Telling Siblings

Dahlstroms · October 2015

Hello ladies,
I need a few suggestions! I am currently a mommy to a 3.5yr old DD & 1.5yr old DS. We are super excited about welcoming a 3rd. DS has been begging for a baby sister lately. I know we probably won't get much across to our 1.5 yr old. How/When should we announce to the littles that another is coming?
Thanks in advance.

PBear93 · October 2015

We are going to wait until I start to show to tell our 3 year old.

soralette · October 2015

We told our 3.5yr old already -- he's also been begging for a little sibling. Mostly what we did was get a pile of books (we went with Hello, Baby, Baby on the Way, What Baby Needs, and On Mother's Lap), since he likes books and responds well to them, read them to him, then explained that he was going to be getting a baby brother. Would your DS be okay with books?

Dahlstroms · October 2015

Great idea soralette! Yes, our 3yr old loves books.

Dahlstroms · October 2015

We thought of waiting also. Once our DD knows, everyone else will too.

hockeyfan42 · October 2015

We're going to wait to tell DD until I start to show as well, but I love the suggestion of books!

GinnyJ2012 · October 2015

We're waiting to tell DS1 until after first tri. The books are a great idea. We may do that. I told DS2, but he's 14 months and doesn't understand. MY SIL is pregnant so DS1 was able to see her belly and knows there's a baby in there. He'll tell you that a Dr takes the baby out when he's big and the baby gets yucky. A nurse gives the baby a bath so they will smell nice.

SchruteBucks · October 2015

I have a 14, 11 and almost 3 year old. We were going to wait until 8-12 weeks before telling them. If I start having morning sickness before then, we'll probably tell them sooner because they will figure it out otherwise. I don't want to tell them too soon because I made that mistake before my youngest was born and miscarried shortly after I told them and I don't want to put them through that again if I can avoid it.

LizM61409 · October 2015

Not to be a debbie downer, but it may be wise to wait until the 2nd tri to tell younger kids, otherwise you may find yourself having to explain the concept of miscarriage/death

cdnvb4 · October 2015

We've been talking to our son (4.5) ever since we found out. I kind of wish we had waited, just in case something bad happens. But we were talking about it with him around and figured we should include him in the conversation. We tell him that we think God may have put a baby in my belly but we need to wait until the doctor takes a picture to find out if we're right. By the time we have the first ultrasound, we'll be almost through the first trimester and the pregnancy will be far enough along to tell him for sure.

sorarose · October 2015

I'm wondering how to exactly tell my 1.5 year old. I really think the baby will just have to show up and he'll make his peace with it (or not).

RMLandy · October 2015

We are waiting until 12+ weeks to tell my 4 1/2 year old. During my last pregnancy, he somehow figured it out and kept asking. I just completely lied to him and now I'm so glad I did not have to explain the miscarriage to him. I think it depends how mature your kids are and what you feel comfortable with them having to deal with.

cjt121413 · October 2015

Thanks for bringing this up. We haven't decided how and when to tell our 6 year old. We had considered telling him after we hear the HB but maybe 2nd tri? I don't know if we'll be able to keep a secret from him for fat long. He's pretty perceptive.

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