Surprised by Husband?

DeeJ88 · October 2015

I know that it is easy to find things to rant about our husbands during pregnancy, but is anyone pleasantly surprised with their husbands actions, empathy, interest, etc during this time? If so, I'd like us to share our positive husband experiences as well.

My husband has been really understanding about my nausea and sleepiness. He always encourages me to relax and everyday asks if there is anything he can do to help me. Even though most of my days I was miserable from throwing up and took it out on him. I'm pleasantly surprised with how well he has taken my attitude, considering I never act that way towards him.

TKaiser91 · October 2015

DH has been very conscious and considerate on how I feel each day. He did this with DD as well, always making sure I eat enough, if I'm in any pain, tired and need a nap, and doesn't care that I've slacked a little on keeping the house clean and laundry done. Even on days I'm grouchy and miserable he just takes it all in stride.

kimey1 · October 2015

Ever since DH saw me get super angry because he made me wait for dinner for an hour and a half when I told him I was already starving, he makes sure I don't go hungry and let's me choose what to eat when we go out.
He also cleaned the bathroom, going back everytime I pointed out sth wasn't clean. Normally DH will do anything to avoid cleaning the bathroom.
I'm happiest about the fact that he let's me sleep when I need to and takes care of whatever needs to be done when I don't feel well.

Meggs2559 · October 2015

My husband is always very helpful and makes sure to wrangle in our 2.5 year old when I look like I may need a break. He helps me clean and does the cooking (but this is the norm). I'm very lucky to have him. ☺
My favorite thing is at night, when he comes to bed, he always rubs my belly. Most of the time, I'm sleeping but everyone so often, I'm up and it makes me smile. I was worried a second pregnancy wouldn't be as exciting, so it makes me happy that he's just as excited this time around.

jessybum90 · October 2015

My husband really is amazing. I'm so grumpy and exhausted, and he does everything he can to make me comfortable. He looks after our other children, does all the cooking (cooking smells are so not my thing right now) and a majority of the cleaning. He was the same with our other pregnancies. He knows how frustrated I am about not being able to keep up with things like normal and takes time to reassure me that he understands that pregnancy isn't just growing babies. I'm a very lucky lady with very lucky children xx

angeldi24 · October 2015

My husband has been great this entire time. We were so excited when we found out and since that day he has read two pregnancy books to try and prepare himself. It's too cute. He was so understanding while I was sick and really took on cleaning the house and trying to cook. The best suprise was that he knew my back had been hurting so he came home with a sleeping pillow

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AmadorRose · October 2015

Alright, I'll jump in. DH is probably more excited about the pregnancy than I am. He's always rubbing my feet and doing small favors for me like taking the dog out, and he won't let me go to work in the morning without kissing and saying goodbye to his bean.

g&tlewis · October 2015

My husband has been incredible! We normally split cooking duties, but he has done the majority of that and cleaned up after himself. He won't let me clean the bathrooms since there is no ventilation, and he hasn't said anything about the house being a little dirtier than normal. We work together, and whenever I feel bad he always asks if there is anything he can bring me. Occasionally he brings me a snack from the cafeteria or comes to my floor to make my tea when I don't feel like getting up. He is always very attentive to my needs, but he has definitely exceeded my expectations during the first trimester!

allaire314 · October 2015

DH has been such a sweetheart - I can already tell his patience level has increased, and he has pretty much taken over doing the dishes now... I love it. He's so sweet and lovey with my belly which still kind of weirds me out because it's still a blump as opposed to a bump, but I let him have it because I know he's excited and trying to connect with baby in his own way. He has always wanted to be a dad, so I shouldn't be surprised, but I'm glad he's showing his excitement now, not just after baby comes.

cjbwifey2010 · October 2015

DH has been amazing. I've been in one of those moods where I feel bad because I'm always sleeping and feel as if since we have opposite schedules that we never get to see one another or do some of the fun activities we used to do when I had more energy. I work days and DH words 3-12 so I used to take a nap after putting DS to bed and would be up with DH for a few hours after he got home around 12:30 am. Now, I'm barely awake to make food. Lol. He has been cooperative. I mean he's a chef so he doesn't mind cooking, but after working a full day in the kitchen, sometimes cooking isn't what you want to do. Anyway, he's been great about cleaning as well, taking care of DS, and being super understanding with my crying spells and the fact that we don't have that time we used to. He has also been taking us out more when he is off instead of staying home and sleeping, and he even bought me some lingerie the other day (which is definitely more for him than me, but it made me feel sexy!) lol. I just love to hear him talk about the baby and how he can't wait for him to get here. The belly rubs and kisses always make me smile.

kimey1 · October 2015

angeldi24 said:
My husband has been great this entire time. We were so excited when we found out and since that day he has read two pregnancy books to try and prepare himself. It's too cute. He was so understanding while I was sick and really took on cleaning the house and trying to cook. The best suprise was that he knew my back had been hurting so he came home with a sleeping pillow .

2 books and a pillow surprise without your mentioning! Think he deserves an award

thaisac1 · October 2015

I feel like the luckiest girl in the world; my husband is so supportive. He was already super supportive even before pregnancy (our household roles are somewhat inverted compared to the 'norm'), and of course this is a super-wanted baby (we did IVF) so now he takes care of me even more.

