Wanting baby #2

Re: Wanting baby #2

• jasrun80 member

  October 2015

  I had my second when my first turned 2. I was super heart-broken that i had changed my firsts life,,,but looking back, i wish i threw away all that guilt & just went with the flow more. Having MY second (an awful screaming generally not-happy baby who would NOT nap right after i read the demon book BABY SLEEPWISE--just dont read it) was so much harder for me because of all the pressure I had put on myself to keep my first "happy" -- he WAS so happy-- i didnt need to try so hard. I wished i knew what a blessing it would be to watch them together, to see his compassion for her, to just BE, but I tried to BE PERFECT and that was worth squat! I have three now & want another & it is the best thing in my life &&& theirs!!! SIBLINGS are the coolest thing ever & no one knows anything anyway so trust yourself & have fun where you can!!  I wished I had had a bit more time with my first because THERE REALLY IS NOTHING LIKE THAT FIRST,,, so have fun & enjoy your alone time but also KNOW that while you may feel stressed about some things with two, its the best thing you ever did for your first too!!! hopes for you & enjoy!!! 

  
  
  
  
  

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• cutesugar member

  October 2015

  Thank you so much! I do worry about the bond me and my daughter have but I know in my heart that another baby will just bring more love into our homes and hearts. Ha ha, I did read that book with my first and actually didn't finish it because it just wasn't for me.

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• myjessesgirl member

  October 2015

  We are "trying" (more like no longer preventing) for our second. Our LO is almost 7 months. I wanted to have my children close together, ideally between 15 and 24 months. I have a nephew and niece that are 22 months apart and, while my SIL was definitely challenged by the addition of her second, she just loves having two that are young together. My biggest concern is that I will be so focused on trying for another that I will look back and realize I missed enjoying having my first. But I'm making it a point to really spend time enjoying her now. I also am worried that if I do conceive quickly, I'll have a just-walking 15 month old and newborn (or third trimester fatigue and clumsiness) to deal with at the same time! But, just like trying for the first, I can definitely come up with good excuses to postpone. I guess we will just see what happens. Good luck!

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• cutesugar member

  October 2015

  Good luck to you guys! Funny how the guilt of baby number two comes in. I never thought I would worry so much about my first one and how it will be with baby number 2!

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• PrimRoseMama member

  October 2015

  cutesugar said:

  Hubby and I are going to start trying for baby number two in December. Our little one will be two in January. Just looking for some other mommas who are getting ready for baby number two or you mommas who already have two babies. Words of wisdom are SO welcomed!

  We've been Not Trying Not Preventing (NTNP) for about a year and change. We will be TTC "with purpose" for #3 at the new year.
  

  
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