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Getting Tubes Tied - Worried

madhammooremadhammoore member
edited October 2015 in November 2015 Moms
This is our third blessing, while I would have a couple more the reality is due to my medical history and difficult pregnancies, it's time to close down the shop. This decision has not settled well with me. I still don't feel "done" I know we have three and are blessed but I'm worried this decision will be something I regret. Any other moms out there getting their tubes tied and feel the same way? Nervous, worried? My C section date is scheduled for 11/16. It just feels so final to me but I know it's for the best. I just wanted to hear if any other moms are feeling the same emotions? Or can relate. Thanks ladies!
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  • Ceridwen77Ceridwen77 member
    madhammoore said:

    This is our third blessing, while I would have a couple more the reality is due to my medical history and difficult pregnancies, it's time to close down the shop.

    Are you looking for advice, others to share similar stories, words of encouragement, etc? Otherwise this comes across as a "dear diary" post, just FYI. May want to edit it and make it a bit more interactive.
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  • madhammooremadhammoore member
    Oh my word half the post didn't post again
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  • madhammooremadhammoore member
    Or what I posted after the sentence above
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  • Ceridwen77Ceridwen77 member
    Ok, you can edit the post to update it with more information.

    Maybe in the future after posting, take a look at what you posted to make sure everything went through.
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  • madhammooremadhammoore member
    It has to be my mobile app- I will do that and go edit (again)
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  • lakesideknitterlakesideknitter member
    FYI - many people have issues with the app. I'd suggest using the browser on your phone.
    Me: 28, DH: 40
    Married 9/28/13
    DS born 11/12/15
    EDD 8/13/18
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  • madhammooremadhammoore member
    Thanks- I will try that, funny my post definitely looks like the start to a country song. Lol
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  • riott1977riott1977 member
    I am also getting my tubes tied at my scheduled C section.  It is scheduled for November 12th.  This is my third child also.  I feel a little sad, knowing she will definitely be my last, but I am in my 30's and have been blessed already and it makes the most sense for my life going forward.  But there is a this little part of me and thinks, am I sure I am done.  I think it is normal to feel a little apprehensive.  Good luck to you on your upcoming C section.  
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  • MargaretC5MargaretC5 member
    I am getting my tubes tied also, but I am very sure I am done. When I talked to my dr about it she asked if something were to happen that killed both your children, would you want to have another baby at that point? She said unless you are very sure you can say no to that question you should not have your tubes tied. If you are not comfortable with the decision now you can always have it done later. It is convenient to have it done during the CS, but that should not pressure you to make the decision now if you are not ready.
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  • savyjohn1savyjohn1 member
    There are always other ways to expand your family!! If you have health issues, you shouldn't hesitate. The babies you do have need you to be around mamma!! It is a tough call, but do what is best for you long term. Good luck!
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  • mom4liakmom4liak member
    I just got my tubes tied. This was my 5th pregnancy and 4 live birth (all c sections). We have fertility treatments for our previous pregnancy and were pretty sure I wouldn't conceive ony own. Our hospital/Dr didn't tie tubes when I had our son 8 years ago. We were surprised and blessed with this LO. However that being said it was a very scary and traumatic pregnancy. I medically should not have survived this pregnancy. It was very difficult to even find an OB to accept me as a patient. Both LO and myself are doing fine but I knew I had to get my tubes tied. I am sad that for sure the pregnancy chapter of my life is closed but I know for my health and safety it had to be done.
    Good luck and know its ok to be sad about it but also that it's ok to make sure you are healthy going forward for your LOs.
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  • TeenarayTeenaray member
    We are also expecting our 3rd. I am going to have my tubes tied after because we cannot afford anymore. I am grateful to have babies but also want to give them a better life than me.
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  • MoRay05MoRay05 member
    I am also getting my tubes tied. This is our second pregnancy. At first I wasn't 100% sure but after having some complications we both decided it's too stressful and we are blessed to have two healthy children. I honestly can't see myself going through another pregnancy and having to take care of two other kids at the same time. Plus, financially I don't think we could afford another.
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  • tugskenyonkel+1tugskenyonkel+1 member
    This is my fourth child and I've considered having my tubes tied. I personally just can't go through with something so final. I don't want anymore children at the moment and have had three complicated pregnancies but have no clue what I'll want or how my health will be in 5-10 years. With that in mind I've opted for a long term BC instead. Tubal reversals are pricey and not guaranteed to work so I don't want to risk the regret.
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  • oxley09oxley09 member
    A bit different for us - my husband is planning a vasectomy shortly after our baby is born.  This is our 4th child and I told him that I know myself and I know that I'm crazy enough to want another, so if he wants to put an end to that discussion he needs to make the appointment.   ;)

    I am totally on board with it, and maybe that's because it's not happening to ME.  I've heard that even for women who are 100% sure they are done having children, the finality of altering your body's ability to have children is a tough one.  Maybe that's where your feelings are coming from?  Just MAKE SURE that you want this.  If you're having real doubts, those will turn to real regrets later, so it's best to know now.  You can always postpone and make a second appointment when you're ready, but it's much, much harder to undo once it's done.  

    Hugs.
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  • staceyandsamstaceyandsam member
    edited October 2015
    This is our 3rd baby girl and I am having my tubes tied during my CS. I was having some doubts earlier on, but after a really rough couple of weeks there is no way I want to be pregnant again. I was afraid of it being so permanent too, but I truly know now it is the right decision for me. Good luck with your CS. :)

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  • flasflas member
    This is our 3rd and DH is planning on getting snipped in the near future. We are both in our mid to late 30's and we aren't exactly well off so we think 3 is plenty for us. Also after this pregnancy I can totally get behind being done, this one was no friggin cake walk!
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  • madhammooremadhammoore member
    Thank you everyone for the responses- I really appreciate it and the support.
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  • babelisiousbabelisious member
    This is my 4th child, hubby was meant to get the snip after our 3rd in 2013 but our son died during birth.... during the pregnancy (difficult due to a pre existing injury) i said it was my last pregnancy and couldnt do it again....
    This pregnancy has been just as hard physically but a billion times worse mentally.
    No matter what happens this time I need to get tubes tied during csection.... only because i know physically and especially mentally i couldnt ever do it again. I know we never planned to have more children but it is very final.... but this is a decision i have to make or ill end up in a mental institution. ..
    I feel for you but ultimately you need to put your body, mind and current family first.... andcit sounds like by having tube tied yiu are
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  • kesmeredithkesmeredith member
    Talk to your doctor about other forms of semi- permanent birth control if you aren't 100% sure yet.
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