Family posted on Facebook

LTHopeful · October 2015

So...my grandmother who still thinks she's hip, snapped a photo of my ultrasound when I announced to family today and IMMEDIATELY posted it on facebook after I told her I wasnt telling anyone yet....

I mean its only a week or so before I was goin to announce, but still...

misstopsail · October 2015

Did she tag you in it? I've deleted a couple posts and followed up with a PM to explain we're still sharing the news with close family... Or call her and ask her to take it down.
If it's been up for a while, I'd go ahead and break out your announcement, too.

mrstrax · October 2015

Ugh.

DougalMcG · October 2015

No grandma! No!!! Unfriend.

LTHopeful · October 2015

Im not her friend on Facebook, so i found out when people started calling and texting. I went ahead and posted it myself since the beans were spilled

cmjenkies · October 2015

Oh no! I've been trying to avoid this happening like the plague! Gosh darn those 'hip' grandmas!

elasticheart13 · October 2015

My mother did something similar when I was only 5 weeks pregnant; announcing the pregnancy on Facebook even though I wanted to wait until the second trimester. Luckily my father in law noticed it immediately and called DH and we called my mom and forced her to take it down before it got noticed. Ah parents and grandparents.

thaisac1 · October 2015

Oh no! That blows!!!! Sorry this happened!

JadaBlue · October 2015

My mother did this with DD-I was 7 weeks along and had been through a drawn out loss just two months before. I was livid and felt violated (I'm a private person) and told her so. She didn't seem to get it but took it down and I locked down my wall/tagging until I was ready to share. Which was at 7 months rather than 7 weeks! It sounds like you responded with a good attitude and grace.

erind228 · October 2015

Sounds like something my sister-in-law would do. Sorry, that's annoying.

Ellenlbishop · October 2015

Yep I had pseudo similar experience with my DHs uncle who posted a baby related post and then my FIL responded after we specifically said no to posting anything. My experience is that people over 50 have not learnt Facebook etiquette.

seasalt123 · October 2015

And this is one reason I am holding off telling my parents as long as possible. My mom will immediately tell her sisters who live in a different country. I know, no matter how much I explain it to her, she'll think this is a safe thing to do as I don't talk to her sisters. My aunts will then tell their children and my cousins, who are on Facebook, will then start congratulating me without realizing it's supposed to be a secret and that my coworkers are on my friends list.

My mom will then deny having told her sisters, or at least say she swore them to secrecy and not fully understand the problems she's caused.

TKaiser91 · October 2015

I had this happen at 7 weeks. My aunt posted it on Facebook and luckily I saw it immediately and Messaged her to take it off now. She did and then asked why so I explained that not everybody knew and it also wasn't her place to post something like that. She understood and felt bad for not realizing that herself and It wasn't a huge deal in the end because nobody else saw besides my dad who already knew.

hurricane1212 · October 2015

My inlaws told our entire town when I was 6w with DD. I lost it. I understand people are excited, but it's your news to share when you're ready. You handled it way better than I would've.

helleebellee · October 2015

Sorry this happened to you! The joys of family and social media.

@seasalt123 That is so my mom. I have a lot of reason why I'm not saying anything, yet, but she is the biggest contributing factor. Every time I've told my mom first, she has told everyone before I can get to the next person. I had to yell at her the last time she did it because being nice the previous 2 times didn't help her understand how wrong she was. I now tell her last.

spatter1 · October 2015

I'm so sorry this happened!!! This is one of the huge reasons I don't want to tell many friends and family yet. We're just not ready and I haven't told work yet. I'm not friends with my boss but if other coworkers saw something on Facebook there's no way my boss wouldn't find out - gossip spreads like wildfire in my office. Just so cruddy you can't trust people to keep it to themselves for a couple weeks.

sarahufl · October 2015

Yeah, this is why I didn't even tell my parents till 15 weeks. They know better than to share, but I am just afraid of clueless aunts and uncles sharing. I am only telling people when I see them in person.

I also don't plan to ever announce my pregnancy on Facebook.

LTHopeful · October 2015

And that's the thing, i wasn't even sure I was GOING to announce at all because people are so nosy. Im not married and the dad pulled a disappearing act. Im a private person so I'll date people a LONG time before I take them around my overbearing family. They didnt get to meet this one so everyone feels as if its appropriate to interrogate me about him, even though I dont want to give him that much energy. I havent seen him since I was maybe 4 weeks pregnant. He moved and changed his number, for crying out loud. Ugh.

