Terrified of the baby having no heart beat!

babycakes580 · October 2015

I am 6 weeks and 4 days. I have an appointment scheduled on the 30th which will be in 9 days. I'll be 7 weeks and 6 days I'm just really nervous about the baby not having a heart beat. I really want this baby. Maybe I'm just over thinking it?

ecwk · October 2015

It's normal to worry like that. I worried too but did not allow it to consume me. Try and stay busy and keep your mind occupied. I know that's easier said than done but you have to really try to not let yourself become overburdened by things that are not for certain. Unfortunately, after you hear the HB, your worrying will most likely not just go away. Wishing you the best.

babycakes580 · October 2015

Thank you so much! It's just a really nerve racking time.

patriciahomol · October 2015

I was this same way during my pregnancy with ds. All the way up to my gender ultrasound I just thought something was going to go wrong. Until I could feel him move I didn't feel safe lol. I think it's normal to feel that way. gl, wishing you have a happy healthy pregnancy.

GoatSnakeMouse · October 2015

I didn't sleep for two days before my first ultrasound (at 6 weeks) and when I got there I was shaking and my blood pressure was... not good. The nurse actually made me lie down. But everything looked great, and since then each appointment has been noticably easier. Good luck to you and let us know how it goes!!

yogahh · October 2015

Same way for my 1st US last week. Even after hearing and seeing a strong HB (180 bpm) I still feel that something will go wrong at my next appt which is my nt scan. Totally feel your pain. I don't think the fears will ever not be there.

PrimRoseMama · October 2015

I empathize with you. I'm sorry you are so nervous. FX that everything goes smoothly.

skc040512 · October 2015

I'm 15 weeks and am still worried. I've heard the HB 3 times and seen the baby twice. The worry doesn't go away lol. As my husband said "Welcome to the next 50 years." There's always something to stress about, just try to stay positive

patriciahomol · October 2015

Skcobb said:

I'm 15 weeks and am still worried. I've heard the HB 3 times and seen the baby twice. The worry doesn't go away lol. As my husband said "Welcome to the next 50 years." There's always something to stress about, just try to stay positive

SO true, was just going to add the stress doesn't go away when lo is born, for me it got worse. i'm always worrying lol.

DrillSergeantCat · October 2015

I am at 22 weeks and I had the fear that something was wrong until my ultrasound at 19 weeks. What you're feeling is normal, but try not to stress too much. I know that easier said than done, though.

tjcloverray · October 2015

I'm right there with you!! My first ultrasound is in two days and I'm going to be about 6w5d along!! The suspense sucks!!

tgortney · October 2015

Seeing all the girls I know, who are also pregnant at the same time, have healthy babies at their 12 week scan really didn't assure me any more. I keep thinking what if I end up being a statistic? Like 1 in 6 women have a MMC (totally made up ratio) or something?? I understand completely. Saw and heard my baby's HB at 130bpm at 6w5d, that still doesn't stop me from being worried. Women that live their life as normal when pregnant. Bless them!

StephyDH7 · October 2015

I feel the same way, I have my 7.5 week ultra sound next Wednesday and it's taking everything I have to push to it out of my head. Hang in there! xx

fourtsixand2 · October 2015

Honey, you and I are so alike. It is perfectly normal to have worries like that! I saw my baby and heard the heartbeat at 12 weeks and still, despite all that, I still worry every day that something could be wrong.
My DH tells me that worrying about all that is just going to stress me and the baby. But I try to tell him it's a natural feeling.

You and that baby are going to be just fine. Just take care of yourself and you're doing the best thing you can for the baby.

baileyletourneau · October 2015

I am the same way! It's such a terrifying thought and I constantly worry. I had a scan at 6w3d that showed a heart beat a couple weeks ago but now I Just wonder if something has gone wrong, my next ultrasound isn't until 12w3d and I get anxiety just thinking about it

NamelessAria · October 2015

I can relate to how you're feeling. I just scheduled my 8 week appointment this morning (I wanted to wait a bit to make sure it wasn't a CP or something since I tested so early). The appointment isn't till Nov. 16 and I'm terrified that they'll tell me they don't see anything or something.

I haven't really had much in the way of symptoms yet and it's just killing me having no way of knowing everything is okay in there.

FX that everything goes well at your appointment and you have a happy and healthy 9 months!

fourtsixand2 · October 2015

NamelessAria said:

I can relate to how you're feeling. I just scheduled my 8 week appointment this morning (I wanted to wait a bit to make sure it wasn't a CP or something since I tested so early). The appointment isn't till Nov. 16 and I'm terrified that they'll tell me they don't see anything or something.

I haven't really had much in the way of symptoms yet and it's just killing me having no way of knowing everything is okay in there.

FX that everything goes well at your appointment and you have a happy and healthy 9 months!

Same. I feel both guilty and nervous that I haven't had the dreaded pregnancy symptoms everyone talks about (nausea, vomiting, etc). I know I should be grateful, which I am, but it also leaves me wondering "is everything okay???"

sorarose · October 2015

I was stressed about the same thing most of my last pregnancy, but I think I noticeably calmed down at the 12 week NT scan when everything was okay and I survived 1st Trimester. At my anatomy scan, they gave me other things to worry about, but definitely felt better after getting through 1st Tri. I know it's easier said than done, but try to distract yourself in the meantime.

