May 2016 Moms
scottland89
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The pregnancy journey as a father
scottland89
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Hi everybody im a first time dad I'm 26 my fiancé is 25 and our baby is due 16th of May although we haven't had a proper dating yet and we couldn't be sure on the last period but I'm super excited and anxious and nervous. Just want to get to that 12 week mark!
Just to give you all a mans perspective on this so far this journey has been extremely hard as it wasn't expected and at first my partner took it hard, for me though it was always a blessing . And so the first couple of weeks knowing was very emotional now all is good in that respect we have been together for almost 9 years so I know we are both ready and capable of being great parents and starting this new chapter of our life together. It has however thrown a real spanner into the works because we were engaged to be married in March next year and now with her being heavily pregnant when that time comes it looks like the wedding will be postponed . We are 10 weeks today and wow has it been a journey so far. I am trying me best to make life as comfortable and easy as possible. I work basically everyday and have had to pick up all the house chores as well as cooking everyday. She feels exhausted constantly although worse at the end of the day so it's been hard to come home exhausted myself and have to clean and do all the cooking all of which I am happy to do and I let her know this although she feels like she is letting me down because I am doing everything atm but I reassure her it's fine she is growing our baby . What makes it really difficult is because of all the changes in her body she doesn't like to be touched and I'm really struggling with not being able to kiss or cuddle her, understandably she is carrying my child and I feel an overwhelming affection toward her right now so it's hard. 2 weeks to go and we can start telling our friends and family so I cannot wait ! And then hopefully her hormones will settle down s little and she won't feel so exhaust and rotten all the time or so the baby books and sites tell me haha fingers crossed . Would love to hear from more dads or mums on how their partner is doing with the pregnancy ?
Just to give you all a mans perspective on this so far this journey has been extremely hard as it wasn't expected and at first my partner took it hard, for me though it was always a blessing . And so the first couple of weeks knowing was very emotional now all is good in that respect we have been together for almost 9 years so I know we are both ready and capable of being great parents and starting this new chapter of our life together. It has however thrown a real spanner into the works because we were engaged to be married in March next year and now with her being heavily pregnant when that time comes it looks like the wedding will be postponed . We are 10 weeks today and wow has it been a journey so far. I am trying me best to make life as comfortable and easy as possible. I work basically everyday and have had to pick up all the house chores as well as cooking everyday. She feels exhausted constantly although worse at the end of the day so it's been hard to come home exhausted myself and have to clean and do all the cooking all of which I am happy to do and I let her know this although she feels like she is letting me down because I am doing everything atm but I reassure her it's fine she is growing our baby . What makes it really difficult is because of all the changes in her body she doesn't like to be touched and I'm really struggling with not being able to kiss or cuddle her, understandably she is carrying my child and I feel an overwhelming affection toward her right now so it's hard. 2 weeks to go and we can start telling our friends and family so I cannot wait ! And then hopefully her hormones will settle down s little and she won't feel so exhaust and rotten all the time or so the baby books and sites tell me haha fingers crossed . Would love to hear from more dads or mums on how their partner is doing with the pregnancy ?
Re: The pregnancy journey as a father
Married: Oct 20, 2013
BFP 1: Aug 31, 2015
EDD 1: May 12, 2016
DD1 Emma born May 12, 2016
An Honest Account of New Motherhood (with Postpartum Anxiety, Depression, and OCD)
BFP 2: October 07, 2019
EDD 2: June 20, 2020
Things do get better for most women as far as having energy, and being able to eat whatever instead of what you can.
Having energy come back will be nice, I don't like running the vacuum while she's napping so it's been about 3 weeks since I've been able to really clean up around the house. As a neat freak it's really bugging me.
Married: Oct 20, 2013
BFP 1: Aug 31, 2015
EDD 1: May 12, 2016
DD1 Emma born May 12, 2016
An Honest Account of New Motherhood (with Postpartum Anxiety, Depression, and OCD)
BFP 2: October 07, 2019
EDD 2: June 20, 2020
I'm just going to add one thing. This may not be the case with your fiance, but maybe it is. My SO and I are on very different excitement levels lately. He is over the moon excited about this baby, and I'm just filled with anxiety. While he's daydreaming about playing peek-a-boo with a toddler, I'm obsessing over fitting daycare into our budget and everything that could possibly. (Literally everything, I asked him the other day what we would do if the kid is an a$$#0le. He just laughed. I'm actually worried that I might not like the kid.)
So while I'm exhausted and feeling terrible, the biggest barrier for me is my mind is worried. We do best when he acknowledges my concerns and works to ease my anxiety. He sat down and fixed our budget this weekend and I had a huge weight of my shoulder. There was lots of snuggling after that. So I guess my advice would be not to assume that the biggest barriers are that she's physically not feeling well. She might mentally need some extra support too.