Im looking for any somewhat polite responses to incredibly rude questions people ask regarding weigh

Jmarie307 · October 2015

So at this point i am a little over 8 months pregnant and with a relatively small frame i definately look it. I am getting really frustrated with comments from family and friends who see me and comment on how fat i have gotten or ask if i need a crane to get up. I generally dont respond but have to resist the urge to punch them in the teeth. Any suggestions for how to respond to comments like these?

angelinthepit23 · October 2015

Yeah it's hard to respond politely to such a rude question. Personally, I would either keep ignoring if you want to be polite. I'm too much of a smart ass, if someone said how fat I was getting I know I would say "I'm currently constructing a human, what's your excuse?"

Falchas · October 2015

A pointed stare does wonders. After a comment or a question, just stare them down silently. It really unnerves most and gets the point across to all but the most obtuse people.

eamarat · October 2015

I've been feeling very literal so I would probably just calmly stare at them and say "do you know how extremely rude you just sounded? That could have potentially made me cry and then you would have felt terrible for making a pregnant woman cry. Maybe you should start thinking about what you're going to say (and how it will affect others) before you say it"

Or poke them in the eye.

CarrieOct15 · October 2015

I give an exaggerated "gee, thanks" & they wise up & shut up. Lol

thefithuntress · October 2015

I usually just flash a smile and say "that's such a wonderful thing to say!" when my coworkers are dumb and comment on my size.

poupoule · October 2015

I got one rude comment and I simply replied "that is really mean"
A coworker said he really did not want to be in the same room with me if I was in angry pain. As if I would be dangerous... I am not an angry person so that kind of hurt.
But for the weight I dont really care and would probably laugh and play the role of the whale. Depends what is sensitive to you. If it hurts, you can tell them.

kbonel · October 2015

Ok so I have a lot of people I work with that comment "woah getting big" and I can't be rude to these people so I usually say "yep just getting bigger" or I jump in first and when someone asks how I'm doing I just say "oh getting bigger". If it's family that is saying these things too you I would just very honestly tell them it hurts your feelings. If it's someone you have to be pleasant to, I would find a way to get the laugh first. Good luck, I'm sorry you are dealing with this.

itstheblackwidowbaby · October 2015

"At least mine is all baby! What's yours again?"

Seconding @BowWowBowie though. A well placed f-bomb does wonders. Or just smile sickeningly sweet and make a mental note on who doesn't get to hold the baby.

ashleywuli · October 2015

itstheblackwidowbaby said:
"At least mine is all baby! What's yours again?"

Seconding @BowWowBowie though. A well placed f-bomb does wonders. Or just smile sickeningly sweet and make a mental note on who doesn't get to hold the baby.

^^^ exactly this!!!^^.
When someone asks me why I've gained so much, or if I need help due to being so "fat". My response is no, it's just baby. What's your excuse? Or something along those lines. Not the most polite thing to say, but again, they were not polite to ask you that. Put that ball right back in their court!! I mean how dare someone tell you that you've gotten fat!!! F' them!!! I know I'm not much help, because you wanted nice responses, but I'm so sick of idiots!

If you want a polite response just say nicely, that hurts my feelings. I am just pregnant.

jln114 · October 2015

One of my aunts said I look like I'm having triplets. Haven't seen her in years (she has...issues) and she interrupted a friend from out of state to tell me this! I said I didn't think so, and my pal gave her the icy stare. Then the aunt told my sister and cousins the same thing and they told her she was rude and that I look beautiful. I guess the message here is having good gal pals and a thick skin with these insensitive foot-in-mouth'ers. Grr!

BowWowBowie · October 2015

I can't think of any responses that are even mildly polite. Mine all start with the f-bomb and end with an "off" or a "you"

lakesideknitter · October 2015

Ask them how much they've gained.

jscasher · October 2015

Jmarie307 said:
So at this point i am a little over 8 months pregnant and with a relatively small frame i definately look it. I am getting really frustrated with comments from family and friends who see me and comment on how fat i have gotten or ask if i need a crane to get up. I generally dont respond but have to resist the urge to punch them in the teeth. Any suggestions for how to respond to comments like these?

Or say, "yeah I'm soooo huge! But I'm pregnant, what's your excuse?"

Sorry OP, I have no ideas on how to be nice! I do like the PP's response of a pointed stare.