He prepares most of my meals for me, and packs me a day's worth of food every morning to make sure I eat during my crazy work days. He also makes fresh lemonade every couple of days, cause he knows I struggle drinking water but I need the hydration. And when I wake up he brings me a bottle of water right away cause he knows I wake up super thirsty. Also, he kisses my belly every morning when he wakes up, and he does not go to sleep before kissing it again at night. It is super cute.

I'm a lucky gal!

DeeJ88 · October 2015

Such great things to hear! Definitely some lucky ladies here, I love to read each story. I have two from a previous relationship and that relationship was not a great one and my pregnant experiences were no different. I'm grateful this time around I'm married, with a man who not only is excited to have his first child with me, but has read a lot about what I'm going through, what to expect, and steps up to the plate to help me in any way whether it's with the kids, food, house duties, etc.

ladylolly89 · October 2015

We needed this thread! I absolutely hate husband-bashing (maybe that should be in the UO thread). Mine has been/is wonderful as well. From doing the majority of the grocery shopping/housework when I wasn't feeling well, to packing our lunches, making sure I had at least a little breakfast in my stomach during the morning sickness phase, to making dinners when I couldn't handle it. There were even several times he put off eating his own dinner to run out and get something for me when I suddenly couldn't eat what we'd prepared for dinner. I also get back rubs every night. I'm so spoiled, you guys. :x

Pinguinageddon · October 2015

My DH has been really affectionate towards baby, has been a big help in getting me to my appointments and to the ER when necessary, and is always willing to take me shopping if a craving lasts more than four hours, albiet begrudgingly. He even stopped playing his video game to help me deep clean the bedroom and rearrange for baby, and is forever on the lookout for deals on things we need. He isn't helping with the chores or dinner just yet, but he's definitely become more understanding of when I don't get it done (usually). I'm grateful to have him around.

AGK2015 · October 2015

What a wonderful thread! I'm not surprised by my husband's response to my pregnancy, necessarily, but I am really thrilled. Mostly by the little things, like the random bits of affection he's been showing (a big deal for a guy who's not much into the mushy stuff). He's never been the type of guy who's immature or a manchild, but the extra gravity with which he talks about parenting stuff has me seeing him with a new respect. And while he's not much for bringing things up on his own, I'm constantly impressed that any time I raise a parenting question (what are we doing about daycare? breastfeeding? babywearing?), he's already done his research and can offer an intelligent, well-reasoned perspective. There's not a doubt in my mind that I picked the right man to raise a family with

NachosAndPeaches · October 2015

The other night I woke up from 1-5 am throwing up uncontrollably. DH Brought me zofran to the bathroom and then went to work over an hour late so he could watch DS while I slept. He finally woke me up when he HAD to leave.

K&Elizabeth · October 2015

My husband is definitely more of a "fixer" than a "nurturer" but he's really trying to be helpful. He'll jump on the dishes, laundry, or yell at the instance lady when she said I didn't need any more Zofran, but belly kissing really isn't in his wheelhouse and that is a-ok with that! I love knowing that he can always take care of us and handle business

BrittnyS10 · October 2015

I love this thread! So many blessed mammas.
DH and i both hate doing the dishes and usually take turns washing them, but since ive been pregnant he's stepped up and done almost all of them, and without even a hint of complaint. Also, he has been absolutely the sweetest when it comes to me not wanting sex while ive been feeling crappy. He hadnt been asking for it or even saying one word about being disappointed that i havent been up to it for weeks. I think he deserves an award. Thankfully im finally feeling better now, but i love that he's still stepping up and doing more around the house, and actually seems happy to help out.

Poppy16 · October 2015

My husband was awesome during the 1st trimester when I was SO tired all the time. Most days I couldn't do anything but lay down. He'd take care of our 4 kids, make dinner (or bring it home), and basically do everything that needed done. Now that I have my energy back I don't need much help, but I kind of miss being pampered!

elasticheart13 · October 2015

All these stories make me miss my husband even more. We haven't seen each other since we found out we were expecting on my birthday in August and we are still waiting for our application to finish at immigrations so he can come here (he lives in Egypt). He's so excited about the pregnancy and he's been so amazing and sweet. Hopefully soon!

AmadorRose · October 2015

@elasticheart13 that sucks. Hope he gets through soon!

kimey1 · October 2015

@elasticheart13 So sorry to hear that. Immigration really really sucks! Hope he gets to you soon x

elasticheart13 · October 2015

Thank you ladies x yay for our amazing hubbies!

adifrog · October 2015

Mine heard that Preggie Pops really helped a coworker during her first trimester nausea. He drove to multiple drugstores on the way home that night until he found one that actually had them! He surprised me with both the pops and little hard candies, plus a "wellness mama" tea.

tara4910 · October 2015

I love to hear about all these sweet husbands! Mine has been extra thoughtful too, encouraging me to take naps, doing laundry and dishes (which he hates), making me snacks and dinner, etc. The cutest thing though was one morning I walked out to the living room and he was sitting on the couch listening to music and reading "Dude, You're Gonna Be a Dad". It just made me smile so much.

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