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Awesome parent/in-law stories

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in December 2015 Moms
I figured we have a lot of (well-deserved!) rants about family. And we (eventually) want to be good grandparents and in-laws. So maybe we can take some time and talk about good experiences and reactions from our family during pregnancy?

I found when I got married that I had incredible in-laws - so encouraging and not particular about any part of the wedding, just "how can I help?" Same with my parents. They've done the same now 10 years later now that we're finally pregnant.

Although our personalities do clash the odd time, I am just so grateful that my in-laws and parents have been so supportive about our pregnancy.

Eg - My mom had natural births with all her kids and I was a bit afraid to tell her I was planning for an epidural. She didn't bat an eyelash - we had a great discussion and she was very supportive.

My father-in-law wanted to buy baby items, but volunteered, if it would be more helpful, to assist us in finishing our basement instead (which it absolutely was more helpful). I was amazed and grateful at that.
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  • VesperLoveVesperLove member
    None from over here. Yet.

    But thrilled you all have some great experiences! 
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  • kit9452kit9452 member
    My mother has basically written me out of her life... I've gotten maybe a text or two from her since telling her I was pregnant. She didn't even come to my baby shower.

    With that being said, my in-laws have been wonderfully amazing. They are so excited about this baby and haven't been pushy at all. They have already offered as much help as I need when baby comes. I'm not sure what I would do without them and feel so lucky to have them in my life.
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  • BellaM110BellaM110 member
    This baby will be the first grandchild for both sides so he is being spoiled already. I also feel so lucky and blessed to have very generous parents and MIL. My parents purchased his dresser, crib and a number of smaller items (clothes, diapers, etc). My MIL has graciously purchased our travel system and a number of clothes. All of which we greatly appreciate. It's so wonderful to know how loved our little ones are already! :x
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  • TomekiaBTomekiaB member
    My MIL wrote a decent sized check to help pay for baby stuff--she is not rich so it was a result of her savings. She has always made it clear that she really cares about me and my family.

    As much as the language barrier with my in-laws can be stressful it also provides a buffer...I honestly don't know if it bothers her that I run pregnant etc because if it does my husband doesn't translate it.

    Like all relationships it is complex and not all sunshine and roses but I know that she loves us and has good intentions.
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  • dec15mumdec15mum member
    My parents and brothers have been fantastic, they've all chipped in with baby stuff and letting me and my SO live with them. They want to be around to help out and my mum is always there to reassure me.
    Couldn't ask for a better family
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  • mrsadams0526mrsadams0526 member
    My in laws and my dad have been incredible. Super supportive of everything and always checking to see how things are going. We were surprised at our baby shower to find out that my in laws had purchased all of the furniture that we were wanting for our nursery, and my dad had bought all of the decor that we were wanting. Now, it's just getting it all organized and ready for baby girl. I feel amazingly lucky to have the parents and in laws that I do. I couldn't ask for anything better!!
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  • jjmacejjmace member
    Adding to the positiveness! From the day I met my mil I felt so comfortable around her, and lucky that she is my mans mom (and now mine as well). She is a lovely woman, mother of five, and someone who I feel I can learn so much from.
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  • ChiccoBeanzChiccoBeanz member
    My mother, aunts and cousin have been awesome. Every time I have a moment of anxiety or a freak out,  they are there to support and help me through it. I'd be a basket case without them. 
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  • Mother0fDragonsMother0fDragons member
    edited October 2015
    My in laws and dad have been wonderful. They all check in with us to find out how LO and I are doing and ask if there's anything that they can help us with. It's been seven years since there has been a baby in the family on my side, so my dad is excited for another grandchild. My husband's family is over the moon with excitement to welcome their first grandbaby into the family.

    My dad came to visit me and brought my old desk and a dresser for me to repaint and put in LO's nursery. We received a package yesterday from MIL with a bunch of baby clothes in various sizes, she hit the jackpot at Carter's during their Columbus Day sale.

    I'm so grateful for their love and support!
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  • Mother0fDragonsMother0fDragons member
    jjmace said:
    Adding to the positiveness! From the day I met my mil I felt so comfortable around her, and lucky that she is my mans mom (and now mine as well). She is a lovely woman, mother of five, and someone who I feel I can learn so much from.

    I feel the same way about mine! She has been giving me some great advice on babies, she raised four. She knows a thing or two for sure.
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  • ammnam14ammnam14 member
    I am surrounded by amazing people! My in laws just adore me and I adore them as well. They are the kindest people you will ever meet. My MIL surprised us and offered to buy the crib. She let me pick out any crib I wanted! My SIL has two children so we are getting tons of hand me downs, I love it! They are nothing but supportive. :)

    My family is also amazing! This will be the first granddaughter after tons of boys so everyone is ecstatic! My mom is staying with us for a while after my LO comes. She breastfed all 5 babies so I'm looking forward to her breastfeeding advice. My dad is just head over heels in love with the baby already. This will be his first biological grandchild so he's going crazy. My mom had to stop him from going overboard with outfits lol!

