Still not feeling it

Re: Still not feeling it

• crsanchez87 member

  October 2015

  Honestly, I think alot of it is just getting adjusted to being a mommy and a wife. For me, My mind is into it but my body is just so tired. I'll think "Yea, Lets do it!" and then I'll be asleep. I find it hard to even watch a full movie on a Saturday night, I end up asleep like halfway through. I also feel BFing has something to do with it. I feel a little uncomfortable when DH wants to touch the ladies, and its even more awkward (for me) when milk makes an appearance. I think we are still just trying to the right balance and catch up on sleep. Itll come back, fingers crossed!
  

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• jaminycricket member

  October 2015

  You're not alone, I'm in the same boat honestly. For me, I still feel like everything is either not quite healed up yet or just different now. Sex feels physically uncomfortable now. I still give in at least once a week though because I want my husband happy.

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• torie2132 member

  October 2015

  Girl you are NOT alone. I honestly just suck it up and wait till it's over. Haha. That sounds so bad, but you've just got to get back on the horse. I had a 3rd degree tear and also find it uncomfortable. Not altogether intollerable, but definitely not fun. And I'm not nursing either

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• myjessesgirl member

  October 2015

  I noticed a definite increase in sex drive after I decreased nursing to just mornings and evenings. Still not thrilled with it, but it went from begrudgingly dealing with it to actually somewhat enjoying things. It is a slow process, but I think hormones had a lot to do with my aversions. Still not back to normal, but I'm hoping it will get there soon. I was also affected negatively by being on the pill before getting pregnant, so I know I'm susceptible to hormone imbalances causing problems.

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• SMac2013 member

  October 2015

  I get in random moods but most of them time I don't want touched. You are not alone. Having a baby has totally changed our "sexy time". I will have sex at least once every 2 weeks to try to keep hubby happy. I dont think guys grasp how much work it is to keep a little human alive and safe daily. I'm constantly worrying if I do something wrong will this scar him and he'll be "messed up". I know it's ridiculous to even think like that but I can't help it. I go to bed thinking "when will he wake up and need something or what will we do tomorrow to keep him entertained" not let's have sec and possibly get prego again. Haha.

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• DustyMelons member

  October 2015

  SharLovesAlex said:

  Alright. It's been 7 mos., officially. 7 months since LO was born. So why am I still not interested in sex???? I read it could be because I'm still breastfeeding. But I just find that I'm never in the mood. I do try to get in the mood, and sometimes I start to think, okay yeah. This is nice. And then it just fizzles and my mind starts to wander and I just want it to be done. Anyone else still feeling this way? Is breastfeeding the culprit? Any suggestions? A couple of times, we've gotten a bottle of wine to set the tone, but end up falling asleep! #-o Please refrain from the sarcastic responses. I don't know if that's still a thing on here, but if you could just refrain, that'd be awesome. Sincere & genuine responses are welcome, though.

  
  Honestly sex didn't get better for us until after I stopped breastfeeding. There's only so much that alcohol and lube can accomplish. I know that's not a great answer, sorry. Keep your chin up.

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• SharLovesAlex member

  October 2015

  Thanks everyone. Glad I'm not the only one. I do try even if I do just wait til it's over some of the time...I just wish I felt something! Every once in a while I will, but most times, it's the last thing on my mind.
  

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