praying I don't miscarry again

SarahMike2014 · October 2015

My husband and I found out I was pregnant in April this year, and by June I was no longer pregnant. I'm so nervous it's gonna happen again that I'm not allowing myself to be excited about this pregnancy (in at 5wks now). Anyone else ever had this happen and how did you cope?

MsBeachNJ · October 2015

I haven't had that experience but I just wanted to say that I'm sorry for your loss & hope all goes well for a happy & healthy 9 months this time!

WinchestertoPittsburgh · October 2015

I'm right there with you. I have had two MC's almost back to back this year and I feel like I can't even enjoy this pregnancy yet. I'm always scared, anxious, etc... and I honestly haven't been able to just relax and think or talk about the baby yet.

To help, I have *goal dates* set up so that I can almost check them off as successes. First was passing the amount of time that I was pregnant with the last MC, next will be passing the time that I was pregnant for the first, then the next one is my first U/S, and so forth. It helps give me something to look forward to.

candicek15 · October 2015

Honestly, I've been telling myself "maybe" for everything. I'm a crazy planner and last time I went ballistic and had it all planned out in my head by like, day 3 of knowing I was pregnant. It was devastating when I learned I was going to miscarry. All of my hopes and expectations and plans just disappeared. This time I think of things I like to do or how far along at certain points in time I'll be and then I think, "maybe." It may sound pessimistic but I can't handle the build up and let down again. I'd rather try and be as realistic as possible and then continue to be pleasantly surprised at each good time point. Worked for me so far (8 weeks).

Also, like @WinchestertoPittsburgh said, having time points to look forward to is helpful too. Last time we found out at the 8 week US that baby wasn't big enough so I knew from then on that it was more likely that things would go poorly. This time I am waiting for the 8 week US (this afternoon!). I feel like once I have the information from that then I'll have a better idea of what's going on. Then I'll keep my eye on the 12 week NT scan US, etc.

I know it's so hard, but there's nothing we can do if things go badly, so we just have to hang in there! FX that all goes well for all of us PGAL ladies!

megpass11 · October 2015

Hey I'm in the same boat. Found out in April and lost baby at 9 weeks. I'm so anxious i can't enjoy this .

went for Hcg bloodwork today , waiting for results so I can set up ultrasound appointment. So nervous!

SarahMike2014 · October 2015

It's nice to know I'm not alone in front line this. Thanks guys!

NicknShan · October 2015

Sending hugs!! I am sorry you ever had to go through a loss, and I am praying for a healthy 9 months!

VikingGirl12 · October 2015

Sending thoughts and prayers!

GoMommy · October 2015

I have had 5 losses. Not getting excited does not make it hurt less. Enjoy every moment you are pregnant. I am not saying i am not scare bc i am terrified but try to enjoy the time you can

Saracp78 · October 2015

I also sorry for all of you who have had losses. I can only imagine how painful that was/is.

I think @GoMommy has a good point. My last pregnancy I told myself every day "I am pregnant today". Though I admit I have had no losses... Thoughts and prayers to all of you for a healthy and happy 9 months!

dee300i · October 2015

I've had losses but I also have two little girls so it's possible.Try and Stay positive ( I know that's not easy) sending thoughts and prayers to you I'm sorry that you having to go through this.

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