Barker2+1 · October 2015

The pointed stare with raised eyebrows usually gets my point across there are few repeat offenders that are mostly family that I have to inform up front if they say one word about what I am eating I will cut them! I usually follow that up with a pointed look at a steak knife or fork.

Jmarie307 · October 2015

Thanks ladies! Yea i guess i will just stick with my glares. I do really like the whats your excuse comment. I would love to put some of these people in their place but knowing they are family and ill have to deal with them bitching them out may make me feel better but probly isnt a good idea.

Gapeach83 · October 2015

I just get the bitch face now. Trust me they don't want me to respond. I give dirty looks or walk away. I punch their teeth in my mind though. Seriously when we people get the hint that it is rude.

JLW0504 · October 2015

I'd ask them if I could borrow their crane. I also resort to touching people's belly when they touch mine (hospital staff excluded of course).

NancyG1661 · October 2015

The jerk who sits at the next desk makes stupid comments to me all day. He has a plastic duck collection surrounding his cubicle. Over the weekend I redecorated his desk.

wimamaof2 · October 2015

NancyG1661 said:
The jerk who sits at the next desk makes stupid comments to me all day. He has a plastic duck collection surrounding his cubicle. Over the weekend I redecorated his desk.

You should report him to HR. That should shut him up.

nano1 · October 2015

My MIL came over the other day and the first thing out of her mouth was, "well you look bigger." I was a little stunned at first and then said, "yup, that's what happens." I honestly think it was just not thought through and she wasn't trying to be mean, so I really didn't want to be rude to her. But come on!!!

dmiller1213 · October 2015

I have resting bitch face so usually people don't say too much to me. Turn your sass up girl!

jpierre91 · October 2015

dmiller1213 said:
I have resting bitch face so usually people don't say too much to me. Turn your sass up girl!

This and if some does get the balls and say something they find out real auick about my mouth

oliarnmom1517 · October 2015

dmiller1213 said:
I have resting bitch face so usually people don't say too much to me. Turn your sass up girl!

I somehow perfected my resting bitch face without knowing it lol

) but I have no filter and when the few people have said rude things to me I have let them know they are being extremely rude.. I'm sure people who hear are like "damn she's one hormonal pregnant lady" but they havnt said anything lol but I think I'll keep my resting bitch face forever lol

kwaldy · October 2015

I laugh awkwardly, so I'm no help....

Michsmelle · October 2015

I would just stare at them and ask (maybe with an air of feigned confusion), "Why do you want to know?"

gipfish · October 2015

Goodness, I get so excited when people tell me I'm big. Yayyyyy!!! Baby is growing!

"Wow, you look so much bigger." "Thanks! I try. That means she is almost here!"

"Do you feel like a whale?" "Yes, do I look like a whale? That's excellent! Pass me the ice cream; the baby needs fattening up."

I don't know what there is to be so offended about.

Gwennies · October 2015

I always tell people I don't know and that there isn't a place for being on a diet and obsessed with weight during pregnancy. I tell them my doctor says I have gained an average amount of weight and that the baby and I are healthy. Then I smile and tell people I love myself, I love my body, and I love my baby and that I don't feel the need to fall into society's weight obsessed pitfalls while being pregnant and that I hardly think it would be appropriate to ask anyone what they weigh in this world. This question hurts, but I have my walls deeply up around it, and simply promoting a better attitude about weight than those around me and rising above has made me feel strong. Keep your head up and be proud of your body and how you carry your child. Your body is amazing, you are amazing, and thoughtless people that ask this question don't even deserve an answer!

dramaphile · October 2015

I generally respond with a deadpan "Gee, thanks, that's just what I wanted to hear." That usually shuts them up. It is amazing how people think that commenting on someone's body is fair game when they are pregnant.

faithg214 · October 2015

I've had a couple experiences with people commenting on my weight or just my size in general. The first one was my roommate. Her comment was "wow you're getting round." I just looked at her and laughed. The other was my mom. She made the comment of "I'm proud of you for not gaining a lot if weight. I thought you would eat a lot and gain too much." I'm like ummm gee thanks a lot you b*#$&."

littleblue17 · October 2015

I've had this too. My aunt looked me up and down, and said that, "some people carry their baby weight across their back, don't they". I wish I could have punched her. People don't seem to realise that we are dealing with such a massive change, it's bound to be affecting our confidence!

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