PPD Symptoms

Re: PPD Symptoms

• jd614 member

  October 2015

  There is something called the Baby Blues, that sounds a little like what you are describing. I had it with my first son, and felt sad and anxious around the same time every single day. I loved my son and was super happy to have him but hormones were raging and I just had this melancholy feeling every day. It lasted for about 3 weeks for me. To me however it sounds like you are un happy in your situation and you are allowing it to have a ripple and spill over effect into everything else in your life. Are you a full time working mom? I think that is probably what is triggering your sadness , when you mention the lack of bond etc. I worked for 2 years with DS1. Please know that no one, not one single person, can replace the bond a baby has with his/her mother. They have no concept of time. So if you are gone 5 minutes for 15 hours, its all the same to them. They are just so happy to be close to you whenever possible. Maybe it would help to take off work and spend a full day just cuddling with your baby and having alone time. Try co-sleeping, that can help too. Hang in there, it does get easier.

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• Sammadden27 member

  October 2015

  I hear ya! I definitely don't think I have PPD. I love my baby, life, everything. I don't want to harm myself or my baby at all. But, I'm a SAHM in a new town and my husband works a lot. It's just me and my son all the time and I talk myself out of meeting new people all the time. I feel lonely and I question every decision I make and beat myself up over it.
  It's been so hard for me to go from having a high powered position at work to staying at home all day. When I see babies my sons age hitting milestones I get mad at myself that I'm doing a bad job because he hasn't hit those milestones and I'm home with him all day.
  When I sit back and think about it I know I'm crazy to think all this and I love my life so much. I think it's just easy to think the negative right now. I definitely think it's the baby blues and just really figuring this part of life out. Keep being strong!!!

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• Liwo member

  October 2015 edited October 2015

  Thanks for the encouragement

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• ldmw member

  October 2015 edited October 2015

  Thank you all. I don't feel like it's PPD but do feel something is off. I wasn't aware we could have baby blues 5 months later after giving birth.
  
  @jd614 I am a full-time working mom. My blues started a few weeks before I had to go back to work. After I adjusted I was doing good, until others started talking to me and put ideas in my head about how I should be a SAHM. I then feel guilty because I know I could never be a SAHM. I need the balance of working for me-time and being a mom. I feel terrible about this, but your concept of time has helped. I've taken some extra time off and spent it with my baby. It didn't help this time, but has in the past so I will remember to do this in future if needed.
  
  @Sammadden27 I'm so sorry becoming a SAHM has been hard for you. I think us moms have it hard no matter what we choose and you have chosen the hardest. I applaud you. Please try not to compare your son's milestones to others. I know it's easier said than done, but each baby develops at his/her own rate.
  
  @Liwo This thread can be a support for each other. Also, you may want to change your screenname from your name and email to keep it private.

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• jd614 member

  October 2015

  Don't let other people get into your head. Like I said I worked for 2 years and while my goal was to become a stay at home mom, i don't regret one single minute of working outside of my home. My son thrived at daycare, I am his best friend and we have a great situation. People are so quick to judge no matter what you decide...if you are a SAHM, you aren't contributing to your family, you aren't playing or engaging him enough, you stay home so why is your house a mess and laundry not done, etc etc etc. The grass is always greener. Focus on you and your family . Nothing else matters. If you like working and you know that is what makes you the best version of yourself, then that right there is doing what is best for your child...a happy mommy=a happy baby.

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• ldmw member

  October 2015

  Thank you @jd614! I needed to hear that today. Funny how two working women who never has children can get in my head about being a SAHM. Me working is what makes it best for me and my family. That doesn't mean I don't miss my baby like crazy and wish I had a better balance.

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• tjurado10 member

  October 2015

  I got the baby blues when LO was over 3 months I thought it was PPD because I thought the baby blues were right after you get home from the hospital. I felt very anxious, any little thing would trigger my anger, stressed etc. I went out for a walk one day and it helped tremendously. I went where there hardly any people so I wouldn't feel like I had to get fancy lol

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• jame1380 member

  October 2015

  How long can baby blues last? I'm not sure if I have PPD as well. I have had episodes that come and go since giving birth. I will go several weeks of sunshine and roses then it all goes dark. The slightest things trigger anger where they shouldn't. Even the stresses at work seem amplified. Post Partum is so confusing!

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• Liwo member

  October 2015

  @ldmw could you please delete the email address from your post on Oct 12? Thank you!

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• ldmw member

  October 2015

  @liwo done

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• mars8k member

  October 2015

  I am mainly very bitter, i feel that i'm doing everything and not getting any help even though i helped both my sisters with all their babies especially Each 1s first 2. My husband is no help, i can't go anywhere fun and i'm jealous of lo's bond with her caregiver. I also don't think it's ppd but it's a a lot of baby blues. I am considering seeing some one but it's hard to leave her with someone after work, is there online video counseling out there?!

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