Yesterday I went in for my First Ultrasound, I Was 11 weeks. I thought everything was okay because I saw the baby on the screen. But then I got called in to talk to one of the midwives and she told me that my baby stopped growing 2 weeks ago, but my body hasn't realized it. I have to wait until it does for the miscarriage to happen, she said that it can be tonight, tomorrow, or even a few weeks from now. I'm not sure how to feel honestly, this was my first pregnancy. I feel like maybe if it just happened and I didn't know it was coming it would be a lot easier to cope with. Any advice?
I am so sorry for your loss, it is extremely painful, I had a missed miscarriage (2nd mc) in August and found out when I went for my 12 week visit and baby had passed away a couple of days earlier. Complete and utter shock. I had a D & C the next day. What did your doctor suggest? I couldn´t have waited for it to pass, but of course it is a personal decision between you and your Dr.
Regarding healing, I guess time helps a bit, keeping busy, praying and this support group is amazing as well.
I wish you all the best, XO
Me: 38 DH: 42. Married: 9/2008.
4/2010 - BFP (Natural)
12/2010 - DS born.
8/2014-TTC#2 10/2014 BFP
10/2014 Confirmed MC at 5 weeks 5/2015 BFP 8/2015 MMC & D&C at 13 weeks 11/2015 BFP then CP at 6 weeks. 3/2016 Started IVF+PGS 4/2016 ER, only 5 eggs but 3 Frozen embryos made it to freeze. Only 1 PGS normal embryo. DOR Hypothyroidism MTHFR DH Sperm with Chromosomal Issues (high % FISH) AMH .65 8/2016 FET #1 BFN 9/2016 IVF-ER #2 1 normal embryo. 11/2016 IVF-ER #3 0 Embryos 2/2017 FET #2 BFP CP at 6 weeks. 5/2017 BFP Natural. 3 Betas were ok. First US 5-31-2017. Hope it sticks and is healthy!!
I am so sorry for your loss. I could not have water for who knows how long for me to pass our baby once we discovered growth had stopped. I opted for the d&c and that went well for me. If you feel you will be miserable waiting for your body to do things naturally, I would ask my doctor about other options. My phone won't let me go back up and edit, but I could not have 'waited' is what I meant.
I'm so sorry to hear about your baby...I miscarried at home naturally at 12 weeks...it happened 3 days after ultra sound confirming our baby hand no HB, so we didn't have to wait very long for things to happen, we went for a long walk the day before the miscarriage started, we were told it would help progress things just like at the end of a pregnancy. It was painful emotionally and physically, by far the hardest thing I have ever had to do. From the time contractions started to when the baby came was around 2 or 3 hours..as I've said on another post this is no judgement to moms who have opted for a D&C or any other way, this is just the way we choose to do it, I personally needed to feel that pain...we needed that time to grieve and pray and be with our baby. I hope this helps..again so sorry Let me know if you have any other questions, also hot shower was helpful