Feeling Guilty

leasaj · October 2015

Last night my 2.5 yr old was up about 4-5 times. I'm not really sure why but during the course of a very sleepless night I had some negative thoughts/concerns about this new little one growing. I seriously questioned my sanity at wanting to do sleepless nights all over again. Then I felt guilty for thinking that. Please tell me I'm not alone with these thoughts. Anyone with more than one child please shed some insight bc I am really concerned about taking care of two little ones with a DH who is gone for work 1/2 the time.

NicknShan · October 2015

Don't feel guilty! First of all - everything is a phase and will pass. Secondly, I completely understand your feelings and have had them too. My husband travels for work leaving me with our DS, the house, the yard work, oh ya - and my full time job.

So, yes. This is normal. I understand the reason to question your sanity :-) I have too! You will be a rock star at it. It will come natural. And hopefully your 2.5 yo will become a good little helper!

Lyette1206 · October 2015

My daughter is almost 2.5, and she was up a lot last night too. Even before we conceived (we were trying), I thought we were nuts to want a second. Toddlers are exhausting, as much as we love them. I know things will get crazy, but it'll be our crazy.

matthewsdm · October 2015

Don't feel guilty! I've got a 3.5 and 2 yo and have definitely had these thoughts. When DD2 was born, DD1 was only 18 months, it was a lot of work but it all fell into place as we grew together as a family. You'll do great!

totsabounding · October 2015

I have a 3 yr old, and I sometimes have those moments, too. I honestly think it's a good thing, because it means you have a realistic view that there will probably be some tough times ahead. But it always helps me to remember that for your older kid will become more independent in these 9 months ahead, and also kids are young for such a relatively short period of time. It'll be totally worth it. And on days/nights when you're exhausted...you won't be alone.

almostpriceless · October 2015

I have an extremely busy high schooler, a 2 year old, a husband who travels often for work, and a full time job. I ask myself at least twice a day wtf we are thinking having another baby. However, I completely agree with the sentiment that it's a phase. When baby comes you will manage. There will be bad days, but even the most terrible days will have good moments.

leasaj · October 2015

Thanks ladies! Good to know that I'm not alone.

emucoleman · October 2015

I totally have these feelings too and I'm relieved to see what PP have said.

Also, I keep thinking, "I'll have all these sleepless nights and I won't even love this baby as much as DD." Ummm, what?? Obviously I will love this baby just as much! I don't know why I keep thinking that. I guess it's hard to imagine loving any other child as much as I love my DD, but I just have to trust that it will happen!

BPaisley · October 2015

I feel for ya, too! My 3.5 year old has recently started waking up 2 or 3 times at night and asking for his lullabies to be turned back on. My 1.5 year old has never slept through the night (well, maybe like twice!) and now he is going through an attachment phrase where every time he wakes up (at least 3 times a night), he cries until I come nurse him back to sleep. Sooo... I have to get out of bed about 6 or 7 times a night. And soon we will have a newborn...

It seems like I have adapted to living off broken sleep, so I can only hope that I continue to adapt. It is true that it is all phases, too. My 3 year old used to sleep through the night with no problems until recently, so I just tell myself he will likely get back to that eventually (I hope!!).

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