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Sister Problems

ayokay516ayokay516 member
in February 2016 Moms
So, today we found out we are having a boy.

This is the first boy of this generation. I have 2 girls and my sister has 3 girls. None of the other siblings (or cousins) have kids yet. Needless to say, there's a little excitement in the family about the first boy.

My sister, who is 4yrs older than me, is pissed at me. She's being rude and snarky toward me. She's posted a FB status that was sarcastic and dramatic.

What do I do? I don't feel I need to apologize for anything, I haven't done anything wrong. It's not my fault she didn't get to have a boy first. How do I handle her? Or do I just let her be and ignore her childish behavior?

Maybe it's hormones but she's really starting to tick me off. I dunno. Advice?
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  • strlitemissstrlitemiss member
    I would ignore her childish behavior. I'm sorry she's being absolutely bananas.
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  • ayokay516ayokay516 member
    Everyone is excited about the baby regardless of gender. His being a boy is exciting because he's the first. Of course we would still be excited and happy if he was a girl. It's just a different kind of excitement.
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  • cboucbou member
    She is being childish and will hopefully get over it. Why does it matter that you are having a boy. Can't she celebrate the fact that you are having another healthy baby?
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  • Lizziesue07Lizziesue07 member
    I am going through the same thing with some of my cousins and family.., I am having the first girl on that side (my cousin was expecting a girl but lost her st 22 weeks due to missing part of her heart) so now they are really weird around me and don't ask how my pregnancy is going or don't act excited for me having a healthy baby when they are expecting again but a boy and i am always asking them how it's going and excited for them.. Oh well
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  • mizz_tee08@yahoo.commizz_tee08@yahoo.com member
    Because you totally have control over the sex of your baby! You can definitely ignore her comments (sarcasm is my thing so I would definitely reply with the same snarky sarcasm, but that's just me). Eventually she will realize how irrational she is being. You have a healthy, growing baby and that alone trumps all of that other nonsense.
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  • mckloughmcklough member
    jealousy makes people craaaazy. She probably wanted a boy so she's projecting that on you.  I'm a pretty direct person so I'd say something to her off of the post that people can see. Even if it's a private message to be like "that hurt my feelings, what gives?"

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  • DrillSergeantCatDrillSergeantCat member
    I second PP, what did the facebook status say?

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  • Miss LilacMiss Lilac member
    I don't get it. Are you all trying to produce an heir to some sort of throne?
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  • jaimerunsjaimeruns member
    I'm also curious as to what her FB post said. I hate going off of social media to judge how my family members or close friends are feeling, especially about me, because they are usually too vague, and can just be random thoughts (I mean, unless it's a pretty blunt one). Has she come out and said she is pissed at you? 
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  • ayokay516ayokay516 member
    She has since deleted the post because my mom talked to her and told her I was hurt by what she said.

    It was sarcastic and snarky. I don't remember it verbatim. But the gist of it was 'go figure' and basically saying I always get everything I want. She didn't directly say my name but I know she was talking about me cuz that's how she is. She thinks she's speaking in 'code' and nobody will be offended because ya can't prove who she was talking about but it's always me. She seriously hates me. Always has, probably always will.

    Anyway, I'm over it. She can sit over there and pout all she wants. I'm not gonna let her under my skin.

    I've got an 'heir to our throne' to prepare for.
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  • DrillSergeantCatDrillSergeantCat member
    ayokay516 said:
    She has since deleted the post because my mom talked to her and told her I was hurt by what she said. It was sarcastic and snarky. I don't remember it verbatim. But the gist of it was 'go figure' and basically saying I always get everything I want. She didn't directly say my name but I know she was talking about me cuz that's how she is. She thinks she's speaking in 'code' and nobody will be offended because ya can't prove who she was talking about but it's always me. She seriously hates me. Always has, probably always will. Anyway, I'm over it. She can sit over there and pout all she wants. I'm not gonna let her under my skin. I've got an 'heir to our throne' to prepare for.
    If she hates you and always has, I wouldn't give her the time of day. I seriously would ignore all of her snarky, sarcastic, passive aggressive posts. 
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  • blueberrymommablueberrymomma member
    I have to deal with my SIL all the time but I've adapted to just ignore her. We had the first grand baby, a girl, and now we're having the first grandson. I know she thinks because her and BIL are older they should do things first. We were engaged first and together way longer and she moved her wedding up a year to get married before us.
    To the "heir to the throne" comment; that is sort of true for our family. DHs family has a large 4 generation family business and only sons of owners can inherit it. So the first boy in a new generation is a big deal. But then again this little guy may want to do something different with his life
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  • ayokay516ayokay516 member
    That's how my sister is. She had the first grandbaby (by teen pregnancy from a guy who got locked up) but I've done everything "the right way" and she is always making poor decisions. So my life seems perfect to her and she's jealous.

    Of course my life isn't perfect and I certainly don't rub anything in or make her feel less, but she does it to herself. Then tries to make it look like I'm the bad guy. I'm just over here living life. She has nothing to do with my life decisions and I couldn't care less that I got married first, bought a house first, am having the first boy, etc. But she somehow turns everything in my life into a challenge against her. I dunno how to explain it. She's just bitter and jealous.
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