Just wondering if anyone else on the boards has a DH that has had a vasectomy reversal? Any success stories? Mine had his reversal procedure 4-2008. His SA shows that it was a success, so now we are just hoping my body starts cooperating soon!
Confession: I feel bad in even saying this, but I think I got some kind of sick enjoyment out of him having to go through this. Usually guys get off the hook pretty easy (physically at least) when it comes to having a family, but I at least know he shared in the "pain", too! I have much respect for him!
Re: Other DH's with reversals?
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Mine will be 43 next month and I will be 33 in July. ?Does your DH have children already? ?MIne has a 10 year old son with his ex wife.?
Yep- I have two great step-sons, ages 14 & 16 (turning 15 & 17 in March, also!) They are wonderful kids, but it's just not the same as having our own.
Do you have any kids of your own yet? At first I wished that DH and I were going through this for the first time together. But then I had to change my thinking to, "Look how great his other kids turned out. He obviously did something right, so it will be great to have a little bit of "expertise" in our corner." Although, he is constantly reminding me that it was a long time ago since he had babies and that a lot of things have changed. So in a way, we'll still be learning together!
Best of luck to you!
PS- Older men rock!
No I don't have any yet. ?I have lots of moments where I wish he didn't have any either. ?I sometimes am sensitive when he poo poo's my concerns over things and thinks its no big deal because he has been there before. ?But on the flip side I don't think he was very involved in his ex's pregnancy because he is completely clueless. ?He had no idea how long an actual pregnancy is (wait, 40 WEEKS!), that you can't fly when your 38 weeks (What do you mean you can't come home with me for Xmas if your almost due?!?). ?So in a way it feels like some things are a first.
He is a great father so that part of it I wouldn't change. ?It's almost like getting to test drive it first..lol
Good luck to you too!?
My DH is 9 years older and I also have two step sons. The whole wish it was their first time is how I felt too. Then you have a baby and you are sooooooooooo grateful and forget about feeling that way. I never have to worry about him not understanding or not helping etc. He remembers how hard it was and is a pro. GL I remember all those emotions. I was so worried because it took us a while to get pregnant and I was scared I never would and would always be so jealous he had kids with someone else and we couldnt. I hope everything works out for both of you!!!!
LOL- I know what you mean about test-driving! At first I didn't think I would ever want to get involved with a guy who already had kids. But when I met my now-DH and saw how great of a father he was to his boys, I think that is one of the things that attracted me to him the most! It was a great "try before you buy!"
Although it is a little frustrating because his ex-wife was apparently a "baby machine." One of those that got pregnant as soon as they started trying, and had the perfect pregnancy and delivery. Blah!
Whenever we talked about having kids, we always thought HE would be our biggest obstacle with his vasectomy. But NOPE! That apparently was the easy part to fix! Didn't think I would end up being the biggest challenge to this process. (Although his part was BY FAR the most expensive part... so far.) New Year's Resolution: Learn to be more patient!
Staying tuned! I have to go to work (stupid, work) in a bit, but I'll be back on this afternoon. Yeah- I'm officially addicted to this site.
I would love to hear more of your story, though!
Thanks!
Fortunately, I have had minimal symptoms for the past few years. Off all meds and trying to control it through diet. From my understanding, it can impair fertility when it is active. It is best to conceive when it is in remission, although pregnancy can cause flare ups for some.
How severe are your symptoms?
The worst thing I think I did was turn on DH and tell him he didnt understand how I felt. Nothing he could say would make me feel better because I knew deep down he would always have the relief of knowing he had two kids if things didnt work out. The thought that I might never know what that feels like ate me up. I wish I could go back and change that and have enjoyed ttc more but I cant. So I am thankful everyday I was able to have her and that the next go round no matter how long it takes I will be able to chill out. I just felt so alone. Like no one could ever know how I felt. But that is silly because there are so many people that knew how I felt. There are two right here in this post. So the best thing I can tell you is keep your head up, stay postive, and know that there are so many ladies that have felt the same way. I was lucky and got pg after my HSG the month before I was supposed to start clomid the same month they told me I had PCOS. Everyday I am thankful. I wish you the same luck and blessing I had. I love my step sons to death but I wanted someone to call me mommy not stepmom. *hugs*
Oh and we almost were in your shoes with the reversal DH was so close to getting one years before we met but he told me something told him not to and he canceled the appt the day he was supposed to. Crazy stuff.