October 2015 Moms

It's not Monday but I'm going to moan...

So, I had my 38 week appointment today. Baby is headdown, doing great, so that's all good news! The bad news is I'm not dilated even a little bit. Baby is measuring big and way too comfortable. I've barely even had Braxton Hicks contractions so far. Maybe two or three a day. So now this leaves the beginning of the discussion about if and when to induce. I know it's early and I have time, but I was really hoping for just a little bit of dilation to see that things were getting started. This is just a decision I did not want to have to make. I wanted everything to roll out naturally even if it ended in a C-section in the end. I know so many moms have so many more things to worry about and I've been really lucky with this pregnancy. I'm grateful for how easy it's been. I guess I'm just feeling overwhelmed and sad to have to make decisions- because who knows what to do?!? Don't really want advice- just needed to vent to some other preggers that might be feeling the same way.

Re: It's not Monday but I'm going to moan...

  • I'm feeling the same. Tomorrow I have my appointment to see when I have to induce. I'm 40+6 so they have to make sure everything is okay for baby to maybe go a few days longer but it's looking more and more like I'm going to have to induce. The funny thing is though, I've been gradually dilating since week 36 and here I am 'over due' (last week I was 3cm 80% effaced). So you could still get lucky and have everything go naturally, nothing is really set in stone. I have my fingers crossed for you momma :)
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    Don't get discouraged! I had no dilation at 38wks 3days and a very thick cervix. Then only 1 1/2 at 39wks 3 days. Then I ended up having her at 39wks 5days in unmedicated vaginal birth.
  • I here ya on this! I'm 37 weeks 5 days and not dilated at all. I'm also quite certain baby is not head down. However, yesterday I was having braxton hicks like crazy and today nothing. I'm hoping the doctor tells me tomorrow I'm a little dilated and that there is still time/room for baby to turn. He's actually told me I could go two weeks into November. I really dont want to be induced either and I also dont want a c section mostly because I dont have any one to help me while I recover. I haven't really looked into all that comes with c section because I've been so focused on having a vaginal birth. I guess the bright side for you is that everything is in place and its just up to baby when to come. You still have two more weeks before you really have to think about inducing. After I expressed disappointment to my doctor last week he told me that it doesn't take much time at all to dilate to 4 cm. Labor could start within the next hour, tomorrow, or next week,who knows! Still discouraging to someone who really wants to hold their baby and not have the worry or overwhelming feeling that this 9 month trek will never be over! Hang in there and I'll keep my fingers crossed that a happy, healthy baby will come real soon for you!
  • At my 38 week appointment my doctor mentioned thinking about an induction date, just in case. At my last appointment I was 39 weeks 3 days and dilated 1cm, we set up the induction appointment for the 21st. Yesterday was my EDD and while I don't want to have to be induced it's kinda reassuring to have a back up plan in place instead of trying to figure it out at 42 weeks.
  • A lot can happen in two weeks. You have plenty of time. Is your doctor talking about induction at this point? Seems a bit early to be talking that. My doctor asked me what my thoughts were about induction etc at my 40 week appointment. Are you a FTM? Because you will most likely go over your due date anyway (I was due 10/1 and had my baby 10/5). Baby will come when they are ready.
  • You Have Plenty Of Time! Hang in there! You can go from no dialation to full blown labor in a single day. Dialation is no true measure to tell when you will begin labor.
  • At 40 weeks exactly I still was not dilated. Almost fully effaced, but absolutely no dilation. So frustrating! Can't sweep membranes or anything. From what I hear, it's not uncommon for first time moms to begin to efface but not dilate. I feel your pain. It was brutal going in every week for the last 4 weeks and hearing that I still was not dilated even a little bit.
  • megggles said:

    At 40 weeks exactly I still was not dilated. Almost fully effaced, but absolutely no dilation. So frustrating! Can't sweep membranes or anything. From what I hear, it's not uncommon for first time moms to begin to efface but not dilate. I feel your pain. It was brutal going in every week for the last 4 weeks and hearing that I still was not dilated even a little bit.

    This is my situation also. I'm going in to speak to the dr tomorrow, but I am starting to come to terms with the fact that this might go for a while yet!
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  • There is absolutely no accurate way to tell that a baby is big! Ultrasound and fundal height are just estimations, and can be off by two pounds or so. I was told my baby was big, and she was born at 7 lbs 5 oz, which included all the bloating from the fluids I was given during my c-section. Definitely not a big baby. 38 weeks is way too early to discuss induction, or to even have to worry about it! 41 or 42 weeks is a better time to actually discuss it, though it doesn't hurt to ask now about methods of induction and do your own research to find out what you want.
  • Also, my sister-in-law was barely dilated at one appointment and had her baby the next day. And then some people hang out at 3 cm dilated for a few weeks! Don't get too discouraged!
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