Sex

SnowbunnyQueen · October 2015

My husband thinks I'm being "lazy" when we have sex but the issue is that I don't know how to move with a big belly in the way. I mean I am out of breath by getting dressed a lot of times. Any advice?

kalenvan · October 2015

Talk to him and show him a picture of how big the baby is inside you. Men don't understand what we are going through. I can only do missionary or laying on my side. All that extra stuff I just can't. It's also an awkward turn of when I'm on top and the baby starts moving LOL

Achae · October 2015

Tell him you could be lazier and he could go without. Unbelievable!

ohbaby714 · October 2015

Achae said:
Tell him you could be lazier and he could go without. Unbelievable!

Yup. All of this. If you are actually willing to do it, which for some it's just not happening, I'd say he can pick up the slack for the next few months. Not cool.

mrsg82909 · October 2015

How Rude!!

I made the mistake of telling DH the baby was moving after sex last weekend.. Well lets just say the next time we tried things didn't go well for him because he kept expecting to feel the baby move... sigh... Hopefully he gets out of his own head before it's too late and I want no part of it!!

shupertj09 · October 2015

He needs a reality check. It's just going to get harder. At the end of my last pregnancy the only position we could comfortable do was me hanging off the side of the bed. Lol

Just wait until he feels the baby move inside you during sex...freaked my husband out!

jordans_wife · October 2015

Dude- I would just offer him a big side of abstinence and see if he prefers things the way they were before. I'm sorry but how douchey of him! He has no idea how uncomfortable and hard it is to do it at all. The baby moving around last time seriously threw me off til after this one is born. I can't feel sexy with that going on. Not to mention your bladder getting bumped and everything is swollen down there so it's more painful. I think he's lucky to be getting any but after that comment my dh would be cut off!

Lola2o1 · October 2015

Sex? What is that now?

Miss Lilac · October 2015

There are positions you can try that are more comfortable, if you're into it.

I think the assumption that you're being lazy is sad though. Sex should be fun and enjoyable for *both* of you. Did he really not even ask if you were comfortable or if there was anything he could do to make it better for you? That's the bigger problem here.

dragonfly321 · October 2015

Sex? Doesn't happen. And remind him sex for him doesn't HAVE to happen if he wants to be like that.

egraves4 · October 2015

You know what kills me? I'll read my SO the weekly symptoms and lately it keeps saying "and you'll have a much higher libido with all that extra energy you have!"

Um what. No. Go away. Stop putting this crap in his head.

BreJeremy · October 2015

My man just isn't in the mood but I'm always in mood. Not sure what's going on. Makes me feel like I not attractive . or I don't turn him on . lol he says I do but he doesn't show any interest in me.

brushesnbrunch · October 2015

Miss Lilac said:

There are positions you can try that are more comfortable, if you're into it. I think the assumption that you're being lazy is sad though. Sex should be fun and enjoyable for *both* of you. Did he really not even ask if you were comfortable or if there was anything he could do to make it better for you? That's the bigger problem here.

Yep. This.

skschnake · October 2015

I agree with PP, H would be in T-R-O-U-B-L-E! I have had a hard time with my libido lately

I want to keep H happy, but lately not feeling it. There are a few positions that are alittle easier than others. Maybe look into those. Just make sure you are comfotable. My bump is still pretty on the small and its getting uncomfortable.

oxsarah7ox · October 2015

I wish sex was even a conversation! My husband does not want to have sex now because "Our daughter is in there now." I asked him "So are we not going to have sex now for 6 months (including time where we cant after the baby." And he goes "Well, I guess yeah. I can't just go and do it with her in there!"

Bummer, but thank god for toys haha! He can take care of himself then.

Good luck to you OP, your husbands being a little rude. If you are wanting it, just try some different ways. I'm sorry he's in a mindset of calling you lazy rather than supporting and helping.

camusoh2011 · October 2015

Man, my poor DH is so sad that our sex life is going out the window for the next 4 months or so. With twins it's just too uncomfortable. I'm awkward trying to keep my belly off of him because I know it kind of weirds him out anyway and he's just as uncomfortable because there just is not hiding this belly.

I can't imagine being told I was being lazy! If that happened he could just do without.

Shatzegirl · October 2015

Oh man, your husband doesn't know how good he has it! Most men are NOT getting any right now. I'd be so pissed if my husband said I was being lazy. Tell him he can fly solo if he thinks that's the case.

mamacastro · October 2015

egraves4 said:
You know what kills me? I'll read my SO the weekly symptoms and lately it keeps saying "and you'll have a much higher libido with all that extra energy you have!"

Um what. No. Go away. Stop putting this crap in his head.

Yes! Right now i'm in the "No, leave me alone phase" luckily the H is ok with that

brushesnbrunch · October 2015

egraves4 said:

You know what kills me? I'll read my SO the weekly symptoms and lately it keeps saying "and you'll have a much higher libido with all that extra energy you have!" Um what. No. Go away. Stop putting this crap in his head.

