It's my pity party & I can cry if I want to

kalanieileen · October 2015

Can we just throw ourselves a little pity party here!? I've been stuck in the ER for a bacterial infection and high fever. Yesterday I threw up 7 times.. Felt like I was hawking up my intestines. Is it so bad that I just want to feel bad for myself for a couple minutes? Haha

What's your pity party today? No judgements, just a thread where we can complain and support each other.

ashdawn24 · October 2015

My husband is gone on a placement for school for 2 weeks, my daughter isn't sleeping (teeth) and yesterday at school my student (who has behavioural issues, but generally is great) tried to stab me, drew on me with a sharpie, kicked me, threw a can at my head, called me a b*****d and threw water on me- which actually made me angrier than anything else. It was a long day.

AEG84 · October 2015

I was talking to a friend this morning, remarking how excited I was that I could finally take my prenatal again without barfing this week. Then I took it at lunch, and barfed at work (barely made it to the bathroom in time). This baby might be a jerk.

(But, nowhere near as crappy as either of your situations!)

aweiss1011 · October 2015

AEG84 said:
I was talking to a friend this morning, remarking how excited I was that I could finally take my prenatal again without barfing this week. Then I took it at lunch, and barfed at work (barely made it to the bathroom in time). This baby might be a jerk.

(But, nowhere near as crappy as either of your situations!)

Gummy prenatal vitamins!! No way I would be able to swallow a vitamin.

runningwild · October 2015

Hope you feel better @kalanieileen

I'll join the pity party. First thing this morning, my DH car had a flat tire and my car wouldn't start. Had to borrow my mom's car so I could get DD to school on time (luckily she only lives 5 minutes away). And I majorly hurt my lower back somehow while trying to move DD2 giant car seat over to my borrowed car. I am in so much pain right now. Can't wait for this crappy day to be over.

AmadorRose · October 2015

Wow. I don't mean to sound nasty but y'all just made me feel so much better. I just had to stop myself from hitting our dog (as it obviously does no good - I'm just so frustrated!) because she decided to take a bill off the table, eat half of it, and make a huge mess on the floor. I decided to take a bath because it's been a generally crappy day, and she ran away when I told her to go to her room so I followed her and grabbed her collar to guide her there. Generally she won't actually go to her cage until we guide her to a couple feet in front of it. She thought I was playing, swatted at me, and left a scratch over a foot long down my thigh. I'm not exactly entering beauty pageants but I am so ready for her to be out of the puppy stage and trained! Ugh.

momofmanyinthemitten · October 2015

I spent New Year's Eve in the ER after a round of the stomach flu when I was pregnant with #3. When I got home, we discovered that DD1 had started puking 30 min prior, so I sat/slept on her floor the rest of the night with a puke bowl and holding her hair back. It sucked. I feel your pain, OP.

Ready4theParty · October 2015

My tenants just don't get the help me help you as far as getting the house on the market. The sooner the house is listed the more likely we are to get it sold. If we sell it before they move out they are able to break their lease. Yet they still refuse to let our realtor in. It sucks selling a house from half way across the country.

kimey1 · October 2015

My doc didn't get back to me on when we'd do the NT test and now I have to schedule an emergency appt next week at the hospital he's a director at (not the clinic I usually visit). The way hospitals work in the tristate area, I'll be super duper lucky if my doc's hospital squeezes me in at some odd time, and I'll have to wait somewhere between 30min-2hrs once I get there for my appointment.

Other large clinics in my network aren't interested in taking me unless I move my care entirely to their facility. This is SO, SO annoying when I had told my doc that I would be away for the month of November so I wanted all tests done and results out before my departure. I'll be on the phone for half the day tomorrow praying that I get an appointment! ARG!!

BrittnyS10 · October 2015

aweiss1011 said:

AEG84 said:
I was talking to a friend this morning, remarking how excited I was that I could finally take my prenatal again without barfing this week. Then I took it at lunch, and barfed at work (barely made it to the bathroom in time). This baby might be a jerk.

(But, nowhere near as crappy as either of your situations!)
Gummy prenatal vitamins!! No way I would be able to swallow a vitamin.

