Here's an example. I JUST got this text from my boyfriends mom today. And I meant named not names*
Your boyfriends mother's name is "Rabecca" and she is hassling you over names? Yeah, tell her to shove it where the sun doesn't shine. Nobody has any right to be that nasty about what you're naming your own kid. Tell her to pop another one out of her own vag if she wants to name another kid that bad.
Honestly, I totally left both families out of the naming process. Told them that we conceived the baby, we're naming him what we want, then didn't tell anyone the name until very recently. It drove them crazy not being part of the process and having to keep their opinions to themselves but they're still alive and surviving so it must not have been that hard on them.
Why are we using "offensive" when we should be using "racist"? I'm not offended, I'm disgusted.
And why are people giving this racist POS post the time of day to comment on Trevin?
This is the toe jam, bottom-feeder post of the board. I feel like I'm reading the comments on a Fox News article on President Obama's birth certificate. Just waiting for the Hitler comments. WTAF.
I don't think this is a real post anyway... I can't stop laughing at either of your names because they are so ridiculous and your racist comments are just disgusting.
We need to be examples for our children. If you accept family members that are racist what does that say to them? The fact that they are family is not an excuse.
Okay, how are you going to ask people why they post comments on here, giving me the time of day when you yourself just did the same damn thing they did.
Secondly, I'm not racist. My family is though they claim their not.
Also, yeah we told his mom to keep her opinions about the names to herself, since she named his little sister Ireland. And she had a stillborn son she named "Drakeoff".
And since I'm apparently the resist piece of shit, guess that must explain why I didn't disown my mixed cousin, and why I have black friends. I've even dated a black guy before for my whole freshman year behind my families back. They caught us together and he realized how judgmental they are, so he left me. But I'm totally a racist. Lmao. Y'all don't even know me!! So try again please. Cause if anyone is being disgusting on this post, it sure as hell isn't me. I just don't want my family picking on my kid. And like I said before, whether or not i leave them out of the naming process, won't stop them from making fun of my kids name after he or she is born. If you don't like this post or anything said on it, don't comment. Point blank period. I only made it to get advise. But not negative advice. Name suggestions, links to websites I haven't looked at, any of that would do perfectly fine. Yes some of you have given me name suggestions, just don't do it then talk shit about me for not wanting my kids name made fun of its while life.
Okay, how are you going to ask people why they post comments on here, giving me the time of day when you yourself just did the same damn thing they did.
Secondly, I'm not racist. My family is though they claim their not.
Also, yeah we told his mom to keep her opinions about the names to herself, since she named his little sister Ireland. And she had a stillborn son she named "Drakeoff".
And since I'm apparently the resist piece of shit, guess that must explain why I didn't disown my mixed cousin, and why I have black friends. I've even dated a black guy before for my whole freshman year behind my families back. They caught us together and he realized how judgmental they are, so he left me. But I'm totally a racist. Lmao. Y'all don't even know me!! So try again please. Cause if anyone is being disgusting on this post, it sure as hell isn't me. I just don't want my family picking on my kid. And like I said before, whether or not i leave them out of the naming process, won't stop them from making fun of my kids name after he or she is born. If you don't like this post or anything said on it, don't comment. Point blank period. I only made it to get advise. But not negative advice. Name suggestions, links to websites I haven't looked at, any of that would do perfectly fine. Yes some of you have given me name suggestions, just don't do it then talk shit about me for not wanting my kids name made fun of its while life.
Perhaps you could have avoided all of these comments if you left the "is this a black boy name? Because I can't name my kid a black boy name" spiel out of your question and just said, "hey, are these made-up names bad?" and we would have all just said, "why yes, yes they are." Sorry, but you are the one that invited us in to your incredibly "not-racist" family.
If you want some honest opinion, the name is almost irrelevant in this conversation. To accomodate a name based on what they would make fun of is just enabling them. From a parenting and sociological perspective, I would be thinking far more seriously about the long term influence of your family on your child's upbringing and views of things like culture and race.
