I have always felt that at some point in my life I would adopt a child, it was just something I wanted to do in addition to having biological children. My grandmother never had a biological child, she fostered and/or adopted 17 children in her lifetime. This inspired me to adopt as well. Then about 5 years ago my aunt adopted 2 children from Columbia and it's been a very rough road for her. The children have mental and behavioral troubles that they were not aware of prior to the adoption and my aunt was just not the person you would expect to be able to handle it. Our family has never faced a disability of any form in a child. Many other family members now say she is "in over her head" and almost everyone's general position on adoption has shifted. It was something to be happy about but now they all seem to think it's a stupid idea. I have never given up my dream of adoption though, and recently we are facing a very real possibility that I will never be able to carry a biological child to term. So we are at the very beginning stages of "what if we chose to adopt right now".... and while part of me is extremely excited about it a little voice tells me that I may not have my family's support... I want more than anything for my family to be excited about bringing a child into our lives, I want them to connect to that child as if it were biological.... I know I will, but it's my parents and cousins and aunts and uncles that I'm worried about the child having a strained relationship with... and it would never be the child's fault. It would simply be based on the opinions that were formed after seeing what my aunt faces on a daily basis. I want the opportunity for that opinion to change and in order for that opportunity to present itself I would have to put a child at risk of being shunned by the family even if they are a perfectly "normal" child. And if the child did face emotional, physical, mental or behavioral issues then it would be even worse... my family is very close, for example we all live on the same road and have all worked in the family business for the last 3 generations. So this is not a topic that would be easily avoided.... I guess my question would be; did you face adversity from your family when choosing adoption? Were they able to move past those feelings and bond with the child? If not, how do you handle it? I know we have so much to offer a child and I want to be a parent more than anything, I know it won't be easy but I never want a child to feel unwanted by anyone in our family. How do you change their opinions? How do you prepare your extended and immediate family for something like this? Thanks in advance for any and all advice.