I was taking the gummy ones until about week 8 when even THINKING about taking them was making me throw up, i just couldnt stand the taste anymore

AEG84 · October 2015

BrittnyS10 said:

I was talking to a friend this morning, remarking how excited I was that I could finally take my prenatal again without barfing this week. Then I took it at lunch, and barfed at work (barely made it to the bathroom in time). This baby might be a jerk.

(But, nowhere near as crappy as either of your situations!)
Gummy prenatal vitamins!! No way I would be able to swallow a vitamin.
I was taking the gummy ones until about week 8 when even THINKING about taking them was making me throw up, i just couldnt stand the taste anymore

Same here. I don't have a problem swallowing pills...I think it's the iron in my regular prenatals since I was feeling fine before

amaniupendo · October 2015

I have a pregnancy-related contact dermatitis or something that's terribly annoying. The dermatologist in a follow up appointment said it might be early onset PUPPP.

kalanieileen · October 2015

Everyone's pity party is valid!

Update: just got home from the ER after 10 hours, 3 iv bags, poked and prodded, blood vials taken. Ugh I'm so drained. The ER physician was very knowledgeable but his bedside manner was a bit off. DH and I were a bit concerned about the staph infection affecting the LO... And his response was "well the baby is in the Lord's hands now"
LOL WHAT!

AmadorRose · October 2015

@kalanieileen that's awful. Prayers for you and LO!

BrittnyS10 · October 2015

kalanieileen said:
Everyone's pity party is valid!

Update: just got home from the ER after 10 hours, 3 iv bags, poked and prodded, blood vials taken. Ugh I'm so drained. The ER physician was very knowledgeable but his bedside manner was a bit off. DH and I were a bit concerned about the staph infection affecting the LO... And his response was "well the baby is in the Lord's hands now"
LOL WHAT!

Well that dr doesnt sound very reassuring... Though on the other hand, as someone with a very strong faith in God i believe that in the Lord's hands is the very best place to put my faith that my baby will be healthy.
I hope you get better quickly, and ill say a prayer for you and your LO.

kalanieileen · October 2015

@AmadorRose @BrittnyS10 thank you ladies, I truly appreciate it! I'm anxiously waiting my OB appointment next week to talk to someone who knows much more about babies and reassuring FTMs!

loveymay · October 2015

@kalanieileen I can't believe he said that! That's terrible!! I hope you start feeling better soon!

My pity party is that I've had terrible congestion for a week now and I woke up today with a completely stuffed up nose and my nose is so runny. I think it might be the start of either a cold or a sinus infection. But I can barely breathe and I'm so over it!!! I feel like its just one thing after another with this pregnancy. Makes me recall something my cousin said to me years ago. I was in my early twenties and she already had 1 kid and was asking me when I was going to have a baby (I was in college and not in a serious relationship at the time) I told her when I'm 30. She said "oh it'll be so much harder being pregnant in your thirties than in your early twenties." And I told her I wouldn't have anything to compare it to so it didn't matter.......now I feel like she must have secretly said a curse or something so I would have a tough time! Blast!!!!

kimey1 · October 2015

kalanieileen said:

Everyone's pity party is valid! Update: just got home from the ER after 10 hours, 3 iv bags, poked and prodded, blood vials taken. Ugh I'm so drained. The ER physician was very knowledgeable but his bedside manner was a bit off. DH and I were a bit concerned about the staph infection affecting the LO... And his response was "well the baby is in the Lord's hands now" LOL WHAT!

WHAT!! Seriously. Your question was so serious and that's all he could say?! XD

Jheaps · October 2015

My pity party is that I just had to fire someone at work last week, but was told I had to keep her on until November 2 so she can keep her benefits for an extra month. She clearly hates me and has stopped doing work, but she shows up randomly at work (rolled in at 11am yesterday) and just chitchats with her bestie (who now also hates me and is not doing work either). So I've got double the work and I can't even look for her replacement until Nov. 2. I wish she'd just go away and not come in anymore.

brie_and_almonds · October 2015

I broke down and cried in front of my students today because one of them tried to lock me out of my classroom (I had keys) while I stepped into the hall to talk to his classmate. I don't think I have ever been so instantly furious, but then after the initial surge of rage I started welling up and couldn't stop. Meanwhile, classes changed and I had random students peeking in to see me as an emotional wreck.

