The feels. So many of them.

mmakitten · October 2015

I'm having a rough night. This baby was unexpected (our first, we didn't think I was able to have kids, so surprise!) but welcome, but it's still come as a shock. I'm 6+4 right now and was hanging out with teammates tonight (I play roller derby, or I did, since now I am out until July), and it just kind of hit me how many things I was excited for this winter that I won't be doing. Polar Plunge, first bout, rocking the after parties. And now I feel awful for feeling sad. Im excited about the baby, but I guess kind of overwhelmed by the way life changes so quickly. I'll still be refereeing, on skates while I can and off skates once the doc says no or my balance changes, so I'm not disappearing, but it's different. So I'm all hormonal and crying over not getting to jump in icy water in below zero temps. Lol. Anybody else having trouble saying goodbye to favorite activities, and how are you coping? These mood swings are like a roller coaster I can't get off of.

tslmom87 · October 2015

My last pregnancy was the worst. I was severely depressed and not smart enough to get help from my Dr. I was angry I had to miss out on a lot of things but after baby came everything went back to normal.

It's ok to be sad, just if you feel you need help talk to your ob! It sucks you have to give up stuff now and I know the caught off guard feeling. This is only temporary though. Once baby comes, give yourself time to recover and you'll be back to doing what you love in no time!

I'm super sick right now and trying to take my mind off that. Today I sobbed over the fact that h forgot to buy sour cream for the tacos. Yeah totally a hot mess!

NicknShan · October 2015

I think my husband had a harder time with it then I did with my first. He was the planner - the one that got everyone together, stayed out the latest at the after parties, etc. and he got 9 months to adjust! Not just a BFP one morning to change everything.

Anyway, I think it is entirely normal to feel the way you do. My kid is now 2, and there are still times I feel sad because of all of the things I miss when my friends are off doing "fun person things" and We are at home with the babe.

Just be sure and take care of yourself, and let yourself so fun things from time to time. Stay out late. Go on dates. And continue to do so even after the baby comes. :-) it will be good for you.

And - if it makes it any better - once your kids get older, you'll be able to go out and do all those fun things again, and your friends will be having the little ones.

Everything is just a phase. And it will pass.

Hugs. And awesome on the roller derby gig. That's tough stuff.

mrsp2213 · October 2015

It hasn't caused me to cry (yet) but there are a lot of festivities in these coming months that revolve around alcohol and I am seriously bummed I cannot partake this year. My birthday, my friends' birthdays, all the holiday parties and gatherings, New Years, etc. It's bad enough I can't have my evening glass of cab with dinner but no booze in November/December is going to absolutely suck. I plan on coping with chocolate.

pregPT · October 2015

I totally feel you. I feel sad for missing out (basketball, soccer, ocean swimming, overseas trip that will fall when I'm about 36/40...) and then guilty for the sad! I'm 6+4 today and I think things will feel more real and hence I'll feel less weird and more excited when we've seen the kid on ultrasound etc. Hang in there, adventure woman!

CassLou · October 2015

I think it's ok to feel a little bummed about missing out. 3 rounds of clomid made me a crazy person, so we finally decided to stop ttc for a while. I'd just started feeling like myself again and embracing the perks of not being pregnant. I made myself a hair color appointment, ordered fancy cocktails, and planned a Disney trip... Then we got our bfp. I was so excited! Then shocked when I felt a little sad about it. Bitter sweet canceling that hair appointment lol. Don't beat yourself up over feeling that way!

splsmama2016 · October 2015

I'm with you, OP. I'm super excited but also sad I'm missing out on some fun stuff this holiday season. I perform every year at a local outdoor ice rink, and this year, I'm not sure I'll be part of it, as I haven't been skating as much. I was looking forward to actually training more for the next competition season which starts in January. But I'll be able to get back to all that in the next couple years and so I'm ok with it. However!!! I'm most sad about this stupid triple tap kegerator we bought 2 days before I got my BFP. I haven't indulged in an icy cold one yet, and I won't get to until the end of summer lol.

Keep your heads up ladies! We can do it!!

sorarose · October 2015

I was just thinking about how the little sleep I currently get will turn into no sleep with the second. I also have school work to finish, and with no energy right now, I worry about my deadlines and that kept me up last night. DH is losing it with having to take on extra DS time for me to rest, so I definitely have those moments. First Trimester screws with hormones and is the time to process how life is about to change; it gets better as pregnancy moves forward, at least in my experience.

TheHauntedHauswife · October 2015

I'm having a lot of emotional issues too even if not exactly about that. But I am kind of feeling like i am bummed i cant do certain things cause im so sick. I had definitely planned this baby and did try and go nuts this summer doing things but i am still feeling like i may never see some close friends who live far away again (NBD when i wasnt pregnant, but now i don't see myself being able to go there anytime.) and also just not being able to go to certain meeting spots with other friends.

noelietrex · October 2015

Skiing and snowboarding! A few resorts are starting to open limited slopes this weekend and I'm going to miss the whole season! *CRIES AND THROWS SELF ON FLOOR* That's the only bummer here. Booze isn't all that great anyway- I heard the "pregnancy glow" is actually just how much better your skin looks sober. So far mine just looks like cystic acne... but hopefully this is an adjustment period.

Kballew10 · October 2015

@noelietrex - My DH and his friends+SO have been talking about taking a snowboarding trip this Dec. They all started planning it today and DH texted me to warn me, since none of them know that I'm pregnant yet! I'm sad that I'll miss it, but I guess that I'll just bring books and nap under many cozy blankets and then meet them for delicious dinner? Doesn't sound so bad that way... my symptoms better cooperate with that plan!

MamaCoffin · October 2015

This is baby #3 for me and a TOTAL surprise. I had a failed iud!

That said... I'm a dancer. My troupe had been picked up for a HUGE rockettes style show at a local theater for the holidays and we had just started working on choreography.

I had to write the letter to our manager last week that I have to pull out as I'll be about 13 weeks by the time of the show (and with this being my third baby I have no doubt that I'll be showing).

It's always a bummer when life throws you for a loop... But my first baby was also unplanned and I have to say my life wouldn't be the same without her!

Sit back, relax, mourn the loss of the things that are no more (for now) but know that life is only going to get better. It's worth a little sacrifice for now!

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