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Self soothing at 3 months

isabelle0621isabelle0621 member
in July 2015 Moms
My LO is now 15 weeks and I would like him to start falling asleep on his own. It's getting very exhausting having to rock or pat and shush him for a least 15 min everytime my husband or I want to put him to bed. What technique is appropriate for his age? What have you done?
BTW, I have a set bedtime and nap routines. My LO naps for 30-45 min only and at night time, he sleeps for 3-4 hrs straight and then he wakes up every 1-1.5 hr until the rest of the night. I feed him everytime he wakes up because he is asking for it. We have to make sure he is in a deep sleep before I put him down in his crib, otherwise, he wakes up 10 min later and asks for us.
I would be curious to know what you have done that worked for you. Many thanks mamas!! :)
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Re: Self soothing at 3 months

  • eclohoecloho member
    I don't know that it's anything we did, but my LO learned to self soothe. He sucks his hands or uses a pacifier, grunts/groans & shifts around a little then goes to sleep after a few minutes. He sleeps in a swaddle up suit which allows him access to his hands near his face. Sometimes he's just so tired & super cranky that it happens almost instantly!!
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  • isabelle0621isabelle0621 member
    Thanks for your reply "ecloho"! We had tried to put him down drowsy but awake as many experts recommend but he cries if he wakes up once we put him down. Maybe he is not ready yet to self soothe? However, he has been sucking on his fingers/hand but he won't take the pacifier.
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  • KAR8706KAR8706 member
    We us the Love to dream 50/50 swaddler and previously used halo swaddlers which helped. My LO also self soothes, he did it from birth, at the hospital he would calm down before I was able to get up and get him out of the bassinet. We also got a sheep sleep giraffe for $4 at once upon a time and it helps relax him.
    Best of Luck! 
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  • lilyan1522lilyan1522 member
    Maybe try a mobile that plays soothing music that he can watch while he drifts off to sleep. My son loves that. I put him down drowsy in his Merlin sleep suit with a paci and start the mobile and he's out in a few mins. And some white noise to help keep him asleep. I also have a little bear that plays soft music and vibrates when you push it's tummy. Sometimes when he wakes up I use that and don't pick him up. It seems to be teaching him to self soothe rather than needing to be picked up and rocked. Good luck!
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  • nemRNnemRN member
    Merlin magic suit helped us with this, before the suit LO was the same way we had to bounce her to sleep in a yoga ball lol but now once I put the suit on her I either nurse her or sing a song and rock her for a few minutes and can put her in the crib awake and she will fall asleep with me rubbing her tummy for a minute! Never thought this baby would do that! If she wakes we give her the paci and that calms her quickly. Good luck !
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  • eclohoecloho member
    We LOVE our sleep sheep BTW & we use it every night. I guess it compliments his self-soothing efforts
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  • krkmpagekrkmpage member
    My son has fell asleep on his own since day one. He naps as long as he wants when he wants. He goes to bed around 7-9 depending on when he is tired and sleeps till 5am. He only liked swaddling for a few weeks but then hated it. He is a mover and has to have his arms free. I also turn on his mobile at night so he can watch and listen to that. I also have a sound machine that plays music on a timer. So after his mobile stops there is still music playing.
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  • isabelle0621isabelle0621 member
    Thanks everyone! I swaddle and play also his bunny with white noises. I guess I have to continue what I'm doing and wait for him to mature enough to self soothe. I guess every baby is different and learn to self soothe when ready just like walking. I will try to put him down drowsy but awake from now on and settle him if he cries. Thanks again for all your responses! :)
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  • arbell615arbell615 member
    My LO won't fall asleep without being held and bouncing or nursing. She sucks on her fingers all the time when she's awake and has had a couple of naps where I put her down sleepy and she fell asleep on her own, but nothing consistent. I know this doesn't have any tips for you, just wanted you to know you're not alone!
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  • AziaNickAziaNick member
    We kind of have a routine. When she cries we don't soothe her or pick her up right away because we don't want her to think that when she cries she gets held BUT we also don't let her cry for longer then 15 minutes. When she cries, every 5 minutes we let her know we are there and it's ok. She has been self soothing on her own now since 2 months. She is 4 months now. It just depends on the baby and the parent. My mother in law thinks that right when a baby cries you should pick them up, and my mom says to just let them cry. We do a little bit of both I guess. She has different cries, so when she is hungry, we feed her of course but when she is just whining and throwing a little tantrum we do everything to calm her down except pick her up. Good luck! :)
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