Of course, after the day ended, word had gotten around and some of my coworkers came to check on me, which made me lose it again.

I hate everything right now, but I need to get it together so that I can call parents and then gtfo of here until Monday.

allaire314 · October 2015

DH has decided suddenly that we need to move before baby (we have plenty of room, already painted the nursery...but whatever). So I start looking for places, and find The. Perfect. House. I'm in love... It has everything he is looking for, plus things he didn't even know he wanted, and same for me! Plus I love the way it looks... so I show him, and he's not at all excited... Shows no enthusiam, and I start to cry... not because I was trying to get my way or anything... I just couldn't help my disappointment! DH was afraid it was too expensive (even though it was WELL below some of the places he picked)... but it turns out... talked to our lender today, and even with keeping our current house so we can rent it out, we can afford it. So pity party turned regular party! Touring houses next week!

jonesl12 · October 2015

My lower backand butt hurts so bad on the right side it hurts to walk today. DH is home from work because he threw out his back so no sympathy here...

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misstopsail · October 2015

While I lay here sobbing (thanks, Hormones), I'll share mine.. Although it's not on the level of some of these (my response to the ER doc might not have been kind).
DH and I got into a fight last week about a trip I was supposed to go on (leaving today). I said I wouldn't go, and that ended it for him.
Well, I'm feeling pretty down about not going (was a trip to see family) and he finally asked what was wrong.
REALLY?
Then he got mad at me for being sad I wasn't going.
Bleh.. Can't win today.

Poppy16 · October 2015

amaniupendo said:

I have a pregnancy-related contact dermatitis or something that's terribly annoying. The dermatologist in a follow up appointment said it might be early onset PUPPP.

I had PUPPP with one of my pregnancies. It totally sucked. It came on around month 7 and thankfully only lasted a month or so. Hopefully yours is quick!

Poppy16 · October 2015

My whine is that my youngest is special needs and needs a lot of therapies and medication for various things. Her adoption isn't finalized yet, so she is still a foster child under the state healthcare system. They are so freaking stingy with what medication and therapy they will pay for. I have to fight tooth and nail for each little thing she needs. It's getting really old. $:\$

AmadorRose · October 2015

brenlo42 said:
I broke down and cried in front of my students today because one of them tried to lock me out of my classroom (I had keys) while I stepped into the hall to talk to his classmate. I don't think I have ever been so instantly furious, but then after the initial surge of rage I started welling up and couldn't stop. Meanwhile, classes changed and I had random students peeking in to see me as an emotional wreck.

Of course, after the day ended, word had gotten around and some of my coworkers came to check on me, which made me lose it again.

I hate everything right now, but I need to get it together so that I can call parents and then gtfo of here until Monday.

This is why I have so much respect for teachers - kids are assholes. Every one of them. I personally don't like other people's kids, and I can't fathom having to be nice to them to earn a living. I would starve.

kalanieileen · October 2015

AmadorRose said:

brenlo42 said:
I broke down and cried in front of my students today because one of them tried to lock me out of my classroom (I had keys) while I stepped into the hall to talk to his classmate. I don't think I have ever been so instantly furious, but then after the initial surge of rage I started welling up and couldn't stop. Meanwhile, classes changed and I had random students peeking in to see me as an emotional wreck.

Of course, after the day ended, word had gotten around and some of my coworkers came to check on me, which made me lose it again.

I hate everything right now, but I need to get it together so that I can call parents and then gtfo of here until Monday.
This is why I have so much respect for teachers - kids are assholes. Every one of them. I personally don't like other people's kids, and I can't fathom having to be nice to them to earn a living. I would starve.

