my DDs life.

I think you just have to have the mentality that this is your baby, you had it for you- not for them. It would be nice if they wanted to be involved and doting, but the simple fact is that not everyone has that desire. Some grandparents feel like they raised their kids and it's time for them to enjoy being by themselves again and doing all the things they couldn't do when they had kids around.

I would be willing to bet once baby starts showing it's personality and being a little more interactive they won't be able to stay away

VexedMommy · October 2015

My mother was potentially going out of town the weekend before my due date. I was annoyed because she has agreed to keep my DD while I'm in the hospital. If it weren't for that, I'd probably be ok with it.

MargaretC5 · October 2015

Both my grandmother's did not care when DS was born. He was the first great grandchild for both of them. I still tried to make an effort. They live a days drive away so I offered to come visit them with DS when he was 2 months old. Both said they would love to see him. My dad's mom then called back a week later and said she was not feeling well so we better not come (the planned trip was still a month away). She still has not met DS and he is 2.
My mom's mom we did visit, but she ignored DS the whole time. She would only hold him when we were taking pictures.
My grandmothers did the same type of stuff when I was a kid. Yes it hurts buy honestly it is just what we expect from them now.
I hope your IL come around and booked the trip truly thinking it was not a problem and they would be back before baby. From dealing with my grandmothers growing up (never really showed interest in myself or my sister and would often forget our birthdays or other events), if they do continue to be "off" it will probably be more hurtful to your H then you LO. As a kid I did not know anything different so it did not bother me that my grandmothers were absent.

Jeenyus · October 2015

Sounds like it's a pretty common occurrence based on everyone's experiences . . it's hard not to feel a bit disappointed when you see other grandparents practically suffocating the new parents/baby by trying to be overly present. But then again, that would be an entirely different issue that I'm sure all too many of you are familiar with!

I told hubby that on the bright side, we would have a bit of space once baby gets here if they do happen to miss her birth. And like some of you said, it's their decision to go, and if they miss the first few days that's on them.

I forgot to mention that when my brother in laws children were due, they actually flew down there the week before the due date, and my MIL stayed until two weeks post partum. Then again, that was for their first and second grandchild, at this point a third grandchild may not be as exciting until they actually arrive.

Jeenyus · October 2015

shellperry said:

Honestly I think it's nice that are giving u space. Also they may not want to add any stress to u. Btw my doctor has been telling me for two weeks I could go anytime. I'm getting induced on the 25, he doesn't think I'll make it that long but they're still cooking. Often for first time mom's you'll go past your due date and have alot of symptoms of labor coming soon. With my first I was 4 cm dilated and 80 % effected from 37 weeks and I still went two weeks past my due date. I'm sure when your child arrives they'll be over the moon about the baby. Also sorry for your previous losses and congratulations on you bundle of joy.

That's pretty much my situation, dilation/effacement with lots of contractions for 1-3 hours every day or so. The doctor told me that it could mean baby will show up a bit early, but that sometimes they like to stick around past their due date. Pretty much your situation exactly . . . whenever she's ready to arrive I'm ready!

shellperry · October 2015

Jeenyus said:

shellperry said:

Honestly I think it's nice that are giving u space. Also they may not want to add any stress to u. Btw my doctor has been telling me for two weeks I could go anytime. I'm getting induced on the 25, he doesn't think I'll make it that long but they're still cooking. Often for first time mom's you'll go past your due date and have alot of symptoms of labor coming soon. With my first I was 4 cm dilated and 80 % effected from 37 weeks and I still went two weeks past my due date. I'm sure when your child arrives they'll be over the moon about the baby. Also sorry for your previous losses and congratulations on you bundle of joy.

That's pretty much my situation, dilation/effacement with lots of contractions for 1-3 hours every day or so. The doctor told me that it could mean baby will show up a bit early, but that sometimes they like to stick around past their due date. Pretty much your situation exactly . . . whenever she's ready to arrive I'm ready!

Good luck! You and DH are the only ones who need to be ready. And when she gets here your going want her all to your self! At least the first few days lol

flas · October 2015

thegoudalife said:
Can I ask you a question: why are you associating them going out of town as not wanting to be involved with their grandchild? Their physical presence doesn't mean they love the baby more than if they weren't there.

My ILs live far away and neither of them checked up on me much. There was the occasional check in and updating but they weren't breathing down my neck.

When you mention their lack of purchasing baby items, it's highly likely that because of your history, they want to wait until the baby is here. Also, material things aren't a measure of love.

I understand your hurt, especially for your DH but try not to read too much into it. No one will truly ever be as excited for your child as you and their lives still go on as normal. Its a little silly to expect them to avoid travel/plans around your due date. They still have to live their lives, you know?