SharonB222 · October 2015

I thought I was a relatively cool cat going in for HB scans, but both times my BP (which is normally 110/70) was ~150/100 or something like that. Apparently I was a bit nervous. HBs were found despite my anxiety. FX for your u/s!

ttcours2015 · October 2015

Same here!! I go for my u/s in about 3 weeks. I'll be 8w5d. I'm a nervous wreck!! We tried for so long and want this baby so bad. I don't really remember being this scared with my first. But then again that was a LONG time ago (dd is 17) and I was so young when I had her I didn't really know to be scared about this kind of stuff!

marshaszymanski · October 2015

I was in the same situayion. I had a MMC last year and it was hard. That pregancy was never "normal"-and the doctor just kept having me come in for ultrasounds with false hope. No matter what the outcome it doesn't mean you can't carry. I asked my OB to do blood pregnancy levels and if it was above a certain value I could get an earlier ultrasound. Everything is going well this time and baby is growing and I feel like crap! I'm so happy-be positive and optimistic

Corts · October 2015

I have been that mom who heard no heartbeat after several normal ultrasounds. The fear will never go away, you cannot focus on it though. I have a fetal doppler at home also which is a great comfort. Please try not to focus on the what if's too much or it will drive you mad.

groovylocks · October 2015

I'm in my third trimester and back for a visit and I hate to tell you that the paranoia never goes away

and you can drive yourself nuts with all the worry. The fear and the 'something feels wrong...' feelings are totally normal. So relax and enjoy this time. I know it's easier said than done. But soon you'll have a heartbeat and her chances (or his) will skyrocket at that point.

morganwilliams89 · October 2015

Just take some reassurance in knowing you can not control this aspect of being a parent. I unfortunately was that statistic that worried for good reason (MMC at 9 weeks). I heard the heartbeat and it still happened. This is very rare but again you can't worry about what ifs. However I sometimes think my constant worry was to blame ( irrational maybe). However 3 months later and I'm back at it and expecting again so things happen for a reason. Keep calm and relax if you can.

desertheart · October 2015

I, too, had this fear. I think it came from the fact that we were told we would not conceive. We tried for over 4 years. I had a sonogram at about 8 weeks, and everything looked great. But, I was still so worried. I thought for sure the doctor wasn't going to find a heartbeat at our next appointment. Well, we had the appointment on Friday. She put the monitor my belly and right away there it was. Strong and loud. For some reason, that really helped settled my nerves.

Dasha420 · November 2015

I was worried and still worry. I had an ultrasound at 7 weeks and heard the heart beat. I kept thinking it was a recording they put on for my sanity (paranoid-I know). When I saw the screen I thought the same thing. The image was found too fast and I wondered if this is really what was in me.

Then I heard the heartbeat at 11 weeks and 12 weeks with an ultrasound. The baby was prancing and wiggling around in me.

I still worry because I have no idea what is happening in me as I type and I can't take the ultrasound machine home with me.

I seem to think if I am feeling nauseous - it is better because my body is showing me there is something it is working towards.
This is natural I guess- the very beginning of mommyhood. Becoming worry warts is a part of the process maybe? I hope all goes well for everyone here (myself included). \:D/

FiancB · November 2015

I feel the same way, and I'm normally a pretty laid back person. Pregnancy has shown me my control freak/worry wart side

( I felt so anxious yesterday that I peed on another stick to make myself feel better, even though I know it could have easily gone the other way.

Just keep telling yourself that while statistics of losses are scary, chances are far better that this will be a healthy baby, especially by the time you've gotten to 6 weeks. Nature knows what it's doing. I cannot wait until I'm far enough along to where I can hear it with my own stethoscope.

susykat77 · November 2015

Can so relate. I go in for my first ultrasound tomorrow, 6w1d, and I'm so afraid of the what ifs. Big hugs to you. And really, all of you!

arcanejinx · November 2015

In the beginning I peed on a few sticks to ease my anxiety. The pregnancy symptoms (other than extreme exhaustion) didn't hit till around 9 weeks. Then they started to fade at 14 weeks I knew it was normal but for me the symptoms meant something was happening. I have OB appointments every two weeks so that helped me with hearing the heartbeat.

I'm now 20 weeks and had my a/s last week. Seeing her made me feel better (I did have an early ultrasound at 6 weeks which seems so far away now). Now that I really know she's there I feel more assured that what I'm feeling is her moving (she's keen to punch me a lot-all she did for the hour ultrasound).

I think it's so hard because I know she's in there but there isn't really anything I can do. I will feel relief when I first hold her-but I know the worry will not got away. I just don't like feeling helpless in a situation. Which is exactly how it feels right now.

theofrank · November 2015

I feel exactly the same way. I have my first appointment next Monday (8 weeks). My symptoms have been light, so it does make you question the progress. I also just had dinner with a friend who had a miscarriage at 9 weeks. I know I will continue to worry, but I'm really eager to confirm and hear the heartbeat.

palmtreeNP · November 2015

I think it's only natural to be nuts. I'm a relatively calm, chill person & since my BFP, I am terrified of pretty much everything. Being in medicine, you'd think I'd be able to offer myself a little more reassurance but I can't. There is no talking me off the ledge; I have become a Google maniac, scowering message boards, web pages, etc. My 1st OB appt is 11/17 & maybe then I'll feel a smidge better. Prayers for healthy & happy 9 months for us all.

michellelbutler1982 · November 2015

I'm in the same boat, I had a mc in May, and now am 10 weeks preg with twins. My first scan was at 7 weeks 6 days showed two healthy babies with heart beats. now I'm 10 weeks but my next scan isn't until week 20, I'm so nervous that something may have or will go wrong in the meantime . Google is my worst enemy , try to stay sane with good movies or a good book to read instead of horror stories on Google.

Best of luck everyone ❤️

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