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Maybe I am wrong

AMagnerAMagner member
in October 2015 Moms
My fiance asked me if it would be ok to take our daughter on an adventure on the bike path near our home bc she said her teacher suggested everyone go on an adventure for Columbus Day. I can't even remember the last time he took her anywhere. He all of a sudden has been having lots of disagreements with me about our kids when the bulk of responsibility has been on me. He has bern a little pushy and attempting to control everything and complaining about little things. He has been acting different toward me. He never asks to take both of our daughters and only ever wants to take our oldest anywhere and tries to exclude us and what a fine time to want to do things with her bc I am almost due to have our 3rd child. Am I just being suspicious or does it seem like maybe he might be meeting up with someone whom has a child her age and has been asking to meet her? I feel like he might be betraying me with family by going behind my back. I don't trust his dad. I feel like something is not right.
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  • AiramJAiramJ member
    That sounds like a right pain! If I was in your position, I'd ask him straight. Ask him why he only ever takes one daughter and ask him if anything is up. Tell him you noticed changes. I don't think now is the right time at all to having to wonder about what he is getting up to. You shouldn't have to worry about anything but be excited about the new arrival!
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  • shantyraeshantyrae member
    How old are the two kids currently?
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  • samisargentsamisargent member
    Meeting up with someone as in another woman? If your oldest child is old enough to talk, I would think he would be more careful if that was the situation in fear that she would come home to tell you she met "Aunt Sally".
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  • KLopez33KLopez33 member
    Why don't you just ask your daughter what her and Dad did? Depending how old she is, they will spill the world to you!
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  • BlueTopazBrideBlueTopazBride member
    You are probably just being paranoid. But you should ask him what's up if you have noticed changes.
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  • AMagnerAMagner member
    We have a 7 1/2 yr old and a 4 yr old.
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  • AMagnerAMagner member
    I did ask him and he either denies he has been acting different or tries to blame me and my hormones, which is admitting he has been and therefore is a contradiction to what he said in the first place.
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  • AMagnerAMagner member
    I have before and I feel like she tries to protect us both bc she wants her family together, but at one point she did tell me she thought he had a girlfriend. I brought it up to him and he said "You know she makes stuff up." and she has bc she told him I had someone come over when I did not. I don't know what to believe.
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  • AMagnerAMagner member
    Kids can be bribed not to say anything. I feel there is a reason he does not want me with bc after I mentioned our other daughter he said he can take her too. I would think with me being so close to having our baby that he would be hesitant on leaving me alone and it is like lately he has been trying to leave without me a lot.
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  • AMagnerAMagner member
    I think maybe he can't handle both kids and he can do more with our oldest, but he never just takes our youngest anywhere and unless I push for us to go out as a family or we need to get something done we won't go anywhere. It isn't fair to our youngest.
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  • AMagnerAMagner member
    I forgot to mention my niece whom is 3 yrs younger than I am and whom I haven't spoken to in years works where he works and her mother, which is my sister started working there too. My niece lives near us and her dad has a boat near that path. He didn't ask me until he was on break at work. My family has been asking to see our daughter's. They ask my mom. There was a lot of drama with them so I stayed away. My niece is a single mom of 3...2 girls and a boy and my sister's relationship is basically non existent and they have a daughter. Their daughter's are older though. My niece has been trying to make eye contact with him and trying to talk to him. She is trouble.
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  • JaqiDec04JaqiDec04 member
    Your niece is trying to make eye contact with your husband/boyfriend? I'm so confused.

    Honestly, if my husband was suddenly taking my 4 yr old out and about, and leaving me kid-less for a few hours, I would think "god bless that man for taking some of my load off" I would not assume he's cheating.

    So either he's right, you are being irrational, or there are some serious trust issues here and possibly a reason for them you aren't mentioning.
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  • AMagnerAMagner member
    She works where he works and when he looks back to see who walked in the kitchen...he is a chef by the way, he sees her standing there staring at him. She asks him questions rather than asking someone whom is not busy. He is not her boss. She has talked lots of shit about me and has attempted to flirt with him in the past. We have not spoken in years, but now that I am pregnant everyone is trying to get info either from him or my mother like they are just gonna show up to our house or the hospital. I think they think if they go through him all will be fine but they chose to mistreat me and exclude me and have been trying to see my kids or I should say my oldest behind my back. They want to know our business but only attempt to communicate half assed through my mom. These are the kind of people whom like to create drama in others relationships. He has always had a wandering eye and a bit on the flirty side. He did things in the beginning that makes me wonder sometimes if he really changed bc sometimes I catch a glimpse of his other side. He has lied to me about stupid stuff lately and he is the type that needs to be liked. Also I am the mom whom does not catch the breaks. This is not his usual. I am almost always with my kids unless my mom gives me a break which is rare. We are talking maybe once a month
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  • itstheblackwidowbabyitstheblackwidowbaby member
    Wow, that's a lot. I'm going to go out on a limb here and suggest couple's counseling. He needs to be more involved with his almost middle daughter and the two of you need to work on your communication with each other. 
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