Positivity!

KelseaMW · October 2015

I think we could use some positive reassuring stories in here! I know from experience for us first time moms that reading in these forums can be scary and make us worry rather than feeling excited. I am 28 and right over 7 weeks pregnant with our first baby, my first appointment is in 15 days and I have very few symptoms - really just sore nipples. For some reason I started to convince myself I was supposed to have morning sickness or feel bad because I'm pregnant. I still feel great, lifting 6x a week and sleeping about 9 hours a night. I am also in the fitness industry so I am very healthy and other friends in the industry have told me they felt great, I am wondering if maybe sometimes healthier people have less symptoms? I thought it might be a good idea to hear from mamas who have healthy babies and didn't have these horrid first trimesters we hear about.

cattlebride · October 2015

I was slightly car sick with DD but didn't even feel pregnant until I started to feel her move at 16-17 weeks. No nausea vomiting sore boobs or anything.

mkemommy · October 2015

I don't think your fitness level has anything to do with pregnancy sickness, unfortunately. I work out pretty much daily and got hit with the nausea and dizziness. I'm just grateful not to be throwing up all the time ... I'll take that blessing.

KelseaMW · October 2015

@cattlebride I had a client who didn't find out he was pregnant until she was 20 weeks because she barely had symptoms and regularly missed her period when she was stressed from work. Crazy! @mkemommy yea not throwing up is good, haha!

alysemci · October 2015

Yaaa I don't think fitness has anything to do with it. A lot of it is genetics. I was in great shape with #1, 23, eating super healthy and working out and got his with such bad morning sickness I lost 15 pounds in the first tri. I feel the same now with #2 and my mom was like this as well with all 3 of us. I have friends that have never worked out a day in their life and eat crap that had outstanding pregnancies, labor and delivery. Also, it sounds a tiny bit condescending the way you stated your thought that everyone with morning sickness/felt crappy was of their own doing for not being as healthy as you and your fellow gym friends

KelseaMW · October 2015

@alysemciver I asked a question I didn't state that healthier people have healthier pregnancies because like you've said that's not always the case - I am sorry you took that the wrong way though, I dont think I said anything condescending.

chloe97 · October 2015

I completely agree with you!! If you read through these boards, you would think most pregnant women have fertility problems and recurrent miscarriage. There was a sticky on the TTGP board which said "assume you are the rule and not the exception" and I try to remind myself this over and over again. The chance of miscarriage in my age range is 20-25%. That means there is a 75% chance that I won't. Those odds are pretty good!

KelseaMW · October 2015

@chloe97 exactly! I went from bring excited to scared real quick! Someone posted this and it helped calm my mind a bit. https://spacefem.com/pregnant/mc.php?m=08&d=10&y=12

ucfgemini · October 2015

Unfortunately it is reality. People going through difficult times need the support too. Maybe create a new group called Glitter and Unicorns - nothing but positivity! I get where you're coming from though!

chloe97 · October 2015

KelseaMW said:
@chloe97 exactly! I went from bring excited to scared real quick! Someone posted this and it helped calm my mind a bit.

https://spacefem.com/pregnant/mc.php?m=08&d=10&y=12

This site is very reassuring. I'm assuming my risk is a bit higher bc I'm 36, but watching the numbers drop is helpful.

To your other point- I'm fairly active, I work out 3+ times a week and so far (5wks,2 days) I'm feeling pretty good. My mom had 4 kids and had easy first trimesters so assuming things stay this easy, I'm more apt to attribute it to hereditary.

Linsbins · October 2015

Definitely not fitness. I hear that can affect labor though. I was being super unhealthy since my vacation in the summer and drinking all the frappuccinos and I feel awesome right now! Just need an extra hour of sleep, and my boobs are giant, which is not the worst problem.

valran22p · October 2015

Thank you for posting that link @KelseaMW . It definitely gave me a since of relief. Here is my story... with my first son I didn't know I was pregnant until I was 3 months. I was irregular and it never crossed my mind. I did not have any morning sickness nor any other noticeable symptoms until I was 6 months I experienced swelling and heartburn. My son is a perfectly healthy 5 year old. This past April I did miscarry. Now I am 7 weeks and feeling fine just sore boobs.

longhurrdontcurr · October 2015

Yeah no. Your fitness level has zero effect on your symptoms.

KelseaMW · October 2015

@ucfgemini oh I totally understand people needing support, but I think everyone needs support good or bad! I just wanted to hear some positive stories that might help people like me who are first time moms to maybe help our anxiety a bit.

@linsbind yea I've had some very unhealthy friends hav great pregnancies too, seems to be hereditary! @chloe97 I think most tomes it's just human nature to only reach out when we are troubled or need help/support which is why we see more threads for that rather than sunshine a rainbow threads, ha! Wishing you a healthy baby! @valran22p thank you so much for sharing that!

Patience7150 · October 2015

I am also 28, 7w1d today, and my first appointment is 14 days from today! I have also only had very minimal MS symptoms...a little more sleepy, some weird food cravings that quickly turn to aversions (avocado - obsessed for a week and then decided it was the grossest thing ever), have only felt like I might throw up a handful of times, and my boobs have already increased 1-2 cup sizes (which my DH, who was an 11lb baby, jokes is just my body preparing to feed his giant genetics). Until recently, I was still lifting 4-5x a week, but had some minimal spotting so my doctor told me to lay off until the first US.

