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Need to know I'm not the only one...

kendra817kendra817 member
in October 2015 Moms
I had my beautiful baby boy Monday, October 12th and I love him more than anything...

That being said, the past couple of days I have been crying all the time for no real reason. I also feel really anxious. It's making me feel like I'm a terrible mother... I want to take care of him and know he needs me but I would really love to just get 8 hours of sleep. My husband is amazing and being really helpful but I'm obviously the only one who can breast feed.

I guess it's just hard getting used to this new life...I just want the tears to stop so I can just be happy and enjoy every minute with this precious baby...
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Re: Need to know I'm not the only one...

  • MCraig1484MCraig1484 member
    I just spoke to my husband about feeling the EXACT same way. I think for me the breastfeeding has been tough (getting him to latch, plus he's a fussy baby in general), so I'm super stressed out about that and then I feel guilty for not enjoying the time I have with my newborn more.
    From what I've been told by everyone, the tears are normal, we just went through a lot with labor/delivery and now we have a whole new life, so it can be expected to feel this way.
    Hang in there!
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  • cmjn94cmjn94 member
    It's a really difficult transition. I had a lot of anxiety the first week or two. It's pretty normal. My baby will be three weeks on Monday and it does get better! Just hang in there and get help if you need it
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  • silly514silly514 member
    The tears and anxiety are completely normal for the first few weeks. I seriously would excuse myself when people came over and lock myself in the bathroom and just sob.... Your hormones are still completely wacky. Give yourself a little more time. This is a huge (wonderful but HUGE) adjustment for your whole life!

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  • CocoR04CocoR04 member
    So normal! I had a ton of anxiety the first few weeks with my son. Looking back, it was from a combo of fluctuating hormones, very little sleep, and going through such a huge change. I didn't want to sleep because I thought he would stop breathing. Got a Snuza monitor and sleep/anxiety got better. Hang in there mama!!
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    Me too!! Day 12 pp. And finally getting better!! Try getting outside. Even if its just to sit on the porch or walk up and down tour street. I found if i just let the tears flow it made me feel better. Trying to be strong and expect yourself not to be emotional makes it worse. Be kind to yourself. You just made a life and now have the change of youre lifestyle along with the rollercoaster of emotions. Youre not alone!!
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  • FatPonyFatPony member
    abkenyon said:
    On the tears, I can't stop them either. Sometimes I know why I'm crying ("I can't do this", "I'm exhausted", "baby hates me", etc) and other times I have no idea. Also sometimes something triggers the tears, like a hug from hubby, and sometimes I'm in the shower and they start for no reason. I feel completely out of control and like I can't do this. You are not alone. A really good nap helps if you can feed then hand off baby for 2/3 hours. We gave up on breastfeeding and moved to a bottle because the lack of sleep was getting to both hubs and myself. Now we switch off on feedings so we can get a good 4-5 hour stretch of sleep. Just take it day by day and hopefully it gets better. My little one is 2 weeks old so I'm not much farther ahead of you.

    So glad to hear I'm not the only one formula feeding. Makes me feel like such a failure (yet another thing to be anxious about), but I needed it for my own sanity as BF was not going well. I also have the anxiety and can't wait until it starts getting better
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  • millereliz13millereliz13 member
    @FatPony I'm formula feeding from the start due to medical needs of myself. I was told by the hospital nurses that BF is hard and what is important is your lo is fed and cared for.
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  • Mandy6585Mandy6585 member
    I could have written this post over the last four days! You are so not alone!! I'm a FTM so can't say for sure but everyone continues to reassure me this will get better. Sending you hugs!!
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  • kendra817kendra817 member
    Thanks so much for the responses and kind words! It really helps knowing other people feel the same way!
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  • nimmunogirlnimmunogirl member
    When my husband came home Friday and asked how my day was, I proudly said "I didn't cry today." My little one is 13 days old and it is still really hard, but we are both learning from each other and each day is a bit easier. We all got this!
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  • KristynLee15KristynLee15 member
    "I didn't cry today!" Thats how DH knows it was a good day!!!
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  • jburrell13jburrell13 member
    I just had our little girl the 15th and I've been holding it together pretty well, but I lost it last night. Same exact feelings I'm a bad mom just everything I sobbed and sobbed and sobbed. My husband is also amazing but you know what we just brought a human into this world and I learned I have to cut myself a break. ♡
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  • altow1310altow1310 member
    You are definitely not the only one! Our baby boy was born 10/13, and it has been a very emotional time for me ever since. I can't complain because the emotions are mostly ones from a place of such an incredible love and happiness being a mom, but it's definitely challenging. It's been hard staying home all day while DH is at work. Luckily my parents live close so my mom has been able to come over and spend time with me and LO! I am always on the go, so I'm going to try to get out a little more this week - just to the park to walk or form quick run to the store - because I think that will help. I was so excited to go to baby boy's dr appt this afternoon because it was so nice to get ready and leave the house. It's just very overwhelming at times to deal with all of these hormones and new emotions and fears. I know it is totally normal and the emotions will ease up with time, but it is definitely challenging to deal with them and to adjust to a brand new life that includes much more responsibility and much less sleep. Just remember to accept help wherever you can get it and to make sure you are being kind to yourself and aware of your feelings. It is ok to cry. It's ok to feel frustrated, stressed, worried, exhausted, etc. I'm glad this was posted because it's nice to know there are so many others feeling the same way. Hang in there, ladies! We got this!
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  • jburrell13jburrell13 member
    Does anyone know if the bump has a post pardom community or board if not maybe we should start one, it's so nice to be able to read through everyone's comments and know I'm not alone.
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  • krae771krae771 member

    Very normal!  Same thing happened to me with my DS.  It passed after a couple of weeks and I felt a lot better.

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  • altow1310altow1310 member
    @jburrell13, there is! If you go to the Parents section of The Bump you'll find a ton of boards. I just recently browsed the Babies 0-3 Months one and it looks like there are many relatable posts on there!
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