Is it rude if?

kirsty100 · October 2015

Is it rude if I just don't answer anyone's calls, honestly just sick of everyone calling me every day, I get people are just checking but honestly, my step dad who's not my step dad but pretty much raised me, is pissing off to Bali on my due date and he calls me to check in but it's like mate you clearly rather go get laid then care about your grandchild so to me shows type person he really is and pretends like he gives a shit about appointments, when few months ago he reckons baby was going to be early and this and that, now that he's going away so it suits him she's going to be late, he also tried dumbing my 14 year old bother in me which I refused to look after him at i could have baby then or still be waiting, my brother can easily go to our mums that's another story between them though plus he's not my child not my responsibility, then my mil messaging and calling me telling me how nervous she is and how she's so on edge and she's so sick and this and that! Like shut up, Am I rude ignoring there dumb phone calls because I can't be bothered listening to them complain and shit id rather just chill on my own and be left alone. I don't know whether this is hormones and it's just me feeling like a B$&@, or if they are just being Self absorbed like always and I've just had enough. But honestly don't want to answer there phone calls anymore. They can message me I'll get back to them I don't need them calling me over every little thing!

kellisue1213 · October 2015

The best thing about phone calls is that you don't have to answer them. If it's stressing you out, just decline the call. I totally understand where you are coming from. I've started to turn the ringer off so I can get some rest before the big day. I say who cares if other people think it's rude, it's up to you. Good luck!

millereliz13 · October 2015

It's perfectly fine to stop answering phone calls. Especially if they are all self absorbed. Honestly, I had a few people I stopped answering the phone for before my c-section as I just didn't want to hear their crap anymore. The same people have started to only get texts after my sons birth, a "sleeping" baby is a great excuse to not pick up the phone.

kirsty100 · October 2015

Oh good I'm not the only one refusing to answer haha, baby needs to come so then I can use the sleeping baby excuse!

wack0032 · October 2015

I started doing this. So sick of answering baby questions.

kirsty100 · October 2015

Is it a pregnant person thing or are all these people just harassing us? I can't tell if it's me or them honestly I don't like this attention, I hide in the house with blinds closed and door locked because I worry my mil will just rock up when I just wanna chill and do my thing I don't feel the need to entertain people my mum calls before she comes, she doesn't expect much from me so I don't mind having her around. But honestly I don't answer there calls and they keep calling im prepared to turn my phone off. I go visit my grandparents to they are great aswell just let me chill and do my thing no pressure everyone else is stressing me out so I'm hiding from it all cant deal with there drama

dchiapella · October 2015

Honestly, unless it's someone I talk to on the norm like my husband or my mom, I ALWAYS let it go to VM. If they leave a message then it's probably a call I want to return, if not, I feel like it probably wasn't that important to begin with. I have NEVER enjoyed talking on the phone.

BlueTopazBride · October 2015

I've been mostly ignoring the phone calls too. I've been sending out a "were still waiting" group text every other day since my due date to family. They have all joked that I wouldn't even tell them until baby was here and then I would be too busy to call. The thought crossed my mind, but they all live far enough away they can't do any harm of I tell them when I'm leaving for the hospital.

BRBaby1012 · October 2015

I'm doing the same thing. I started maternity leave on my due date (40 + 3 today), and I have people asking every 8 hours for an "update." I don't want to turn off my phone in case my husband or parents call, but geez!

Here's the update- I told you I'd let you know when we have any news! PLEASE trust me on this and let me sleep!

BryDienta · October 2015

BRBaby1012 said:

I'm doing the same thing. I started maternity leave on my due date (40 + 3 today), and I have people asking every 8 hours for an "update." I don't want to turn off my phone in case my husband or parents call, but geez!

Here's the update- I told you I'd let you know when we have any news! PLEASE trust me on this and let me sleep!

YES! I am only one day past due and everyone is like is he here, how do you feel etc! I am still working and it's making all my coworkers, especially the men, nervous. I am scheduled to be induced next Tuesday/Wednesday if he doesn't arrive before then and am only telling my parents and one sister-in-law. I know people would want the entire play by play and I know I will not have the time or patience for any of that!

kirsty100 · October 2015

I really think people need to realise there not going to miss out, they'll find out eventually and when we are all ready to let them know, that's what's annoying my my mil sends me stupid messages and calls over dumb things I just don't reply or answer anymore, she will know when I want her to know or she can contact her son for once instead of me, I'm not doing this where all friends things with her because we're not shes only started giving a crap because Im having her grandchild otherwise I'd be left to my own devices, I also don't need her messaging me how nervous she is like I care. I would turn my phone off also but partner and my mum need to get a hold of me of anything happens and I like messaging me sister to she amuses me other wise my phone would be smashed by now haha

erinboehme · October 2015

I don't want any visitors in the hospital and everyone knows that, but they want to visit me anyway, so I keep getting the "Let us know when you're headed in!" texts.

JaqiDec04 · October 2015

The best feature on my phone is called "Do not Disturb." It goes completely silent. It doesn't even vibrate for phone calls, voice mails, text messages or Facebook. The only time it makes noise is if someone on my "Favorites" list actually calls.

And currently, the only person on that list is DH.

kirsty100 · October 2015

What kind of phone? I hope my phone can do this! That's a great idea!!! @JaqiDec04

ToriMinton · October 2015

I'm glad I'm not the only one feeling this way!
Gah, my mil calls every.single.day! "Is she having contractions? Well how close together are they"
Like look woman, I think I'll know when I need to go to the hospital. Plus I've only had 1 damn contraction. She also will just show up at our house with no notice..that's just not gonna fly anymore when baby gets here.
Have I mentioned Im so done being pregnant lol these hormones are getting to me now

JaqiDec04 · October 2015

kirsty100 said:

What kind of phone? I hope my phone can do this! That's a great idea!!! @JaqiDec04

I have an iPhone 5s...blackberries do it. I'm not sure about samsungs/android devices.

sdnyc99 · October 2015

My older dd was born at 36 weeks and everyone knows this, so my family started the "any news yet???" texts/calls/messages extra early.

Of course, because of this, she'll probably come late with my luck!

Knottie70261981 · October 2015

My mil won't back off. I've made it very clear to my dh that I don't want a circus of people at the hospital... She wants to be there and I don't want her there. She had the nerve to ask me when I was 12 weeks pregnant "do you really even want this baby?" All because I wasn't doing cartwheels after the ultrasound. This is my 2nd and my hubby's 1st so I wasn't excited enough for her. Who asks someone this. Of course I want this baby. Things have been strained since and her excuse is "sometimes I just don't think before I speak "... Now dh is saying "it's her grandson too".. Ugh sooo over it

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