So I'm sure we are all getting a lot of unsolicited advice on how to take care of our new LOs. How do you all handle it?
It's easy to brush off from random people, but when it's the same person over and over, it's tougher to ignore! Every time we see or talk to my MIL, she asks us detailed questions about baby girl's routines, behavior, etc and then tells us why she's acting that way or questions why our routines are what they are. Colic is shockingly her explanation for everything despite the fact that my baby isn't colicky. She also gives nonsensical advice such as changing her diaper every 2 hours (even if it's dry) to prevent diaper rash. Or to put rubbing alcohol at the injection site after her shots to numb it...never mind the fact that rubbing alcohol doesn't have numbing properties lol.
DH tells me to just nod my head and smile whenever I'm subjected to these conversations and I was doing pretty well with this but my annoyance is starting to become defensiveness and anger. I'm starting to feel like she thinks I don't know what I'm doing. And I know she doesn't trust my instincts because the last time we visited her, she kept asking me if my daughter was hungry even though I kept telling her she'd just taken a bottle. she then spoke to my DH in Spanish, who then said he thought the baby was hungry. LO ended up spitting up on my MIL, which she blamed on colic. ~X(
I'm just getting so frustrated. I don't want to have a bad relationship with her but I can feel myself starting to really dislike her. And I do not have a good poker face! I wish she would just learn to enjoy her granddaughter and stop trying to be a third parent. I need some serious advice here on how to deflect her input without being disrespectful. Help!