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Quick hello & partial update

thistle8677thistle8677 member
in TTC after 35
Hello ladies,
I have been totally MIA for a couple of weeks. I'm facing the reality that I'm gonna be benched for awhile. At this time I don't know how long.
My fiancé has been diagnosed with Hashimoto's Thyroiditis, low vit d, and very low testosterone. (He's 29 and he's got a T level of a 70 year old)
We think this is a side effect of the Hashimoto's, although we have yet to see an endocrinologist.
Tomorrow we see his PCP and then I'm assuming the referrals and additional testing will begin.

It's been really heart breaking, not gonna lie.
I'm taking it day by day worrying about his health and starting to accept that we are not actively TTC. These 15mo. of trying have been quite a ride. We've suffered 3 losses since we got together and I've done every test and procedure on my end to rule out my body as a reason for this (secondary for me?) infertility, and now it's his turn.
I just feel bad and I see the hurt and confusion this is causing him. I'd rather it was me.

I may lurk here and there and I'm always rooting you ALL on. @CarrieandRoy will most likely keep me posted on any BFP's I miss!
And thank you @Sporty1216 for your pm, I did finally respond to you once I realized I had a message!

Thinking of you all. The hardest part is feeling like I don't belong to a board right now. I'm just gonna spend some time putting my energy into myself and my family. I do have faith that my time will come, it's just on hold.
Xo
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  • agriffin92013agriffin92013 member
    You and your fiance are in my thoughts and prayers
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  • PiperellaPiperella member
    I'm so sorry to hear that you are most likely benched for awhile.  I still totally want you as involved as you feel comfortable with on this board!!!  All of your DH's medical issues have got to be hard on him.  He's lucky to have such a supportive wife!  My husband found out he has high cholesterol after putting off a pcp visit for 5 years and he was walking around the grocery store today like he was in a funeral procession.  

    I'm hoping that some specialists will give you both a clearer path to getting back to TTC.  I'm hoping it will happen sooner than later for you all.  You've been through soo many ups and downs, and I hope you keep us updated.  Thinking about you and your husband and hoping for for a healthy future for the both of you.
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  • emsmama15emsmama15 member
    @thistle8677, I'm so sorry!!  Please stick around.  We'll miss you too much if you leave us completely.  But only if it's easy for you to do so.  I'll be praying for you both.
    *** Child & current pregnancy mentioned ***
    Me - 41 (PCOS), Hubby - 43 (healthy)
    7/2013 - Sweet baby girl born (Clomid + TI)
    3/2014 - TTC #2, return to RE 7/2014
    12/2015: IVF #1 transferred two great looking embryos - BFP!
    First ultrasound: TWO beautiful little heartbeats!!
    Harmony: negative; level 2: babies look great and are boy/girl! :) 
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  • jilligan14jilligan14 member
    Oh, I'm so sorry to hear about all of this. What a lot to take in. It must be so frustrating to put TTC on hold after so many months of trying, to deal with all these health issues and to watch your poor dear one's heart break over all of this. I really wish this was easier for you guys. I hope you guys find some answers and some solutions soon. You are always welcome here - we are pretty lax on the rules and we adore you!!! Sending you lots of hugs and warm wishes. Best of luck on this journey...
    ME: 36 (PCOS), DH: excellent SA
    NTNP since 11/12, actively trying since 8/14
    m/c @ 7w (4/22/14), m/c @ 6w (11/19/14)
    11/15: Letrozole, Ovidrel, TI = BFP!!!
    Beta #1(14dpo)=349, Beta #2(18dpo)=2,805
    12/17/15: Got to see the heartbeat (105bpm)!
    1/25/16: NT scan = normal (HB=163bpm)
    EDD: 8/10/16 
    8/8/16: Baby boy born @ 12:25am, 8lbs, 20.5 inches
    5/18/17: BFP!!! (11dpo)
    Beta #1(12dpo)=176.4, Beta #2(15dpo)=607.1
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  • PattersRNPattersRN member
    Awwww....I've been wondering where my Portland buddy was! Thanks for updating and I'm so sorry for all of the curveballs you guys are getting. I'll be sending you positive thoughts. Hang in there, although it sounds like the ride is rough, it also sounds like you're on a good path!
    Married: 7/9/15
    Me: 37, DH: 36
    Started TTC #1: 9/2015
    Preliminary labs/testing @ 6 months: TSH, A1c, progesterone, prolactin, SA, HSG all normal
    BFP: 5/19/2016, M/C: 5/29/2016
    BFP: 6/22/2016  EDD 3//6/2017

