Most annoying advice people give you TTC?

DumbledoresArmy · October 2015

Just thought it would be a funny thread/place to vent as you tell people you are TTC and they give you helpful "advice." Mine is - "God will give you a baby when He knows it's time." Ugh!

Go!

JournoGrl23 · October 2015

I have to second what you said. I've been told that one before. That and "just relax and it'll happen when you least expect it." I find that doubtful since I have to actually try to get pregnant versus it being an accident like a lot of people I know.

EMF1017 · October 2015

Both of those are annoying. Also...it'll happen when it's supposed to happen. It should happen now. This is why I have only told a couple people that we are TTC

PrettyPalomino · October 2015

In panic: "You're not getting married first??"

Come on people what century are we in?

PrimRoseMama · October 2015

"You're getting old. Be happy with two!" :-w

I'm turning 32 next week. It's not like I have a foot in the damn grave! :-t

addyplusone · October 2015

I've only told 3 family members and 1 friend that we are ttc. DH mom said well you just have to have sex.. yeah it's that easy.

My mom said I was nuts because of the money aspect and we aren't married and I'm young so why not just wait? Because I want 3 children and it isn't just a cake walk to get pregnant.

Cheers to people never knowing what to say!

MEA0320 · October 2015

Going with the whole "just relax; it will happen when it's supposed to happen." But also, this past weekend one of DH's cousins said to us "stop trying and just have fun; that's what we did and now we're expecting #2" (as she sticks her 7 month belly in my face.

Yeah that's just what I needed from a person I see maybe every other year at family events. :-q

WorkingOnMyNightCheese · October 2015

PrimRoseMama said:
"You're getting old. Be happy with two!" :-w

I'm turning 32 next week. It's not like I have a foot in the damn grave! :-t

Prim, I know you're worked up and all but really...

sarah0985 · October 2015

"You're young and you're healthy, it'll be fine!"

I'm fit but you have no idea what my fertility health is! We have been benched by choice, by doctors advice, and by amenorrhea and now seemingly annovulatory. Don't act like you know what I choose to not to tell! I look healthy but you have no idea what is happening because I don't broadcast my health issues.

Ugh. Didn't realize I had that vent till I started typing.

DumbledoresArmy · October 2015

@sarah0985 I'm going through the same stuff!! So frustrating.

JRB3 · October 2015

This is why I'm not really telling anyone. Plus I don't want the pressure bc it's not happening right away.
This isn't really advice but goes along with annoying crap people say when TTC...Last night someone at my dogs daycare was talking about the owner who is 34 and having a baby. She was like, "well it's her last ditch effort to have a baby." I'm like wtf I'm going to be 34 in two months and TTC #1!!!

smfeuro · October 2015

"You have all the time in the world!" (I'm 30. Not that much time)

"The universe will provide you with a baby when it's ready."
"Take baby aspirin everyday and it'll happen."

"Just relax and enjoy your marriage"
"At least you get to sleep in!" (So you'd trade your child in for a few extra hours of sleep!?)
"Just let it go and it'll happen"
"Have you ever thought about adoption? Because I heard once people decide to adopt they get pregnant like that!"

... and many more.

fairygirl86 · October 2015

I have to go with the it will happen when it happens. So annoying.

ShallowSeas · October 2015

"Its only been a year. It took me longer than that. You don't need to go see a specialist"

"Just relax. You'll stress yourself out and that will make it harder to get pregnant"

'It'll happen, don't worry"

"Well are you making sure you're not getting up right after sex?"

"Enjoy being married. You don't need a baby right away"

noelietrex · October 2015

All of mine are for my high strung personality. I constantly hear "RELAX!" from everyone. Next person who says that is getting a "go f*ck yourself!"

Hummingbird125 · October 2015

"You're young and healthy, why are you tracking all this stuff?"

-A friend who knows nothing about TTC.

UGH. I'm 28, I'm not SUPER young, and I have very long and irregular cycles which *could* make getting pregnant hard. Everything I'm doing is free or super cheap, and makes me feel more in control of the process - I literally see no downsides so MYOFB.

Vent over.

dixie7701 · October 2015

"you already have 3 and they're almost grown! Are you SURE you want to start over?"

Along with the "relax, you're over thinking it" or "you're just trying too hard"

The newest one since my PCOS diagnosis came from my SIL

"I have that too. It's not a big deal. I had 2 kids on my own with no problems"

Congratufuckinglations to you! My ovaries aren't as cooperative as yours apparently.

blackgirlmagic · October 2015

I was told to stop temping and it will happen.

This person that said that has had several friends that tired temping and they did not get pregnant. But once they stopped that they got pregnant. And she believe that temping made me stress more than normal and that is why I am not pregnant. And I told her that temping actually keeps the stress away because I actually know/when I O.

charmedlifex3 · October 2015

We're not telling people, so it has been a lot of people guessing when we "should" start.

Everything from immediately (because I am 30! gasp!), to "Well, you want a couple years just you two..." to "as soon as you finish grad school?"