MrsCayEye · October 2015

Ugh, come on Grandma! My good friend and my cousin both posted congratulations & shared DS' name on FB before we got to share the news after he was born. We were team green too so it kinda sucked having someone else share our news first.

momofmanyinthemitten · October 2015

My mom posted about my brother's second pregnancy before they did. She didn't even realize that she was stealing their thunder by sharing their news, but I let her have it and she deleted it as soon as I told her.

cglr2012 · October 2015

My grandma spilled the beans at my cousins wedding shower when I was only 7 weeks. I had only told parents and grandparents but since the whole family found out I went ahead and announced at 8 weeks. Though I would have rather waited til after her wedding .

desertheart · October 2015

I'm impressed that your grandma knew how to do this!

I feel you though, because my family is like this without even being on FB. Mom tells aunt, aunt tells friend, friend tells neighbor. Before you know it, the whole town knows.

yodiggity · October 2015

desertheart said:

I'm impressed that your grandma knew how to do this!

I feel you though, because my family is like this without even being on FB. Mom tells aunt, aunt tells friend, friend tells neighbor. Before you know it, the whole town knows.

We went to my SO's family reunion yesterday and his Brother-in-law was telling everyone and his sister yelled at him because we weren't ready to be telling people yet.

BrittnyS10 · October 2015

This would make me so mad! My body, my baby, my choice when and who to tell.
I was pretty worried about this happening with my family (especially after certain persons had shared my previous miscarriage with some friends even though i had specifically asked them not to share it with their friends). When we announced to our families i suppose i got a bit nasty right off the bat about making them promise to not share with any friends or extended family as we have specific plans about telling certain people. As far as i know they havent told anyone, though DH did tell me his mom was begging him to let her tell all her friends, i dont think she did but as they live several states away and i dont have contact with her friends i dont actually know for sure.

tripledaggerWed95976 · October 2015

Aww grandma! What a bummer. Did everyone for sure see it?? Well, luckily like u said- u were only a week out from making ur own announcement so I suppose it could've been worse. I can definitely understand your dissapointment though!

jonesl12 · October 2015

I specifically asked both grandmas to not post it on Facebook . I'd be lieing if I said I didn't check daily to be sure they didn't .

Cynthia1207 · October 2015

So rude. I would be upset. I didn't announce on FB with DS until he was born. With this one, I'm not sure what I will do but it remains my decision. Not anyone else's.

Sorry this happened

hummuseater · October 2015

My father announced my engagement online before my now-husband had even proposed. I received congratulatory texts while in Italy on vacation so it spoiled my husband's entire plan!! This is why I only told my family after 13 weeks with our last pregnancy and again with this one. Also making the strict request of not posting anything anywhere online. The risk still remains, but I'm more relaxed if people find out now so would be *less* annoyed. It's hard not to get angry when folks spoil things, BUT it's just because they are so excited for us, which is also nice.

sunnygirlkc · October 2015

Oh the power of facebook..

kcbarbo78 · October 2015

I've had a difficult pregnancy so far and am not yet out of the woods, so I was stunned and upset to find out today that my mother went against my wishes and told one of my aunts. I'm not close with any of my aunts and uncles, and my aunts are extremely gossipy busybodies. I'm 99% sure my aunt has blabbed to others. I Impulsively yelled at my mother (which I regret) and am surprised at how angry I got.

thaisac1 · October 2015

So I was just kinda outed on FB... Not a dedicated post so I'm hoping ppl won't see... Long story short, I'm getting an award tonight so my hospital posted a FB post about it, which my husband and a friend from the U.S. shared in their own timelines. People then commented to say congratulations, and my hairdresser from Brazil replied as well saying congratulations, wishing my lots of success, and saying "I am happy my baby is having a baby!" (My mom had told her when she had a haircut recently). Her English was a bit broken so I'm hoping ppl will think she was lost in translation... I don't feel like telling her to remove it though because she is so sweet and I don't want to hurt her feelings, and this pregnancy is not a secret anymore anyways.... But I haven't done an official FB announcement yet... Ugh.

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