Seriously this. If your family is racist pieces of crap, it's your job as a parent to keep them away from her, irrespective of your name choice.
So basically, if you want to know if your family will think a name is race-identified, them perhaps you should ask THEM. Because we can't tell you what crazy people will think.
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I'm so sorry that I don't want my family or friends hasseling me over what I name my son or daughter the rest of mine or my child's life. My family is even crewl enough to make fun of my kid if it has a name they don't approve of. My WHITE aunt slept with a black guy, had a mixed baby and she put it up for adoption because my family claimed they'd disown the baby because its mixed, and when my cousin found my aunt when he was 20, most of my family wanted nothing to do with him because he's mixed, and has a "ghetto" spelled name. Whillem. Supposed to be pronounced like William. Actually, I'm not sorry. I don't want my baby going through all that so I try finding something my family is comfortable with. Scuse me
I'm sorry, but if my family threatened to disown my child because of the color of their skin, or their name, I'd tell them where they can shove it and then let them know that when they decide to grow up, I might consider letting my child get to know them.
I apologize if that's rude or crass, but the purpose of a family is to be loving and supportive, not dictate your life choices, because it sounds to me like you're putting yourself and your child in the backseat to what your family does/doesn't approve of. And, quite frankly, if they are willing to threaten to disown a child for such asinine reasons, they don't seem like the kinds of people I'd want around in such an important time of life.
I'm sorry you're going through that, and don't have the positive support you deserve.
The only reason why I asked about the name Reven is because my boyfriend wanted opinions from people who don't know us personally. And yeah, I'm tired of explaining myself over and over again. Quite frankly I don't give a shit if people think I'M racist or not, because I know I'm not. And I threw in the "is it a black name" because that's why apparently no one likes our baby names, because we're white and "why would a white baby have a black name" has been brought up to us multiple times. I wanted people to know what we're going through. And I shouldn't have to keep explaining myself. And my baby can be around my family even if their racist. They'll set the perfect example for me to use for my kid, and I can tell my kid "this isn't how you treat people, see how hurtful they are? Don't be like them" like my older brother was who raised me. I grew up around them and learned as I grew up not to be like that. And hopefully my baby will grow up hating racism as much as I do.
I hope you realize you spelled Revin two different ways .... I realize it is a totally made up name but at least spell it one way if you are going to use it.
Let's be clear: there aren't such things as white names or black names. And your choices aren't names to begin with - never mind associated with a race.
The only reason why I asked about the name Reven is because my boyfriend wanted opinions from people who don't know us personally. And yeah, I'm tired of explaining myself over and over again. Quite frankly I don't give a shit if people think I'M racist or not, because I know I'm not. And I threw in the "is it a black name" because that's why apparently no one likes our baby names, because we're white and "why would a white baby have a black name" has been brought up to us multiple times. I wanted people to know what we're going through. And I shouldn't have to keep explaining myself. And my baby can be around my family even if their racist. They'll set the perfect example for me to use for my kid, and I can tell my kid "this isn't how you treat people, see how hurtful they are? Don't be like them" like my older brother was who raised me. I grew up around them and learned as I grew up not to be like that. And hopefully my baby will grow up hating racism as much as I do.
If you don't 'give a shit' what people think, and you're going to negate what people have offered as advice, why ask for opinions in the first place?
The people you know are right. Trevin and Revin sound made-up and something you wouldn't be shocked to hear if walking through a ghetto. Offensive statement or not, when hearing those names I imagine black/ghetto as well.
ARE YOU EFFING SERIOUS! Seems you have lots of experience walking through ghettos. AndPlusAlso black and ghetto are not interchangeable.
I hope you realize you spelled Revin two different ways .... I realize it is a totally made up name but at least spell it one way if you are going to use it.
