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Are Miscarriages inappropriate to talk about?

thebeanandithebeanandi member
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I lost my child on May 5; at the time I was a full time college senior for a BA in Psychology. Now I am wanting to apply for nursing school and the program wants a letter staying why I want to be an RN the truth is my miscarriage has really influenced my choices and has been my motivation to continue a second degree. I've asked some people and they say a miscarriage is too personal to use in a program letter. I need opinions to me that's a subject that has now and forever on defined who I am as a woman. Help please. I want to be open but I feel as though it might be inappropriate now.
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Re: Are Miscarriages inappropriate to talk about?

  • cammlyncammlyn member
    It is who you are. It is your story. In my letter to my nursing school I talked about my grandfather and a very bad infection in my knee. It was all very personal. But that is part of being a nurse
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  • rue:Drue:D member
    It isn't inappropriate. It's something that had a profound impact on you and I don't see anything wrong with discussing it. Besides that, if you stick to something too general in the letter, it's not something that will stick in their minds when deciding whether to accept you or not. I say do it, be real, and if nothing else maybe it will be another way to help you cope with the loss.
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  • kickassi78kickassi78 member
    Absolutely include your story of miscarriage. Not only is it a medical issue that effects TONS of women, it's an open and honest situation that has effected you. They want to know why, and that is your reason. No reason to hide that whatsoever. I think miscarriage is way to often swept under the rug and is so hush hush. It doesn't need to be! You didn't do anything wrong and there are many women who would appreciate your ability to be able to talk about the issue and address the fact that, that is what lead you to where you are today. It's the truth, and the speaking the truth always is the best policy. Don't be afraid to include what has influenced you personally. You never know, the woman who may read your letter may have walked in those shoes too...or the fellow may have had a wife experience the same thing. It's life! It happens and there is nothing to be ashamed of. Good luck!
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  • angelbab807angelbab807 member
    I think it's appropriate. It's part of you and your life. It happens more than most people realize and your experience may be able to help someone else to know they're not alone.
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  • queen_frostinequeen_frostine member
    I think it is completely appropriate to mention. You may want to make sure you do so in a way that shows you are serious about your plan and it is not just a sudden change based on emotions that will fade later, if you are at all worried.


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  • nkyokleynkyokley member
    It's not inappropriate at all. Just as with any other tragedy, it's all up to what you're comfortable with sharing. As others have said, it's had a huge impact on your life and is just as much a part of your story as anything else. 

    I hope that one day society can move past the topic of miscarriage as "taboo", we so freely discuss our loses and tragedies but rarely do you see this openly discussed.
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