Think of it this way: you will have plenty of uninterrupted bonding time with your babe.

^^^This

Neither my family or DH's family go ga ga over my pregnancies. I'm used to it now. Also I would never expect everyone to pu things on hold just "in car" my baby arrived early. Sounds to me like they might be trying to get some time in with other family before this addition arrives. I find it funny that in being on these boards people complain if their inlaws are too involved or complain that their inlaws are not involved enough, generally speaking.

grapesoda1111 · October 2015

PP's have said it all. I'm sorry they don't seem more excited for you. I think most importantly, you will have uninterrupted time for bonding and that is the best gift any in law can give you IMO. Stay positive mama.

katiedhunter · October 2015

I just want to put my two cents in here, no one, not even your doctor can tell you when your baby is coming. Unless it's a scheduled procedure, even then sometimes that can change. I wouldn't stress they'll probably be back before you have LO and if they aren't just enjoy your time as your own little family.

Jeenyus · October 2015

I don't expect them to purchase things for baby at all, it's just a different experience vs. what friends and family have had with their first child. When friends have had children, I've seen their parents go overboard with the involvement/excitement/picking up little (and sometimes big) things for their future grandchild. I don't expect others to finance our child, and we have purchased all baby related items/financed infertility treatments from our own funds - as it should be. I didn't give it as an example meaning that I associate love=material items, but as one of several indicators that were just unexpected based on my observations of other first time grandparents.

I understand there are others who have nobody involved, are doing this on their own, have deceased/absent parents. I in no way meant to discredit their experiences. I have a father who has chosen to have absolutely no involvement with me from birth, and I expected that he would want to have nothing to do with this grandchild - and he hasn't, as expected.

In this case, the grandparents were very excited and supportive during the trying to conceive process, and excited for their first grandchild. Once the pregnancy stuck was when the disassociation began. My husband and I formed expectations based on our previous observations, one of which was his parents going out of their way to spend time with his brother and be present for the birth of their children. Which is why them deciding to travel so close to the birth of our child was a bit puzzling, and yes, I can tell that it does hurt my husbands feelings.

It's not the end of the world, there are far worse things that could happen, and I understand that.

thegoudalife said:

Can I ask you a question: why are you associating them going out of town as not wanting to be involved with their grandchild? Their physical presence doesn't mean they love the baby more than if they weren't there. My ILs live far away and neither of them checked up on me much. There was the occasional check in and updating but they weren't breathing down my neck. When you mention their lack of purchasing baby items, it's highly likely that because of your history, they want to wait until the baby is here. Also, material things aren't a measure of love. I understand your hurt, especially for your DH but try not to read too much into it. No one will truly ever be as excited for your child as you and their lives still go on as normal. Its a little silly to expect them to avoid travel/plans around your due date. They still have to live their lives, you know? Think of it this way: you will have plenty of uninterrupted bonding time with your babe.

Jeenyus · October 2015

I suppose they wouldn't really be reason to complain about if their involvement was a perfect balance between, too much and too little You say you are used to this from your parents/in-laws now, and now that we know this is what to expect, we will get used to it as well. Grandparent involvement seems to exist along a continuum, and I suppose we have no way of knowing how our parents will react to a new grandchild until they actually arrive.

flas said:

Can I ask you a question: why are you associating them going out of town as not wanting to be involved with their grandchild? Their physical presence doesn't mean they love the baby more than if they weren't there. My ILs live far away and neither of them checked up on me much. There was the occasional check in and updating but they weren't breathing down my neck. When you mention their lack of purchasing baby items, it's highly likely that because of your history, they want to wait until the baby is here. Also, material things aren't a measure of love. I understand your hurt, especially for your DH but try not to read too much into it. No one will truly ever be as excited for your child as you and their lives still go on as normal. Its a little silly to expect them to avoid travel/plans around your due date. They still have to live their lives, you know? Think of it this way: you will have plenty of uninterrupted bonding time with your babe.
^^^This Neither my family or DH's family go ga ga over my pregnancies. I'm used to it now. Also I would never expect everyone to pu things on hold just "in car" my baby arrived early. Sounds to me like they might be trying to get some time in with other family before this addition arrives. I find it funny that in being on these boards people complain if their inlaws are too involved or complain that their inlaws are not involved enough, generally speaking.

flas · October 2015

Oh man I had so many typos! Btw OP did you mention that they would be back right around due date? Could be they just are thinking they have plenty of time to get in a visit.