I am a FTM that is a little freaked out by the stories I'm hearing on here, such that I've actually kind of tried to lay off opening posts that seem to have bad news. Like @chloe97, I was also reminding myself just this morning that I have a 75% chance of everything being perfectly okay. Odd analogy, but it reminds me of hearing about motorcycle deaths...nobody reports about how motorcyclists made it home safely that day, they just report about how many people died. We'd bombard one another if we all posted about how we haven't seemed to miscarry yet.

Thank you for the positive post though, and hearing that someone else is only have minimal symptoms and things are going swimmingly! I wish all the pregnancies on here were going great, but statistically, 20-25% of them won't.

itsbronte · October 2015

@KelseaMW I totally agree! I think it's important to find other women's stories to relate to, whether that is a hard pregnancy/ birth experience or an easy one! I definitely think it's important to share the hard/ sad experiences to find and give support, but I also don't think people should be made to feel bad or guilty for sharing good experiences sometimes too.

With DD I had an easy pregnancy- some nausea/fatigue 1st trimester but no vomiting, then occasional leg cramps at night during 3rd, but those were my only symptoms. When it came time to give birth, I had my first contraction at 9:30 pm, went into the hospital at 2 am, got an epidural at 5 am, and had a beautiful, healthy baby girl in my arms at 8:32 am!

CourtJack · October 2015

Agree with PP - I think it's important to share both positive and negative stories. I personally don't take other people's negative stories to mean that my pregnancy is somehow more likely to end badly - I simply want to support these women who have to deal with something so hard and difficult. I hope everyone who is struggling continues to post here if they need support.

On the other hand, I enjoy reading people's positive stories also. My pregnancies have been relatively easy, so I rarely have much to add in terms of symptoms. I like to think that my stupidly difficult labours make up for the fact that my pregnancies have typically been uneventful. 10lb+ babies apparently aren't conducive to short or easy labours. Just an FYI

stxaggie · October 2015

I much prefer the positive stories! We all know things can go wrong or get bad, its already in the back of all our minds. BUT is sure is reassuring to know it isn't all bad! I am only 5w3d but sore boobs is about the worst of it for me thus far. I am going to bed a little earlier some nights and making a few more trips to the bathroom but heck, I'll take it after 18 months of TTC!

And while fitness may or may not have an affect on your symptoms, it will surely make the pregnancy, labor and recovery easier, so good for you!!!!

mimi_8607 · October 2015

I love hearing the positive stories! I have to keep telling myself everything will be fine. This is my second pregnancy at 29. I didn't have very many symptoms the first time. I felt nauseous a few times and really tired but that was it. So far this one is going the same way. I'm 6 1/2 weeks. Have my first ultrasound Nov 11.

GinnyJ2012 · October 2015

You'll read a lot of stories on here of people who have had difficulties TTC, or who have had a miscarriage. These people reach out for support. You won't hear many people on here talk about getting pregnant the first cycle trying with no history of miscarriage, because it can be hurtful to those struggling. This can make first time moms to be, or those just starting to try, that it will take you a long time to conceive, and that miscarriages are frequent. The reality is most people will have no problems conceiving and an uncomplicated pregnancy.

As far as the "if you're in shape pregnancy will be easier and you won't be sick" this is my third pregnancy, I was very active with baby 2 and it was an easy pregnancy, labor was 12 hours (I slept through most of it), and delivery was 20 minutes. My first I was very sick, not as active, gained a lot of weight because all I could eat was simple carbs, labor was about 14 hours, but delivery took almost 4 hours. I blame it on being in bad shape. This time around is starting just like baby 2. I'm in better shape this time than with my other two, but was never out of shape.

lm45678 · October 2015

Love the idea of this thread!!

crdo · October 2015

I was just poking around on a couple of other BMBs. I came across an awesome thread pinned on the May 2016 BMB titled "chances of NOT having an early miscarriage", or something like that. A user from Jan 2016 BMB took a table of chances of early miscarriage by week and inverted it, so that she created a table of the chances of NOT having a miscarriage from 3wks-9wks. A lady from the May 2016 BMB re-published the table with a great write-up to go with it. I just read it, and found it reassuring to see data in black and white.

Perhaps this would be something y'all would like to go check out.

youenjoymyself · October 2015

I remember reading all the stories of horrible MS, bleeding, severe cramping, pre term labor, etc, etc during my 1st pregnancy, so I asked my doctor about it because I felt fine and had no complications. He looked at me like I had 3 heads and told me to relax. That I was simply having a normal pregnancy. Fast forward 3 years to my second pregnancy. I had no bleeding, no cramping, and you know what? That baby didn't have a heartbeat at 8 weeks. My point is that even if you're healthy, eat only soy free, dairy fee, sugar free, organic, vegan, blah, blah, blah, shit can still happen. It's not to scare you, it's for these women to get the support they need. Sometimes these forums are the only outlet people have. Just saying. Not everything is puppy dogs and rainbows all the time, and that's ok. That's life.

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