I will be honest, I am exhausted, kind of headachy, and cranky today so I feel as though I may lack the correct frame of mind to respond to my husband, so I'm asking a bunch of strangers on the internet. He wants to go on a 3 or 4 day fishing trip in early October. The place is 4 hours away and cell reception is spotty at best. I will only be 33/34 weeks around then so I'll probably be fine, but then of course what if something happens?
Would you be okay with your SO going on a trip a month + before your due date? This is in addition to all the weekends he will spend hunting, his golf league, his other fishing trip in August, etc.
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Our angel baby boy is looking over his twin sister - due November 21
Re: Need Some Perspective on Husband's Timing of Trip
I can sympathize because my husband often goes out with the guys for fishing trips/guy time and it can indeed be overly frustrating. I'd take some time to calm down (always easier said than done) and bring up that it's awfully close to baby time and that you'd appreciate him going earlier/somewhere with better cell reception. Compromise has always been mine & DH's saving grace when it comes to things like this. Hopefully he'll be receptive to your feelings/point of view. Wishing you the best!
This is definitely a tricky question. Just to give you a different perspective...at this point in my life, I would be okay with that. However I have a much different set of experiences as I am on my 4th baby, and already dealt with this when I was expecting my 3rd. (DH was 5 hours away the weekend before my due date, and actually an hour away from home when I went into labour.) I don't know how I would have felt about this sort of situation as a FTM.
I do think your concerns are valid. There are so many things to consider when making this decision. I would suggest talking to your doctor about your chances of going into labour early, and how long labour typically takes if it does start that early. Your doctor may be able to offer you some reassurance (or give YH a more substantial reason to stay home!) for that point in pregnancy.
Also, if YH is really set on this trip, perhaps as a compromise, he would be able to plan it for somewhere that's a little closer and/or has better cell reception?
My point is labor is often a very long process for FTMs! I do understand your hesitation with your H's trip, but the chances that you would go into labor 4 weeks early during the short window he will be gone and he wouldn't be able to make it back before you're in active labor are pretty slim. You should definitely talk to your dr and your H about your concerns, I just wanted to give you some peace of mind that it would probably work out just fine.
*I do know someone who's H was away at a hunting camp when she went into labor early. She had to call his brother to finally reach him but he still made it on time to see his girl born. This was 10 yrs ago so cell reception wasn't great then.
Bottom line, what is important is that you are uncomfortable with it, whether you should be or not,and so you need to have a discussion with your husband about it. If it is the way you feel, a hundred internet strangers could tell you that you are being silly and that still won't change the fact that you are uncomfortable with him being gone. If you are going to be worried and concerned the whole time he is gone, that's not really heathy either.
I think it's important to remember that he doesn't have a baby bouncing around inside him, so it could be harder for him to realise how you'd feel. A convo together will definitely help
DS was 2 weeks late and this LO is measuring 5 days behind, so my bet is this LO will not be that early.
If I had to make this same decision right now I'd say ok but I'd want the names and numbers of everyone going and I'd research how to get ahold of him if cells aren't working.
That being said, my husband travels a lot for work. DD and I are used to being home alone. This is a busy fall for him as well. He will probably be gone for 75% of September and October and will be gone the week before my due date. DD was six days early so this does give me a bit of anxiety but we'll figure it all out.
I hope you and dh can come to a decision that will make you both happy and comfortable.
At the same time I feel guilty saying no. This would be the last "guys trip" that my man would be taking for a while. They are going for a friends birthday and staying at a hotel. I trust him, but his friends are single guys that have never been faithful to past girlfriends and it bothers me a tad bit that he is going. I don't really think that the club scene is a good place for a guy in a relationship. This may just be my insecurity, especially being hugely pregnant. We discussed things and he said obviously I have nothing to worry about, but just the timing and overall plan makes me uneasy. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
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Human sons: 11/2015 & 05/2017
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That's like 18 hours drive and a 4 hour flight. It's for work and he could have tried to agrue but it advances his career.
I know he is drinking and enjoying his quiet nights away lol
Even if I start contracting and it's a false alarm or they last for awhile, I would still want my SO nearby.
If he was going out of town this weekend- I'm 36 weeks- I would be slightly relieved because I could stay in my pajamas all weekend, take baths and nap