ashleywuli · October 2015

Personally I'd be thrilled to have alone time with my LO! I mean you won't have to share that time with any of them. Maybe I'm selfish, but that's what I'd be thinking. I am sure once baby gets there they will be all over you and annoying the heck out of you.

maiatene · October 2015

I think you are taking it too personally. Not everyone gets excited about babies until they are physically here and even then once they are a little older than newborn so they can interact with them, and like me some people are superstitious about buying things for baby before they are born. That doesn't mean they are any less excited, they just show it differently. You can't expect them to behave like "typical grands" because clearly they aren't and doing so will set you up for lots of disappointment.... kinda like what you're feeling now. Did your husband actually say the words "I want you there" to his parents or is he playing coy? Just to give you another perspective - both my sister and I were pregnant at the same time in 2012 with our first children and the first grandchildren for both my mum and dad. My mum lives in Florida so she wasn't here in NYC for either shower or birth. My sister was upset because these were the first grands and our Mum should've moved mountains to be there. I on the other hand didn't mind because a) I wanted the space to get to know my baby b) my mum had 3 kids so she knows what it's like and c) I skyped with her as soon as I got to the post natal floor and every day after that until she made it up the following February (and she came empty handed lol). With my sister I think she was more upset with my mum not coming to help those first few days so she could rest/do other things and less about her not meeting the kids immediately. All that to say - the grands will meet baby just not necessarily on your timetable and that's not necessarily a bad thing. It shouldn't hurt the relationship but if it does that's because there a bigger underlying issues that have nothing to do with baby. I would just keep moving forward and try to not hold a grudge when they finally do meet.

NovemberSno · October 2015

I think for you it might be nice to have that space but that being said it doesn't change the fact that those are your husbands parents and he may be hurting. My only advice for you would be to give him only positive words. No bashing his parents or saying they don't care etc. I'm sure he's already feeling bad enough as it is. I know you're probably not but just be super supportive of thier trip even if you don't agree. They're going to go whether you all like it or not so just don't make him feel any worst than he already does. I think what PP said about going now to spend more time with your LO once he gets here, or nobody really knows when LO will arrive are some great things you can tell your DH to comfort him. Sometimes even when guys look like they don't care they do, so if he's expressed his hurt to you it's probably worst than you may think.

Pontot31 · October 2015

I wish my ILs would be on vacation when the baby is born

When my SIL was induced they got to the halo oral before her!
We didn't tell them when I was being induced with my daughter. It's a good thing because they started at 6am Friday and she wasn't born until 1:45am
Sunday! We called them on Saturday around noon when I was 7cm thinking by that night I would have a baby. Not so much. They still drove the 3.5 hours immediately but we told them they had to go to our house and wait.

They mean so well but I like my space, especially with a new baby.

I bet they come around once your LO is here.

kwaldy · October 2015

Like many others have said, I WISH my ILs would plan to go out of town around my due date. One of my biggest fears is being smothered by them....

However, both you and your husband are justified in how you feel. It could very well be that they intend to give you some space when your LO is born. Or, (pardon me making inferences here) it seems like they live rather close to you, and they assume that they will have a lot of chances to spend time with baby, whereas they don't have the opportunity as often with the other grandchildren. Timing may suck, absolutely. But try not to take the way that they have been acting throughout your pregnancy personally. They probably don't realize that they are and have been hurting your feelings.

This turned into a ramble and I forgot my point...
Anyways, good luck and have a safe delivery, when the time is right! If your in-laws are out of town, they'll meet your LO when they come back. I can pretty much guarantee that

helsbels222 · October 2015

I don't see what the big deal is. Could be they just think they will be back before the baby arrives. It also sounds like they are planning on staying near you for a while after the baby is born and that's why the last minute trip to visit your BIL. Maybe they're not sure when they will have an opportunity to go see them before the holidays because you will need them.

mrsaragon · October 2015

I'm sorry you feel like they're not caring too much, but at least they aren't smothering you. People show they care in different ways. At least if they do miss it, you'll have time alone with baby before they get back. Me on the other hand, will have 11 people total staying in my house when DS is born. Husbands military, so we're 20 hours away from home. First grandson. I will be totally jealous of you or anyone gets ANY amount of alone time to say the least lol

Shelbyville30 · October 2015

My parents will also be out of town for my EDD. FTM here, Due on 11/28. Every year they go to Florida for Thanksgiving. Most years we go down with them. From my POV, I don't expect them to rearrange their lives for my delivery... Especially when there isn't a guarantee that that's when baby will be here. In addition, I really only want my husband present, so it just may work itself out.