    I'm pretty thankful to be surrounded by people that love us and want us to be happy. :)
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  • KRH6829KRH6829 member
    My parents and in laws have been great. My in laws live about ten minutes from us and my parents live half way across the country. My in laws sometimes pick my son up from day care and have him spend the night so I can relax after work. My husband, their son, is already gone for work by the time that we get up and usually doesn't get home until after 8. It has been hard taking care of my son all by myself the more pregnant I get. I truly appreciate them doing this sometime, and I know that they like getting to spend the extra time with their grandson. My parents have also been out to visit mainly to help me out. My mom would cook dinner and my parents would help get my son ready for daycare. I couldn't ask for better parents or in laws.
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  • jenbstevensjenbstevens member
    My parents have been absolutely amazing. My husband works and goes to school, and I don't have a ton of time I can take off after baby is born, so they are moving across the country to stay with us and help take care of him. We are so grateful and excited and they're excited too! Not only that but they have been helping us with rent so we could get a place big enough for all of us, which my husband and I have been living in alone since July.
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  • hayliermhaylierm member
    We have been so blessed this entire pregnancy. This little guy has already had a full wardrobe and his own library almost since before we knew he was a boy! Haha we had our shower on the third and people were so generous it was just amazing. He is the first grandchild for everyone and the first baby in the family in quite some time. Between my mom and step mom there almost wasn't anything left on the registry for others to buy! :) but we got just about everything we asked for and gift cards so I can buy the last few things we need. I have only had to buy a few maternity clothes because a few friends of the family were kind enough to think of me and send some hand me downs.

    As far as non material things I haven't really had much of a relationship with my dad and step mom in my adult life. We just have a lot of different beliefs and they aren't the type of people I would be around if it wasn't for familial obligations. That being said, they have made a huge effort to be involved now that a baby is involved. Which, to he honest, is a little annoying/insulting. But I really appreciate the effort and I know my baby deserves as many people as possible to love him in his life. They are really trying and I suppose it's never too late to come together and repair things. At the end of the day its hard to believe how lucky we are and how much love this guy already has before he's even here.
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  • ealiskaealiska member
    My mother in law actually stuck up for me when others were saying I was paranoid about not wanting a used crib from the 80s and said she knew her grandmother would be well taken care of.
    My mom has also graciously offered to watch LO when she's born a few days a week to cut back on childcare costs. On top of that-she doesn't want me even worrying about deciding on a day care now so for the couple months between me coming back from maternity and summer break she said she'd watch her every day!
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  • mltarriomltarrio member
    I love this thread. It's so nice to read about all these great families helping out.

    I too have terrific family around me. My parents and in-laws are very different but they have all been so great. Together they have supplied most of the big, (expensive), items we need for the baby, and just given us so much support. I feel really blessed that our little girl will be born with so much love around her. I think she is really lucky.

    One cute side story. My Dad is possibly the worlds best, and he and I are super close. He has called my phone and left voicemail for the baby so I can play it to my belly. He also got his first ever flu shot this week because I asked him to. I think it's so sweet how much he cares about this little girl. I can't wait to see them together.
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  • mrs14678mrs14678 member
    I was over at my parents house and my sisters were painting their toenails. I said I wished I could too..... My mom said "Pick a color! I'll do it for you!" :) She's so sweet!!
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  • hjcookhjcook member
    Yea for a happy post!! 
    My own mother has passed away. My MIL, while has some issues, is wanting to be supportive. she has purchased many things for us. she is driving to a shower where we live now, it is a 7 hour drive and she is somewhat agoraphobic. Just the fact she is making the trip is so honoring to me. Also, she will come and stay for two weeks when the wee babe comes. We live in a small apartment and our neighbors will be gone for several weeks over Christmas, so we can sublet their apartment. She is a germaphobe big time, but again, trying to set herself aside to be helpful!! I'm so appreciative. DH is her only son, and so first grandchild. She desperately wants to know the names we have picked out (Team Green) but has respected our desire to not share. My SIL and female cousins have been super helpful answering questions and giving great advice. Also, they hosted a shower for me when I was home last. They've given me handme down maternity clothes, cloth diapers, books, baby clothes, etc. I don't think it has occurred to my dad to buy us anything. so even tho it is tough to talk about mom (we are so sad yet) he is willing to try and answer my questions about her pregnancy with me and my brother. 
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  • bebosbebos member
    This is a great thread! 

    My dad is making us a changing table and giving us the cradle that he made for me when I was a baby. I'm so excited to pass this family treasure to my DS! 

    My mom and MIL both offered to babysit for us once the hubby and I go back to work. We were so surprised when both moms offered to help babysit to cover the 5 day work week. It's so amazing, especially since we will be very tight on funds. We're not quite sure how to thank them for this!!
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  • VegetaElPrincipeVegetaElPrincipe member
    We were having a gathering for my husband to be welcomed into fatherhood. It got cancelled for whatever reason. I recently got wind that my hostesses of my "secret" baby shower have extended the invitations, and essentially their budgets, to the people who were invited to the other party so that my Husband's friends could be included. I really love my family and I'm proud of them for stepping up and really loving my husband as if he was one of us kids. They really go above and beyond for him to be included and to show him he is family. It's a huge blessing and I am really thankful to share that. 
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  • GodIsFaithful93GodIsFaithful93 member
    My in-laws live in WI & we live in TN. My MIL is coming in town when I go into labor to take our-then- 20mo DD while I'm in the hospital & staying a week to help out. DD hasn't spent the night away from me yet so I'm so nervous but feel great that she's going to get all this love & attention from MIL while I'm not there. So grateful.
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  • keiragannkeiragann member
    My mother in law has dropped off baby stuff at least once a week just because she "was shopping." Today she also came down and deep cleaned my entire kitchen, including emptying and rearranging my cupboards so I have room for bottles. She did not need to do this but it made my day and my nesting instincts so happy. She even cleaned out my oven, my microwave, and my toaster oven!

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    BFP#3 January 26th EDD October 9th! Hoping for my girl!

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