Sex

paine0925 · October 2015

When have most of you gotten back in the sack the first time? Did u wait the six weeks? Earlier? Any tips other than to use lots of lube? Anyone have major problems from sex too early?

chelseajeanene · October 2015

I waited 5 weeks after a csection and I felt no pain during and didn't need lube

acoope20 · October 2015

I waited 3 and half weeks after a vaginal birth with a 2nd degree tear and it was great no extra lube needed.

dmbfan46835 · October 2015

Waited 6 weeks, severely torn labia and lots of stitches. Foreplay was great, sex hurt pretty badly. We ended up stopping.

blondehairblueeyeditalianbaby · October 2015

With my first I waited the 6 weeks and it was painful. I had a third degree tear that time. This time I was given the all clear at 4 weeks and had no issues.

beansideirae · October 2015

I had a vaginal birth with no tearing, and the doctor told me I could have sex as soon as I felt ready. we started at 3.5 weeks and haven't had any problems, needed lube the first time but we're back to normal now

jen83mn · October 2015

6 weeks pp (after getting the all-clear from the OB). I had a third degree tear but haven't had any pain or discomfort since 4 weeks post-partum. I was expecting the first time pp to really hurt since it was very painful when we tried during third trimester because my cervix was so sensitive. Thankfully it really didn't hurt at all! It was a little uncomfortable for a few minutes, but we went slow and used lube. I think one or two more times and we'll be totally back to normal again

paine0925 · October 2015

Eeeeek I'm so nervous!!!

Also... I'm worried baby will cry right in the middle of it!! Did that happen to u guys!?

jen83mn · October 2015

paine0925 said:
Eeeeek I'm so nervous!!!

Also... I'm worried baby will cry right in the middle of it!! Did that happen to u guys!?

I was super nervous! Don't worry! I told my husband how nervous I was so he let me determine the pace, etc., and was careful. Being on top helps so you can be in control and take it as slow as you need!

We waited until we put baby to bed for the night to have sex. His naps are too unpredictable, but usually once he goes to sleep for the night he's out for at least 4-7 hours. He's sleeping in the pack n play next to our bed now, so we set the video monitor up in there, then went downstairs to the guest room so we wouldn't wake the baby (and I can't get in the mood with the baby right there!).

TeacherMom210 · October 2015

paine0925 said:

Eeeeek I'm so nervous!!! Also... I'm worried baby will cry right in the middle of it!! Did that happen to u guys!?

This still happens to my sister...and her LO is 8 months! She says the cry means "no siblings!"

On a serious note, the first time DH and I waited the 6 weeks. I had a second degree tear that time. We probably didn't do enough foreplay since we figured everything was fine. Yeah, bad idea. It hurt so badly that we had to stop and I loss interest for quite a while. Eventually we eased into things and it got a lot better.

This time around I also had a second degree tear, but we've been messing around quite a bit. No actual intercourse yet, but we'll be going for it soon.

ReneeJ2011 · October 2015

We did it the day before my 6 weeks check up. It was kind of awkward to be honest. We hadn't done it since June so it had been a long time. We used lube and it was slightly more uncomfortable than it was before but not terrible and I'm sure it will only get better with time.

babyplut · October 2015

This is terrible but we waited 6 days...I had no stitches or any problems and neither of us wanted to wait and missed the closeness ( even though it had only been over a week since the last time) I was super worried but it was all well and we are still having sex and we are 2 1/2 weeks pp. I'm mostly worried about getting pregnant so it's going to be stopping probably this week.

jabeauty90 · October 2015

We did at 3 weeks exactly in the shower, no problems but haven't since.

paine0925 · October 2015

It sounds like everyone is different - some good experiences some bad. Ugh guess I won't know if it hurts or not till I try. I think it would be nice for my husband and I to be with each other in that way, just to be connected and intimate with one another - LO has caused so much stress and sleeplessness (and happiness!) and I think we just need a break from diapers and burping and milk and just 30 min to ourselves in an intimate way.

cassandral56 · October 2015

Honestly my husband and I couldn't even have sex 2 months before our baby was born. I was in so much pain and we would try but it hurt. I felt terrible because of it, I couldn't satisfy my own husband. He didn't take it personally at all, and that's what I love about him. He wanted to make sure I was okay, and if he was hurting me we would stop. So we're getting excited to have that intimacy again because it has been so long.

DreaMak · October 2015

Had no tearing at all, did it at 3w pp, felt wonderful, no pain no dryness

indylardelli · October 2015

does sex feel different after for you and/or your partner?

DreaMak · October 2015

Mu husband said it felt diffrent, i think it does aswell, more pleasurable for me the it use to be @indylardelli

jen83mn · October 2015

indylardelli said:
does sex feel different after for you and/or your partner?

My husband said it felt tighter ... it feels a bit tighter for me as well. We just got the all-clear and have only had sex twice since, but it didn't hurt like we expected it would. We went slow and used lots of lube and the second time was more pleasurable than the first (because I was much more relaxed knowing it wasn't going to be painful ... and I was buzzin' off half a beer, ha!

surprisepkg31 · October 2015

I will be at 6 weeks this coming weeek. I'm nervous for sure. I have had no sex drive since about May. My poor husband keeps asking and I'm just so tired and feel like a soft mozzarella ball. Hard to feel sexy at all with puke on your shirt, air dried hair, milky boobs and dark circles. I had one stitch and pushed my son out in 10 minutes! I think I just need to suck it up now that I hear all you ladies doing it so early. I love my husband and I am attracted to him. Just feel gross myself

monicaP · October 2015

I am on pelvic rest for another 4 weeks (that is after the six week checkup) :-S

TabulaRasa25 · October 2015

I had second-degree perineal laceration with extensive stitches required. You'd better believe I'm doing the full six weeks of pelvic rest,and whatever else I need. Husband and I are affectionate, and are looking forward to resuming, but I'm gonna make darn sure everything's healed up. That was some kind of crazy bloodbath of a delivery.

wilcoxev · October 2015

@monicaP @TabulaRasa25 Same here. 2nd degree tear and at 6 week appt doc said I had to wait another 4-6weeks because I'm still not all healed.

Growingapepper · October 2015

Those of you that started having sex again, were you completely done bleeding or still have some light bleeding or spotting? I'm 3 weeks pp, told my husband we can try at 4 weeks because I am SOOO ready. Just wondering if it's ok to start if I'm still spotting.

chelseajeanene · October 2015

Growingapepper said:
Those of you that started having sex again, were you completely done bleeding or still have some light bleeding or spotting? I'm 3 weeks pp, told my husband we can try at 4 weeks because I am SOOO ready. Just wondering if it's ok to start if I'm still spotting.

I waited until it completely stopped. I'm not comfortable having sex while bleeding and neither is my DH

DreaMak · October 2015

Growingapepper said:
Those of you that started having sex again, were you completely done bleeding or still have some light bleeding or spotting? I'm 3 weeks pp, told my husband we can try at 4 weeks because I am SOOO ready. Just wondering if it's ok to start if I'm still spotting.

I stopped bleeding at 3 days pp (i feel like that's mostly because the postpartum hemorrhage i had, plus breastfeeding), so done bleeding

beansideirae · October 2015

I keep thinking I'm completely stopped, but once in a while (like once a week) get a random spot of bleeding. other than that I was done bleeding by 2 weeks and resumed sex at 3.5 weeks, we're 5 weeks now and everything's still good.

TabulaRasa25 · October 2015

I had a a major postpartum hemorrhage, as well as lacerations, and I'm still lightly bleeding three + weeks out.

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