Irrational fear

blansaw · October 2015

So in the past week so many people have told me their stories about how the ultrasound told them it was one gender, but then the baby came out the other. We did a gender reveal so the US tech wrote the results in an envelope from our 18 week appt and then at the shower a friend of ours did a creative reveal letting us know we are having a girl! But after hearing all these stories I'm starting to fear that the US tech might have gotten it wrong. Not that I care if it's a boy or girl, but I'll feel pretty silly if we go to the hospital with a pink onesie and hair bows and it comes out with a winky. It would be my luck that the closet is full of girl things that I wouldn't use. LOL I'm thinking the reason I feel this way is bc it was never confirmed with me looking at ultrasound and she just did a quick glance.

preggoandglowing · October 2015

I'm with you on this one! I'm also having a girl. I've only had one ultrasound and am thinking of having a 4D to reconfirm. But my shower is next week and my sister bought all pink decorations and some items on my registry have been purchased. Ugh wish I had it done sooner.

groovylocks · October 2015

I'm only a little worried about this because we've named our daughter already. And it's a name that would be hard to pop on a boy so we'll have to go back to the battleground.. I mean drawing board. And that would suck.

I was really keen on a boy. I'm perfectly happy and in love with my little girl too. I was thrilled. But I would also be thrilled all over again if she's a he. So I wouldn't experience disappointment but i worry about my husband because i think he'd be freaked out to suddenly discover a boy.

And my mom bought a LOT of little dresses.

Luckily most of the things we bought could swing either way. I'm a tomboy and i'm afraid my tastes went into her wardrobe a bit.

TomekiaB · October 2015

I'm afraid of this but don't see it as irrational both OBs I saw said not to shop or paint based on US results before 20-22weeks and I had mine at 19 weeks, to top it off this hospital has a record of getting it wrong. I've moved and since had a 2nd US the tech expressed confidence that we had the sex right the first time. Anyway, we haven't shared the gender due to the initial situation...now its been so long I'm planning in just riding it out and letting everyone be surprised.

LaceyH13 · October 2015

I wouldn't call my feelings towards this as irrational, because I don't worry about it constantly, but I have also had the fleeting thought that my 'he' could turn out to be a 'she' because of the same reason you gave - I never got any kind of visual confirmation of sex from the ultrasound - she had us close our eyes at that point. But I think of it this way - will the pink onesie still keep a baby boy warm and at least get him home from the hospital? Yes. Can a baby girl still sleep in a nursery that has navy blue walls and super boyish decor? Yep. Will I love this baby regardless of its sex? Yep. And then someday he/she has a fun story to tell at parties about how his/her parents thought they were having one, but ended up with the other.

mhg54 · October 2015

I try to think about it in the sense that how many people this does not happen to. When I hear someone say "my friends baby was supposed to be a girl, but it was a boy" I think about how many people they probably know that it didn't happen to. I too think about this happening, but having this mind set helps me!

blessedwtwins · October 2015

We had our 20 week scan and asked the tech to write them in an envelope without us looking. A week after, I freaked thinking we needed to double check because I was worried one or both would be wrong.
We're super lucky that due to me being high risk, I get a lot of ultrasounds and the tech was very happy to show us at our next appt and they both look very different. I'm a still a little concerned but not nearly as much as you ladies who have only seen it once!
I don't think it's irrational at all and it certainly doesn't mean that if it happens to one of us, that we'd struggle with "gender disappointment". We'd just struggle with changing our babies' names and clothing.

ATolentino89 · October 2015

During my second US I was 23 weeks and the tech actually got a pic of my little mans junk. It hangs on my fridge

blansaw · October 2015

Well I'm glad I'm not the only one.

ColoradoHiker · October 2015

It was something I wondered about, but we've had several ultrasounds since the a/s that confirmed the baby is a boy. It's pretty unmistakable after a certain point, to be home.

dp1320 · October 2015

It does happen ... if you are really worried you can always get an elective ultra sound to ease your mind. I wasn't satisfied with the response of the u/s tech at our anatomy scan ("I don't see any boy parts so I'm going to go with girl") ... so we ended up getting an elective to be sure and I felt much better once I saw those 3 lines and I feel confident that she is actually a she now!

blansaw · October 2015

DH09072012 said:

It does happen ... if you are really worried you can always get an elective ultra sound to ease your mind. I wasn't satisfied with the response of the u/s tech at our anatomy scan ("I don't see any boy parts so I'm going to go with girl") ... so we ended up getting an elective to be sure and I felt much better once I saw those 3 lines and I feel confident that she is actually a she now!

Do I just ask my Dr's office to do that? How do they bill for that?

Mizuiro007 · October 2015

I'm sorry but since reading OP I can't get "Wee Willy Winky" out of my head.

Personally, I worried about it with my first from hearing the same stories. Statistically it's much less likely to happen now with improvements in ultrasound technology, this was a major comfort to me. This time I decided it doesn't matter. We found out at a repeat anatomy scan at 28 weeks. The tech doing it refuses to say unless she's absolutely sure and I have yet to hear of her being wrong. If she does turn out to be wrong it won't be the end of the world. A boy can wear pink things and use pink things as much as a girl can wear blue. There are also far worse things I can think of. Boy or girl, I'll just be happy with healthy.

kepoole · October 2015

I've had a few ultrasounds since finding out gender and her lady parts are just more and more pronounced and defined the bigger she gets!!
No doubts here!

jenbstevens · October 2015

You will probably have another scan around 36 weeks to determine baby's size (growth scan), so they'll be able to double check gender then.

LauraSmarterSpam · October 2015

I often wonder also! With DS we clearly saw a set of male genitalia when he gave us an unshy crotch shot.
With DD, she gave us the same crotch shot and there was clearly no penis visible, but I sometimes wonder if she'll come out being a boy. Either way we can't wait to meet this LO!

TomekiaB · October 2015

Its more the name that freaks me out, agreeing to one is hard, agreeing to a "what if" name is overwhelming.

I was told it can and does happen regularly at my original hospital (the hospital had bad stats for getting it right). Which made me uncomfortable sharing the sex because i didn't want other people buying us lots of gendered things, if they had not gotten it wrong.

colsen4 · October 2015

My sister was suppose to be a boy but that happened 22 years ago. They way I look at it is one day it will be a funny story to tell. As a pp said a pink indie will do the job either way.

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