My phone kept auto correcting it to even so I gave up and stuck a R at the beginning. My new keyboard I downloaded doesn't have "Revin" saved in the dictionary
The only reason why I asked about the name Reven is because my boyfriend wanted opinions from people who don't know us personally. And yeah, I'm tired of explaining myself over and over again. Quite frankly I don't give a shit if people think I'M racist or not, because I know I'm not. And I threw in the "is it a black name" because that's why apparently no one likes our baby names, because we're white and "why would a white baby have a black name" has been brought up to us multiple times. I wanted people to know what we're going through. And I shouldn't have to keep explaining myself. And my baby can be around my family even if their racist. They'll set the perfect example for me to use for my kid, and I can tell my kid "this isn't how you treat people, see how hurtful they are? Don't be like them" like my older brother was who raised me. I grew up around them and learned as I grew up not to be like that. And hopefully my baby will grow up hating racism as much as I do.
If you don't 'give a shit' what people think, and you're going to negate what people have offered as advice, why ask for opinions in the first place?
Because people don't need to accuse me of being a racist when I'm not. Me telling people what other people were saying about my names we thought about
The only reason why I asked about the name Reven is because my boyfriend wanted opinions from people who don't know us personally. And yeah, I'm tired of explaining myself over and over again. Quite frankly I don't give a shit if people think I'M racist or not, because I know I'm not. And I threw in the "is it a black name" because that's why apparently no one likes our baby names, because we're white and "why would a white baby have a black name" has been brought up to us multiple times. I wanted people to know what we're going through. And I shouldn't have to keep explaining myself. And my baby can be around my family even if their racist. They'll set the perfect example for me to use for my kid, and I can tell my kid "this isn't how you treat people, see how hurtful they are? Don't be like them" like my older brother was who raised me. I grew up around them and learned as I grew up not to be like that. And hopefully my baby will grow up hating racism as much as I do.
If you don't 'give a shit' what people think, and you're going to negate what people have offered as advice, why ask for opinions in the first place?
Because people don't need to accuse me of being a racist when I'm not. Me telling people what other people were saying about my names we thought about
Somehow let me to being a racist, even though my family is the one making the racist remarks.
The only reason why I asked about the name Reven is because my boyfriend wanted opinions from people who don't know us personally. And yeah, I'm tired of explaining myself over and over again. Quite frankly I don't give a shit if people think I'M racist or not, because I know I'm not. And I threw in the "is it a black name" because that's why apparently no one likes our baby names, because we're white and "why would a white baby have a black name" has been brought up to us multiple times. I wanted people to know what we're going through. And I shouldn't have to keep explaining myself. And my baby can be around my family even if their racist. They'll set the perfect example for me to use for my kid, and I can tell my kid "this isn't how you treat people, see how hurtful they are? Don't be like them" like my older brother was who raised me. I grew up around them and learned as I grew up not to be like that. And hopefully my baby will grow up hating racism as much as I do.
If you don't 'give a shit' what people think, and you're going to negate what people have offered as advice, why ask for opinions in the first place?
Because people don't need to accuse me of being a racist when I'm not. Me telling people what other people were saying about my names we thought about
Somehow let me to being a racist, even though my family is the one making the racist remarks.
**it wouldn't let me finish the last reply
Yea your not a racist because you didn't disown your mixed race cousin. Congrats! Where should we mail your award to ?
I hope you realize you spelled Revin two different ways .... I realize it is a totally made up name but at least spell it one way if you are going to use it.
My phone kept auto correcting it to even so I gave up and stuck a R at the beginning. My new keyboard I downloaded doesn't have "Revin" saved in the dictionary
The only reason why I asked about the name Reven is because my boyfriend wanted opinions from people who don't know us personally. And yeah, I'm tired of explaining myself over and over again. Quite frankly I don't give a shit if people think I'M racist or not, because I know I'm not. And I threw in the "is it a black name" because that's why apparently no one likes our baby names, because we're white and "why would a white baby have a black name" has been brought up to us multiple times. I wanted people to know what we're going through. And I shouldn't have to keep explaining myself. And my baby can be around my family even if their racist. They'll set the perfect example for me to use for my kid, and I can tell my kid "this isn't how you treat people, see how hurtful they are? Don't be like them" like my older brother was who raised me. I grew up around them and learned as I grew up not to be like that. And hopefully my baby will grow up hating racism as much as I do.
