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SKM3783
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3.5 year old in daycare for the first time and not adjusting
SKM3783
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in Working Moms
Hello, I would love some advice from anyone who has been through a similar situation.
I've recently returned to work full time after staying home with my daughter for 3 years. She is 3.5 and will be 4 in about a month. She has a younger brother and used to being around small groups of kids younger than her but not many her own age or older.
It's been 5 weeks, and she is not adjusting to daycare. She is in a full time preschool/daycare program and is there from about 7-4 5 days a week.
As soon as she wakes up in the morning, she cries, saying she doesn't want to go. She cries at drop off and clings to me. Her teachers say that she is starting to participle in class but most days when I pick her up she is standing alone crying, not playing with other kids, or reading books alone while other kids play together. She does ok in the evenings once she's home but asks if she has to go tomorrow at least 5 times a night.
She's told us that it's scary, her teachers are scary and not nice. This is a reputable daycare program at the church the we attend. I've met her teachers and they're very nice people.
I know some of this is normal, but my biggest concern is the fact that she is upset and both drop off and pick up, and that it's been over a month with little improvement. I'm wondering if it's a bad daycare, or maybe she has social anxiety? Or is this normal for her age? I am debating leaving my job again and reducing her to just the preschool hours (9-12 3 days a week) but I don't know if that's warranted.
Thanks in advance for any responses!
I've recently returned to work full time after staying home with my daughter for 3 years. She is 3.5 and will be 4 in about a month. She has a younger brother and used to being around small groups of kids younger than her but not many her own age or older.
It's been 5 weeks, and she is not adjusting to daycare. She is in a full time preschool/daycare program and is there from about 7-4 5 days a week.
As soon as she wakes up in the morning, she cries, saying she doesn't want to go. She cries at drop off and clings to me. Her teachers say that she is starting to participle in class but most days when I pick her up she is standing alone crying, not playing with other kids, or reading books alone while other kids play together. She does ok in the evenings once she's home but asks if she has to go tomorrow at least 5 times a night.
She's told us that it's scary, her teachers are scary and not nice. This is a reputable daycare program at the church the we attend. I've met her teachers and they're very nice people.
I know some of this is normal, but my biggest concern is the fact that she is upset and both drop off and pick up, and that it's been over a month with little improvement. I'm wondering if it's a bad daycare, or maybe she has social anxiety? Or is this normal for her age? I am debating leaving my job again and reducing her to just the preschool hours (9-12 3 days a week) but I don't know if that's warranted.
Thanks in advance for any responses!
Re: 3.5 year old in daycare for the first time and not adjusting