If the little nugget comes while they are away, they'll be up as soon as they're back to meet their grandchild

All that said, I know all relationships/situations are different! Hope everyone's advice eases your mind a bit. Just think, once your little one arrives, everyone else will probably fade into the background anyways! If you have some time alone with your husband and baby, enjoy the moment! Best of luck

smnewby · October 2015

apritch88 said:
My mother went through this with her parents. She said it was one of the big dissapointments in her life- that her parents weren't interested in being involved in me and my sister's life. They still sent Christmas presents and birthday cards and such, but we lived 6 hours away and saw them MAYBE once a year, much less in the later years.

I don't think she ever really got over the dissapointment. As a result, she is very involved in my DDs life.

I think you just have to have the mentality that this is your baby, you had it for you- not for them. It would be nice if they wanted to be involved and doting, but the simple fact is that not everyone has that desire. Some grandparents feel like they raised their kids and it's time for them to enjoy being by themselves again and doing all the things they couldn't do when they had kids around.

I would be willing to bet once baby starts showing it's personality and being a little more interactive they won't be able to stay away

My parents have never really been involved in my adult life, not in a bad way just kind of is what it is. For me however my parents are flying out a week before my due date (they live over 2000miles away) and have contingency plans for an emergency flight if I go into labor early. I couldnt figure out why on earth they care about being there for our daughters birth but my mom shared that her parents were very aloof when I was born, didnt come visit for a while, and weren't outwardly really excited for her during her pregnancy. I think that had a huge influence on why my parents are being so abnormally supportive.

My point is that maybe their (your parents) actions are a reflection of their past experiences and arent meant as a personal slight. Based on how you feel when its your turn to be a grandparent I am sure you will be very sensetive and act differently than your parents.

japostolova · October 2015

Welcome to life with a child! In my experience there have been plenty of surprises and disappointments! My family did not come down for the birth of their 1st grandkid and will not be here for the birth of #2. If it was me I'd want to be there but they all have other things going on and expect me, my husband and soon to be 2 kids to fly up there during Christmas instead. In fact, we definitely take more trips up there to visit than vice versa. Both sets of grandparents also insisted they would love to babysit DS 1 anytime. Well, as soon as he was born the grandparents got amnesia ( 1st grandchild on both sides). Not that they don't love him, they just love when he visits with his parents. Right now I'm feeling the lack of support more than ever before since I'm 9 months pregnant, watching a toddler, cleaning, packing and moving into our new house. Sure we can use some help but at this point I don't expect it anymore. Sorry for the rant, I guess my message is you ll have a picture or idea of how family members will react, help or support you. Sometimes their version of that love & support is totally different than expected/ imagined.

Jeenyus · October 2015

Thanks for taking the time to write such thoughtful responses everyone . . . this is why I love this board, it's nice to get different perspectives and not get so stuck in a particular mindset. In this case, it's managing our expectations with reality, and knowing that just because I/we would do things a particular way, it doesn't mean that others feel the same way (or that they care any less). Counting down the days here, regardless of who is around when baby decides to arrive we will be so happy to finally meet her!

flas · October 2015

Jeenyus said:
Thanks for taking the time to write such thoughtful responses everyone . . . this is why I love this board, it's nice to get different perspectives and not get so stuck in a particular mindset. In this case, it's managing our expectations with reality, and knowing that just because I/we would do things a particular way, it doesn't mean that others feel the same way (or that they care any less). Counting down the days here, regardless of who is around when baby decides to arrive we will be so happy to finally meet her!

That is a great way to look at it OP. Keeping a positive attitude is so important in these last few days/weeks.

joforyoga · October 2015

Yes! Lastnight muni laws told my headband that they booked last inure flights to go visit distant family. Theybarenleaving tomorrow and arriving back on my due date which is this Tueaday. I have had quite a bit of monitoring for early contractions and just had a stretch and sweep as well to speed things along. He reminded them that it could happen this weekend. He is acting like he doesn't care but I felt a bit bad for him. Mainly becausey family is completely obsessive about getting "the call" and I will barely be able to keep my mom and sister out of the delivery room! They are smothering us with all the love so Ibguess Inwas just surprised that his parents didn't think it would be a big deal. However, I'm staying out of it. He can deal with his parents if it bothers him and there isn't really anything I can do to change it.

frasch21 · October 2015

My dad has meetings out of state this weekend so my parents left this morning and won't get back until next Wednesday. I'm due the 8th. They want to be here for the birth so they are really hoping my little guy waits, but they are prepared to catch an earlier flight home if needed. I hope he at least waits until Sunday so if they do have to cut it short it's only a few days. Of course I've been having contractions last night and today, but they haven't been regular.

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