So whenever I see it in the symptoms and whatnot, I think, "Yeah, I couldn't probably handle that.." but then in practice?

and then I roll over and go to sleep. Sorry, hubs!

mamacastro · October 2015

Hahaha @brushesnbrunch H bought a shirt with that quote when she became a media sensation

middy411 · October 2015

Before pregnancy I had a much higher sex drive than my husband. Now, my drive has lessened quite a bit and we are more on the same page. I fear that it will come back with a vengeance when baby girl comes and then I'll have to keep having the "I need more" conversation. It's been nice being on the same page for a while! I have never even wanted to turn down sex... Except for that one time I was REALLY tired... But I mustered up the energy

dragonfly321 · October 2015

egraves4 said:
You know what kills me? I'll read my SO the weekly symptoms and lately it keeps saying "and you'll have a much higher libido with all that extra energy you have!"

Um what. No. Go away. Stop putting this crap in his head.

I conveniently skip over that part when reading out loud every week.. Aaaandddd I've stopped playing the videos

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jmjarling · October 2015

My husband and I have sex nightly. It is so awkward with a big belly and figuring out how to move with it amd different positions. At first my husband seemed like he was getting bored same position for like almost 2 weeks.... Im not huge on oral but for us if we foreplay a little and try mixing it with oral he's more into sex and making me a happier at the end and trying new things and not just laying there while im on top of him. You have to mix it up .... Just Google positions for when pregnant

mamacastro · October 2015

jmjarling said:
My husband and I have sex nightly. It is so awkward with a big belly and figuring out how to move with it amd different positions. At first my husband seemed like he was getting bored same position for like almost 2 weeks.... Im not huge on oral but for us if we foreplay a little and try mixing it with oral he's more into sex and making me a happier at the end and trying new things and not just laying there while im on top of him. You have to mix it up .... Just Google positions for when pregnant

Nightly?! Wow i'm impressed. Not even before kids did we have intimacy nightly but kuddos to you if you enjoy it

Kimbarbour08 · October 2015

mamacastro said:

My husband and I have sex nightly. It is so awkward with a big belly and figuring out how to move with it amd different positions. At first my husband seemed like he was getting bored same position for like almost 2 weeks.... Im not huge on oral but for us if we foreplay a little and try mixing it with oral he's more into sex and making me a happier at the end and trying new things and not just laying there while im on top of him. You have to mix it up .... Just Google positions for when pregnant
Nightly?! Wow i'm impressed. Not even before kids did we have intimacy nightly but kuddos to you if you enjoy it

I would so be down for that (pre-pregnancy . . . maybe now too lol) but the hubbs doesn't share my libido . . . so I'll just take it when I can get it lol

bublesmiled · October 2015

Yeah, my hubby was complaining this morning that he's not getting any, but yet when we are laying watching tv, I'm the one cuddling him, rubbing his arm, and he's just laying there watching tv. Really, so it's my fault your not getting any... I don't think so. Then last night I was cooking dinner and on the phone with work, and he tried kissing my neck and got mad when I brushed him away - I was a little busy and our dd was just finishing up her shower so I had to make sure she wasn't fooling around in the bathroom, again complaining that I'm the one at fault. Then if we even do get started I can't get comfortable so then I just can't get into anyway so I get moody and just say forget it, it's too much work anyway.

thisusername · October 2015

bublesmiled said:
Yeah, my hubby was complaining this morning that he's not getting any, but yet when we are laying watching tv, I'm the one cuddling him, rubbing his arm, and he's just laying there watching tv. Really, so it's my fault your not getting any... I don't think so. Then last night I was cooking dinner and on the phone with work, and he tried kissing my neck and got mad when I brushed him away - I was a little busy and our dd was just finishing up her shower so I had to make sure she wasn't fooling around in the bathroom, again complaining that I'm the one at fault. Then if we even do get started I can't get comfortable so then I just can't get into anyway so I get moody and just say forget it, it's too much work anyway.

My husband complained the other because after working all day and having sex for almost an hour he didn't finish and I just left. I was bored, who gets bored during sex?! Like damn, hurry up man my legs hurt . Men blame us for everything! Well okay fine, see how much you like it when you get none. I don't want to risk another baby after this anyways! (Not for a while at least)

kbedfox · October 2015

Ugh I wish DH wanted to have sex. He's weirded out with the baby there, but strangely I'm not. I wish we were either both totally fine with it or both not at all into it, but that's not the case

Stupid libidos!

davidroxie · October 2015

*moment of silence for all the dead libidos out there* (mine included)

BabySeaTurtles · October 2015

What is this "sex" thing you all are talking about?

SnowbunnyQueen · October 2015

Thanks everyone! I showed him all these comments and he appoligized to me. Thanks for the help. As for the positions, the side is my favorite. We have also done it on my back with my legs on his shoulders. I tried riding but I get tires really quick.

marissajc · October 2015

SnowbunnyQueen said:
Thanks everyone! I showed him all these comments and he appoligized to me. Thanks for the help. As for the positions, the side is my favorite. We have also done it on my back with my legs on his shoulders. I tried riding but I get tires really quick.

Side has been my favorite lately too. Me on top huts my hips, but that has always been an issue with us since my husband is a bit wider than me, and I'm really tiny to begin with. Hope you can keep experimenting and find some other fun, comfortable positions

thisusername · October 2015

SnowbunnyQueen said:
Thanks everyone! I showed him all these comments and he appoligized to me. Thanks for the help. As for the positions, the side is my favorite. We have also done it on my back with my legs on his shoulders. I tried riding but I get tires really quick.

Pillows help me a lot when I'm on top. I'm so short it's a pain in the ass. I use them like boosters.
Glad he realized it was hurtful!

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