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Terrible Mom Decision!

mama-times3mama-times3 member
in October 2015 Moms
My sister in law is in the ICU right now, and tonight I took my 12 day old son to go visit her. I also visited another floor on the hospital (that I used to work on) to say hello to some old coworkers. I'm not sure why I thought that was a good idea to take a newborn back to the hospital, but I am kind of freaking out now. We were there for less than two hours but I am so paranoid that he picked up something and I keep thinking of all the terrible things that could happen to him if he did. As a first time mom I have a feeling I'll make more stupid parenting decisions that I'll regret, but it's such a terrible feeling! Please tell me that I'm not the only mom who has made a dumb decision like this..
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  • midge519midge519 member
    I took my 3 day old son to an amusement park. I needed to get away from all the people and enjoy some relaxing time. I didn't let people touch him and he was mainly in his car seat attached to the stroller or in our arms but still. He is now 8 and doing amazing!

    Don't be so hard on yourself Momma. We all need time out and our bodies and babies bodies are amazing at what they're supposed to do. It'll be ok
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  • CocoR04CocoR04 member
    edited October 2015
    This is just the beginning of second guessing decisions!! I cringe when I think of some of the things we've done as parents that have all turned out fine, but in hindsight I'm like WTF was I thinking?! :)

    It's not like you took an 8 month old to the hospital to crawl around on the floor and chew on some gross hospital bed rails. I'm pretty sure the air in the hospital contains as many viruses as the grocery store or target unless your hospital has been overrun with flu patients. Therefore, the risk of baby getting sick right now would be the same if you went to any public place.

    Please don't worry, mama! The fact that you are thinking about this at all makes you a great mom!!
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  • 1stComesLove4211stComesLove421 member
    You're not a bad mom for doing that. With our first at 5 days old we went to a coffee shop and grocery shopping. At a month old I took her on a full week trip to visit my family! I regret nothing, she turned out just fine! However at the time I did have those regrets. You learn to move on, live, and learn! Don't beat yourself up for every choice you make.
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  • MamaOwl15MamaOwl15 member
    With my first, I had to go to the ER 5 days PP due to postpartum pre-e. I didn't want to be alone, so my husband and my 5-day old came along. Because the ER is such a great place for a newborn . . .

    He's 2.5 now and never had any major illness.

    Yesterday I took my 2-week kid DD to Target, Walmart and Chick-fil-A. In sure she'll be ok even though there are germs in the air. No need to stay cooped up inside the whole first month!

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  • ameares721ameares721 member
    My husband got sick during the time I was in the hospital giving birth and baby and I did not - he pointed out that we were pumped with antibiotics (baby was early and we didn't have the GBS test yet). We have taken her all over from the very beginning with no issues. I brought her to my office in a school, to a senior center, the store, the park, a festival, and next week a state fair and the zoo! Older people scoff and say "I didn't leave the house with the baby for six weeks!" Well, times have changed my friend!
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  • sdnyc99sdnyc99 member
    I took my 3 day old on a plane!

    Technically not really my choice, as it was either a plane ride or a 12-hour car ride since she was born early and in the wrong city (born the day before I was due to fly home from college - a month before my due date, which we thought was safe!).

    Anyway, she was fine and is now 17 and the healthiest kid I know.

    You're not a bad mom!
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