If you don't 'give a shit' what people think, and you're going to negate what people have offered as advice, why ask for opinions in the first place?
Because people don't need to accuse me of being a racist when I'm not. Me telling people what other people were saying about my names we thought about
Somehow let me to being a racist, even though my family is the one making the racist remarks.
**it wouldn't let me finish the last reply
Yea your not a racist because you didn't disown your mixed race cousin. Congrats! Where should we mail your award to ?
Or because I'm not racist. Where should I mail you award to for being stupid? Like I said I don't give a fuck if y'all think I'm racist or not. You don't even know me
The only reason why I asked about the name Reven is because my boyfriend wanted opinions from people who don't know us personally. And yeah, I'm tired of explaining myself over and over again. Quite frankly I don't give a shit if people think I'M racist or not, because I know I'm not. And I threw in the "is it a black name" because that's why apparently no one likes our baby names, because we're white and "why would a white baby have a black name" has been brought up to us multiple times. I wanted people to know what we're going through. And I shouldn't have to keep explaining myself. And my baby can be around my family even if their racist. They'll set the perfect example for me to use for my kid, and I can tell my kid "this isn't how you treat people, see how hurtful they are? Don't be like them" like my older brother was who raised me. I grew up around them and learned as I grew up not to be like that. And hopefully my baby will grow up hating racism as much as I do.
If you don't 'give a shit' what people think, and you're going to negate what people have offered as advice, why ask for opinions in the first place?
Because people don't need to accuse me of being a racist when I'm not. Me telling people what other people were saying about my names we thought about
Somehow let me to being a racist, even though my family is the one making the racist remarks.
**it wouldn't let me finish the last reply
Yea your not a racist because you didn't disown your mixed race cousin. Congrats! Where should we mail your award to ?
Or because I'm not racist. Where should I mail you award to for being stupid? Like I said I don't give a fuck if y'all think I'm racist or not. You don't even know me
I'm the stupid one ? For real. Think you need to sit back and read all the wonderfully intelligent things you've shared in this thread. Also you can mail my award to 45 Trevin avenue, 64159 can you register it or fedx it's pretty ghetto around these parts I don't want it to get stolen.
Re: Baby boy names
Edited for typo
And why are people giving this racist POS post the time of day to comment on Trevin?
This is the toe jam, bottom-feeder post of the board. I feel like I'm reading the comments on a Fox News article on President Obama's birth certificate. Just waiting for the Hitler comments. WTAF.
Secondly, I'm not racist. My family is though they claim their not.
Also, yeah we told his mom to keep her opinions about the names to herself, since she named his little sister Ireland. And she had a stillborn son she named "Drakeoff".
And since I'm apparently the resist piece of shit, guess that must explain why I didn't disown my mixed cousin, and why I have black friends. I've even dated a black guy before for my whole freshman year behind my families back. They caught us together and he realized how judgmental they are, so he left me. But I'm totally a racist. Lmao. Y'all don't even know me!! So try again please. Cause if anyone is being disgusting on this post, it sure as hell isn't me. I just don't want my family picking on my kid. And like I said before, whether or not i leave them out of the naming process, won't stop them from making fun of my kids name after he or she is born. If you don't like this post or anything said on it, don't comment. Point blank period. I only made it to get advise. But not negative advice. Name suggestions, links to websites I haven't looked at, any of that would do perfectly fine. Yes some of you have given me name suggestions, just don't do it then talk shit about me for not wanting my kids name made fun of its while life.
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So basically, if you want to know if your family will think a name is race-identified, them perhaps you should ask THEM. Because we can't tell you what crazy people will think.
I'm sorry you're going through that, and don't have the positive support you deserve.
The name Leto
Male or female? Please let me know your opinion
Thanks
**it wouldn't let me finish the last reply
I live in the South and I don't have to deal with this much racism. Seriously.
Where should I mail you award to for being stupid?
Like I said I don't give a fuck if y'all think I'm racist or not. You don't even know me
TTC since September 2012
Edit to add- it's your award not you award.