We'll have a baby when we can, and when WE want to. So shush.

styler91 · October 2015

Everyone tells me "you're still young, you have plenty of time." But what they don't understand is that I am already older than I wanted to be for having my first child.... so in my mind my age just keeps ticking... getting older and older....

and the whole "relax, it always happens when you stop trying".... I just want to slap people when they say that...

PrimRoseMama · October 2015

katetastrophem said:

"You're getting old. Be happy with two!" :-w I'm turning 32 next week. It's not like I have a foot in the damn grave! :-t
Prim, I know you're worked up and all but really...

BUWHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! I'm shaking my cane! That's awesome. :P

sboston06 · October 2015

I have to go with "It will happen when you least expect it" or "Relax, you are making this too complicated".

I agree with many of you that temping and charting help me to relax and understand a very involved process.

ttcimpls · October 2015

BeachTigress said:
I was told to stop temping and it will happen.

This person that said that has had several friends that tired temping and they did not get pregnant. But once they stopped that they got pregnant. And she believe that temping made me stress more than normal and that is why I am not pregnant. And I told her that temping actually keeps the stress away because I actually know/when I O.

I had someone tell me this about temping too and I totally went off. I actually think temping is making LESS stressed through this process so I am 100% with you on this being the worst one.

MrsFL2015 · October 2015

The most annoying advice is people telling you you should have a baby. I got married a few months ago and I can't believe the number of people who say, "It's time for you to have a baby."

It's like all newly married woman are suppose to starting talking about babies and showing the entire world they have baby fever. If they don't, then we're suppose to be reminded that "It's time"

BostonBaby1 · October 2015

fairygirl86 said:
I have to go with the it will happen when it happens. So annoying.

LiterallyAmy · October 2015

I agree with everything above. Personally, the worst for me is "it'll happen when it's MEANT TO BE" because, call me a faithless heathen, but I simply don't buy into that entire philosophy at ALL. I'm too much of a pragmatist. Like, maybe just tell me you understand and that it sucks?? (Please imagine a super snarky gif right here because I haven't figured out how to post one yet)!

vmgoodell · October 2015

Mine isn't so much the "relax" or "it will happen when it happens" variety. Mine is people me what positions are best to get pregnant and what are best for a boy or girl. Umm.....no thank you. I am not getting into detail I think how we do it, nor do I want to hear you tell me how you do it.

NovaSaysNo · October 2015

LiterallyAmy said:

I agree with everything above. Personally, the worst for me is "it'll happen when it's MEANT TO BE" because, call me a faithless heathen, but I simply don't buy into that entire philosophy at ALL. I'm too much of a pragmatist. Like, maybe just tell me you understand and that it sucks?? (Please imagine a super snarky gif right here because I haven't figured out how to post one yet)!

So, I work nights and it's WAY past my bedtime. But I read "I'm too much of a pragmatist" as "I'm too much of a proctologist" and I was REALLY confused and pondered that for a while.

But back on topic, I've only told one friend and now she's cut off after trying to symptom spot me. No thank you. Her: "You spotted! You MUST be preg!!!" Me: "I've been of BC for one day..." That was a month ago, no more updates given to her since then.

Seriously though, time for bed.

Edited just to say: I just realized there were zero advice stories in here, just an annoying friend with good intentions, and the whole proctologist thing which still makes me laugh and I'm so tired that I'm not sure why it's funny to me anymore. Okay, this time I'm seriously going to sleep. Probably.

DobbysSock · October 2015

My SIL (pregnant with her 3rd baby) when I told her we are trying for a second and mentioned something about tracking ovulating: "Don't you just do it every day til you get pregnant?"

(Meant to tease me about making it more complicated than it has to be - her 3 boys have all happened quickly. But her method sounds way more exhausting than mine!)

DumbledoresArmy · October 2015

@DobbysSock couldn't agree more. I don't have the energy to do it every day.

PS I love your name.

ButterMyBiscuit · October 2015

LiterallyAmy said:

I agree with everything above. Personally, the worst for me is "it'll happen when it's MEANT TO BE" because, call me a faithless heathen, but I simply don't buy into that entire philosophy at ALL. I'm too much of a pragmatist. Like, maybe just tell me you understand and that it sucks?? (Please imagine a super snarky gif right here because I haven't figured out how to post one yet)!

Ask and ye shall receive!

ETA: Spelling is hard.

said8me · October 2015

I told my sister I was going to TFAS after my bday, so when I casually mentioned the arrival of AF last month she was like "OOOooo it *MUST* be implantation bleeding!"

noelietrex · October 2015

Also this gem: "Intense work outs are bad for you! You should scale back your work outs or it might not be able to stick."

Response: "That's okay I don't want a weak baby anyway *shrug*"

LOL Seriously though I know loads of crossfit women who've successfully gotten pregnant and carried to term, keeping up with their training throughout. I will not be scaling back and I would lose my damn mind if I had to stop- this is my therapy. My life priorities go like this: Husband, job, crossfit, dogs, house, world peace...

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