Agreed, I commend you for taking on such a challenging and important career. I definitely don't have the patience to be a teacher, I would probably be fired my first day on the job if I was a teacher. Good luck to you momma

brie_and_almonds · October 2015

AmadorRose said:

brenlo42 said:
I broke down and cried in front of my students today because one of them tried to lock me out of my classroom (I had keys) while I stepped into the hall to talk to his classmate. I don't think I have ever been so instantly furious, but then after the initial surge of rage I started welling up and couldn't stop. Meanwhile, classes changed and I had random students peeking in to see me as an emotional wreck.

Of course, after the day ended, word had gotten around and some of my coworkers came to check on me, which made me lose it again.

I hate everything right now, but I need to get it together so that I can call parents and then gtfo of here until Monday.
This is why I have so much respect for teachers - kids are assholes. Every one of them. I personally don't like other people's kids, and I can't fathom having to be nice to them to earn a living. I would starve.

Really they are not all assholes, many of them are wonderful and thoughtful and kind, but the assholes are the ones that stick in my mind at the end of the day. If I'm being really honest, I'm probably in the wrong profession because I am way too emotional even when I'm not pregnant.

pinottoparenthood · October 2015

@brenlo42 EVERY TIME my students have ever made me SO MAD to the point of shaking, it makes me want to cry! i don't know why those two emotions run hand in hand. I have never actually cried in front of the kids, but at my first school I cried in front of every single administrator... and it was always out of total anger and frustration. Kids can be real jerks sometimes! Hope it gets better!

What grade(s) do you teach?

K&Elizabeth · October 2015

brenlo42 said:
I broke down and cried in front of my students today because one of them tried to lock me out of my classroom (I had keys) while I stepped into the hall to talk to his classmate. I don't think I have ever been so instantly furious, but then after the initial surge of rage I started welling up and couldn't stop. Meanwhile, classes changed and I had random students peeking in to see me as an emotional wreck.

Of course, after the day ended, word had gotten around and some of my coworkers came to check on me, which made me lose it again.

I hate everything right now, but I need to get it together so that I can call parents and then gtfo of here until Monday.

I got KICKED and SPIT ON by a student today. Yes, she has an intellectual disability but it is definitely not beyond her understanding that kicking and spitting is so not okay. I called her parents and they were all "aren't you trained on how to handle kids with special needs?!" Um, yes. Please see my masters degree for proof. The problem was totally being redirected to my faults instead of the girl's behavior. I ugly cried after I hung up the phone.

AmadorRose · October 2015

kyleec89 said:

brenlo42 said:
I broke down and cried in front of my students today because one of them tried to lock me out of my classroom (I had keys) while I stepped into the hall to talk to his classmate. I don't think I have ever been so instantly furious, but then after the initial surge of rage I started welling up and couldn't stop. Meanwhile, classes changed and I had random students peeking in to see me as an emotional wreck.

Of course, after the day ended, word had gotten around and some of my coworkers came to check on me, which made me lose it again.

I hate everything right now, but I need to get it together so that I can call parents and then gtfo of here until Monday.
I got KICKED and SPIT ON by a student today. Yes, she has an intellectual disability but it is definitely not beyond her understanding that kicking and spitting is so not okay. I called her parents and they were all "aren't you trained on how to handle kids with special needs?!" Um, yes. Please see my masters degree for proof. The problem was totally being redirected to my faults instead of the girl's behavior. I ugly cried after I hung up the phone.

I hate when parents of children with developmental or even temperamental issues blame misbehavior on teachers. Um, no. That kid spends a lot of time at home before he or she went to school. Parents who fail to discipline their children (those that can be disciplined) are the problem. Teachers are paid to teach, not to make your shitty kid behave. Also, why should the other students suffer and not learn because someone did a crap job as a parent and now the kid won't behave?

Andplusalso, having a developmental disability does not mean a child can't learn, it means that child learns differently. I worked in a group home for men with moderate to severe autism who weren't safe in their family homes. Not a single one of them was dumb, they just weren't taught the difference between acceptable and unacceptable communication. One of them liked to scratch and punch himself when he got frustrated and when we would intervene, he would grab whatever piece of flesh was not his and bite as hard as he could. I could've sworn he sharpened his teeth at night. We eventually got him to the point of signing his frustration sometimes because he was nonverbal, but you had to catch it quick.