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  • daisy62103daisy62103 member
    So sorry to hear things are so rough. Hopefully you'll be back really soon. 
    DD 6/2007
    DS 4/2009
    m/c 11/12/2010 ~ 7 wks
    m/c 7/4/2012 ~ 6 wks
    DD 12/2013
    mmc Baby Girl 7/12/2015 ~ 14 weeks  <3
    Twin girls! 8/26/2017


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  • 1inthehopper1inthehopper member
    Prayers for you
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  • Whiggrrl65Whiggrrl65 member
    Glad you checked in with us. Been wondering how you are doing. Take care of you and your DH.
      • TTC #1 since August 2014
      • currently on 5th medicated IUI cycle
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  • Sporty1216Sporty1216 member
    I'm so sorry to hear all of this. But what an amazing fiancée you are to be so supportive and understanding of how your guy is taking all of this. It sounds like you two have faced a lot together and it sounds like it is making you stronger, which is so admirable. Like the others said, though, i wish it was easier for you both.

    I hope you'll allow us to continue to be community for you if that would feel helpful. Whatever you decide, know that you two will be in my thoughts and prayers as you figure out next steps.

    Take good care.

    Ps--thanks for the pm back. I didn't know it was there! I'm almost always mobile and there's no indicator. Alas.
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  • carrieandrcarrieandr member
    @thistle8677, I will let you know of any BFP's. (Dibs on the next one!) 

    Being benched is hard, and it makes sense to take a step back from the board to take your focus off of all this for a while.  Jump back in whenever you need support, but you know you've got me by email in the meantime.
    TTC#1 since Jan 2015
    BFP 2/19/15  •  MMC found at 9 wks  •  D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
    BFP 8/29/15      •  CP (age 37)
    BFP 11/18/15  •  DD born at 41 weeks <3(age 37/38)

    TTC#2 since May 2017
    BFP 10/18/17  •  MMC found at 8 wks  •  Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)
    BFP 2/16/18      •  CP (age 39)
    BFP 4/13/18      •  CP (age 39)
    BFP 5/07/18  •  MMC found at 10.5 wks  •  D&E at 11.5 wks      •  Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
    9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)
    RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.
    BFP 9/24/18  •      CP (age 40)
    BFP 5/11/19  •  Fraternal twins  •  MMC found at 10w5d (Baby A 6w, Baby B 10w)  •  Misoprostal at 11 weeks (age 41)













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  • rspalding001rspalding001 member
    Im so sorry. As someone who has recently come off being benched I know how frustrating it can be. Use the time to your best advantage. Enjoy wine and caffine to your hearts content ;) the time will fly by I promise! You'll be back in no time :-)
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  • Infantino22Infantino22 member
    Aww... I'm so sorry, @thistle8677 -- I hope you'll visit here despite the break in TTC. I'm looking forward to hearing some good news and welcoming you back full time soon. I'll be thinking of you in the meantime!
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  • KLake42KLake42 member
    I'm so sorry that you all are dealing with this.

    And also, it's good that it was caught, so your fiance can get evaluated and treated.  I understand that it is treatable, but some people go a long time undiagnosed.  I hope his doctors are able to find out exactly what's happening with his body, and get his hormones and thyroid stabilized.

    Good thoughts for you.
    Me- 39 (turning 40 in April), TTC for the first time ever (since Jan 2015), low ovarian reserve
    Married 3/14/14 to my wonderful wife, but her sperm count is rather low
    TTC with frozen donor sperm and science

    7 IUIs, 7 BFNs.
    2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs.
    Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire.
    Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus!  
    fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP! 
    Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)

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  • carrieandrcarrieandr member
    edited October 2015
    thistle8677 said:
     @carrieandroy girl, you know it's true.

    When I read this, I heard Milli Vanilli sing "ooh, ooh, ooh, I love you"  :D
    TTC#1 since Jan 2015
    BFP 2/19/15  •  MMC found at 9 wks  •  D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
    BFP 8/29/15      •  CP (age 37)
    BFP 11/18/15  •  DD born at 41 weeks <3(age 37/38)

    TTC#2 since May 2017
    BFP 10/18/17  •  MMC found at 8 wks  •  Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)
    BFP 2/16/18      •  CP (age 39)
    BFP 4/13/18      •  CP (age 39)
    BFP 5/07/18  •  MMC found at 10.5 wks  •  D&E at 11.5 wks      •  Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
    9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)
    RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.
    BFP 9/24/18  •      CP (age 40)
    BFP 5/11/19  •  Fraternal twins  •  MMC found at 10w5d (Baby A 6w, Baby B 10w)  •  Misoprostal at 11 weeks (age 41)













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  • thistle8677thistle8677 member
    @CarrieandRoy exactly!
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  • amimhofamimhof member
    @thistle8677 - I love  that picture, it's hilarious!  I actually heard that song on the radio the other day too, made me laugh.

    On a serious note, wishing you and fiance the best. 
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