Hi ya'll happy Friday! I'm feeling inspired today! Anyone want to create some positive vibes here?
If you gave yourself a pep talk, as if you were speaking to a beloved friend, what would you say to yourself? What is the thing you need to hear most in your journey today? Sometimes we give our best advice to our loved ones and forget to be loving and kind with ourselves in the same way. Can we turn that love back inward and receive our own support

I've been playing with this idea after some healing work I did with a Mayan Abdominal Therapist (I know some of you ladies do it too.) This whole process can be so stressful and I am working on shifting my perspective into how I can survive however long it takes to get pregnant without serious emotional detriment. It's meant to be fun or silly or whatever you need it to be in this moment. I hope that we can be inspired by each others advice as well.
If you want to play answer the question below:
What advice/support/loving words would you give yourself about where you are at in your journey right now?
Re: Let's get inspired! anyone...anyone?
San Diego, CA
TTC #1 since June 2015
Prior D&C due to blighted ovum 2003
BFP 2/19/15 • MMC found at 9 wks • D&E at 11 wks (age 36)
BFP 8/29/15 • CP (age 37)
TTC#2 since May 2017
BFP 10/18/17 • MMC found at 8 wks • Misoprostal at 10.5 wks (age 39)
BFP 2/16/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 4/13/18 • CP (age 39)
BFP 5/07/18 • MMC found at 10.5 wks • D&E at 11.5 wks • Testing showed it was a girl with Trisomy 22. (age 39/40)
9/5/18 Diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve (4-5 follicles, one ovary had none and was very atrophied)
RE says the low egg count is likely causing my recurrent pregnancy loss. Less eggs results in more aneuploidy.
BFP 9/24/18 • CP (age 40)
Me: 37, DH: 36
Started TTC #1: 9/2015
Preliminary labs/testing @ 6 months: TSH, A1c, progesterone, prolactin, SA, HSG all normal
BFP: 5/19/2016, M/C: 5/29/2016
BFP: 6/22/2016 EDD 3//6/2017
I try to remind myself that it's not over yet as I have a couple more months left to try. If not I remember that God has a plan and while it may not make sense to me now, He has his reasons.
And if it doesn't happen I told hubby we are getting another puppy.
ME:37 DH:30
MARRIED: 07/19/2010, TTC #1: 07/19/2010
DX: PCOS, First IUI: 10/01/2015, BFN
And really, I know that one way or another, I will be a parent someday. If I can't get pregnant by IUI, I'll try IVF. Then IVF with my wife's eggs. Then she'll try to get pregnant. Then we'll give adoption a shot. Then foster adoption. One way or another, I'll be a parent.
There will be poopy butts, and I will be in charge of wiping them. (Unless I adopt a grown kid, in which case, I hope they are able to wipe their own butts, and I'll be ready for whatever else is messy with them.)
And I have faith that there's a plan for me, and kid out there who needs me. If I struggle now, I'm just learning the skills to be the best possible parent to that kid. Or kids. Or pack of kids. And they won't be perfect people, because perfect people don't exist, but they will be loved.
7 IUIs, 7 BFNs.
2 IVF attempts, both cancelled and converted to IUI, both BFNs.
Decided that my tired old ovaries are ready to retire.
Next step- reciprocal IVF, using my wife's eggs, my uterus!
fresh 5 day transfer (2 embryos) 4/17/17- BFP!
Identical twins "due" 1/2/17 (but anticipated arrival sometime December)