No one is unteachable, but unless practice and discipline are consistent, especially in kids with developmental delays, they're going to act like jerks. You can't expect any kid to go from having no structure at home to excelling under a standardized, structured system. Just no.

K&Elizabeth · October 2015

AmadorRose said:

kyleec89 said:

brenlo42 said:
I broke down and cried in front of my students today because one of them tried to lock me out of my classroom (I had keys) while I stepped into the hall to talk to his classmate. I don't think I have ever been so instantly furious, but then after the initial surge of rage I started welling up and couldn't stop. Meanwhile, classes changed and I had random students peeking in to see me as an emotional wreck.

Of course, after the day ended, word had gotten around and some of my coworkers came to check on me, which made me lose it again.

I hate everything right now, but I need to get it together so that I can call parents and then gtfo of here until Monday.
I got KICKED and SPIT ON by a student today. Yes, she has an intellectual disability but it is definitely not beyond her understanding that kicking and spitting is so not okay. I called her parents and they were all "aren't you trained on how to handle kids with special needs?!" Um, yes. Please see my masters degree for proof. The problem was totally being redirected to my faults instead of the girl's behavior. I ugly cried after I hung up the phone.
I hate when parents of children with developmental or even temperamental issues blame misbehavior on teachers. Um, no. That kid spends a lot of time at home before he or she went to school. Parents who fail to discipline their children (those that can be disciplined) are the problem. Teachers are paid to teach, not to make your shitty kid behave. Also, why should the other students suffer and not learn because someone did a crap job as a parent and now the kid won't behave?

Andplusalso, having a developmental disability does not mean a child can't learn, it means that child learns differently. I worked in a group home for men with moderate to severe autism who weren't safe in their family homes. Not a single one of them was dumb, they just weren't taught the difference between acceptable and unacceptable communication. One of them liked to scratch and punch himself when he got frustrated and when we would intervene, he would grab whatever piece of flesh was not his and bite as hard as he could. I could've sworn he sharpened his teeth at night. We eventually got him to the point of signing his frustration sometimes because he was nonverbal, but you had to catch it quick.

No one is unteachable, but unless practice and discipline are consistent, especially in kids with developmental delays, they're going to act like jerks. You can't expect any kid to go from having no structure at home to excelling under a standardized, structured system. Just no.

Amen! There is a huuuuuuuuuge difference from children with disabilities who come from structured homes and those who do not. All kids need rules, yo! What I don't understand is how the parents expect their kids to function as an adult. Will they live completely independent lives? Probably not. But they can have a job and live in community housing. However... If you bite someone at Walmart, the cops are being called regardless of disability.

AmadorRose · October 2015

@kyleec89 I think the most terrifying moment of my life was grocery shopping with a 19-year-old who outweighed me by at least 200 lbs. He became rather distraught when we wouldn't let him buy all the candy (welfare checks and social security are crap for people with developmental disorders) and I honestly thought I was going to get laid out m, right there in Walmart. He lived at home for 19 years and his parents just didn't understand that he learns differently.

kimey1 · October 2015

kyleec89 said:

I broke down and cried in front of my students today because one of them tried to lock me out of my classroom (I had keys) while I stepped into the hall to talk to his classmate. I don't think I have ever been so instantly furious, but then after the initial surge of rage I started welling up and couldn't stop. Meanwhile, classes changed and I had random students peeking in to see me as an emotional wreck. Of course, after the day ended, word had gotten around and some of my coworkers came to check on me, which made me lose it again. I hate everything right now, but I need to get it together so that I can call parents and then gtfo of here until Monday.
I got KICKED and SPIT ON by a student today. Yes, she has an intellectual disability but it is definitely not beyond her understanding that kicking and spitting is so not okay. I called her parents and they were all "aren't you trained on how to handle kids with special needs?!" Um, yes. Please see my masters degree for proof. The problem was totally being redirected to my faults instead of the girl's behavior. I ugly cried after I hung up the phone.

Holy crap! Can't believe the parents' reaction. I'm so sorry you had that kinda day. Sheesh!! Intellectually challenged are usually well aware of what they are doing right and wrong. I blame the parents for your student's outrageous behavior.

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