Anyone else expecting a rainbow baby?

keywestmommyof4 · October 2015

I'm in constant fear of loosing my pregnancy again. Just wondering if anyone else out there is experiencing this also. Every little cramp or pain gets me worried.

rebelone · October 2015

I've had a traumatic obstetric history so any successful pregnancy for me is a rainbow baby.

BreannaaaMarieee · October 2015

This will be my first pregnancy/baby and yes, every little thing scares me lol! I guess it's pretty normal though. Just don't stress your self out with worrying so much. Most likely everything is ok and normal during pregnancy!

Pinguinageddon · October 2015

I'm having a rainbow baby, I'm 15.1 with mine after two miscarriages, once this year and once last year.
It's super important to remember that once you hear the baby's heartbeat, chances go down dramatically, and once you hit the second trimester, that chance stays below 1%!
Throughout the pregnancy you're going to cramp, have contractions, gas, etc as your body changes. Just try to remember that they're all signs of good things. Even spotting sometimes is okay.
If it makes you feel better though, feel free to keep your doctor's emergency number on hand. I have it nearby at all times, but have yet to feel the need to call. It's just reassuring to know it's there.

BrittnyS10 · October 2015

Im praying that i get to keep this lil nugget as my rainbow baby. Your definately not alone in your worries. Its hard to get as excited after having a loss, i kinda always feel like im walking on eggshells. I keep telling myself "today i am pregnant!" We can do this! I pray for all the little sticky buns out there.
15+1 here too @Pinguinageddon !

Goldsgirl9 · October 2015

I've had two losses this year so I totally understand. Besides being worried about everything I am feeling or not feeling, we've also not allowed ourselves to get excited which is so opposite of my pregnancy with DS. We're superstitious about so much but just trying to have faith. I have my 12 week NT scan and genetic test on Weds and half of me is terrified. Just trying to remain calm and enjoy the today.

rebelone · October 2015

It's hard not to stress out, especially after you've experienced a loss, a couple, or many losses. Pregnancy after a loss is worrisome and nerve wracking. We're also trying not to get too excited for the moment because everything we went through. My test results will be here any day and I'm hoping everything will be all right.

spatter1 · October 2015

Goldsgirl9 said:
I've had two losses this year so I totally understand. Besides being worried about everything I am feeling or not feeling, we've also not allowed ourselves to get excited which is so opposite of my pregnancy with DS. We're superstitious about so much but just trying to have faith. I have my 12 week NT scan and genetic test on Weds and half of me is terrified. Just trying to remain calm and enjoy the today.

This. I'm hopefully having my rainbow baby as well. 11w4d today and also freak out at every cramp, flutter, gas pain, etc. I also freak out when I DONT feel these things. We just can't win

DH and I have also not really let ourselves get excited. We've barely told anyone but parents and I can't bring myself to buy any maternity clothes or anything just yet. Even if I catch myself skimming baby store websites I make myself shut it down. I just feel so superstitious! I keep thinking I'll be more excited after X week... And then that week comes and goes and the worries don't get much better.

I find a lot of comfort on the pregnant after a loss board. It's hard to see this has happened to so many, but also comforting to know you aren't alone. Always here if you need to talk, vent, or just need some support! Wishing you a healthy and uneventful pregnancy!

MamaRoni · October 2015

13 weeks with Rainbow Baby Boy here... we had a loss at 11 weeks in April.... so I have been very disconnected this whole time.
Once we found out sex last week I can finally feel myself connecting with this baby and finding some excitement.

Good luck to you.. well to us all!

jonesl12 · October 2015

This will hopefully be mine but I don't worry about it because if I loose this one there's nothing I can do to prevent or stop it. Worrying solves nothing

kimey1 · October 2015

Yes, totally. I'm 11 weeks+2 and anxiously waiting for the genetic testing results. Just to make sure, we're sharing the news with family around 14-16weeks. Last time we told my folks at 5weeks and had to share the loss 4 weeks later.
I'm limiting all activity (due to fear) until I reach the 2nd trimester. Last time I was too worked up about my diet but was overworking so I've relaxed on both aspects, doing everything in moderation.
I'm also often on the Pregnant After A Loss board on TB. I know it's not easy but try to stay positive so baby is at ease too. Honestly I think I'll still be on the edge until I meet my baby but I'm staying positive. Here's a thread that might help you from that board

: https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12622224/trying-to-get-some-of-that-excitement-back-anyone-with-me#latest

tresams10 · October 2015

She is our rainbow baby!!! She will be my 5 pregnancy, after 3 vaginal surgeries and a truth moment of too much scared tissue my result in a complete hysterectomy all at 28....She will be my rainbow Baby. As many have stated day to day. My friend is sending me her fetal heartbeat monitor for my nerves in the crazy days.
My advice to all never stop dreaming, shopping or participating in the new mommy experience it is for US we are expecting and everything else is beyond our control. Create memories and happy moments. Explore the over priced world of having a baby..
Confession. I thought about randomly creating a registry in the store just to have some mommy and baby time. May not use it but it's for US.

mjhj24 · October 2015

I'm 15.1 and I'm finally starting to let myself get excited. It's difficult because we found out at our 20week u/s last time so the whole 2nd trimester "safe zone" doesn't really comfort me. I just keep thinking that it's important for me to remember all the love and positivity that we felt in those 20 weeks, so IF something does happen, I want to be able to remember the same joy and love during this pregnancy. I'm trying hard not to give in to the natural tendency to distance myself out of fear. Sometimes easier said than done!

Poppy16 · October 2015

This is my rainbow baby. I lost my last baby 6.5 years ago at 16 weeks. The baby had died at 12 weeks, but we didn't know it until we went for our big ultrasound at 16 weeks. Talk about devastating. Now that I'm past 12 weeks, I feel like I can enjoy this pregnancy. Seeing him/her squirm around on the ultrasound helped a lot too. I know where you're coming from... Every little twinge makes me wonder. I just have to keep telling myself that this is a different pregnancy, and there's no reason to think anything will go wrong. Just keep telling yourself that.

RoseShadow873 · October 2015

What is a rainbow baby?

BrittnyS10 · October 2015

It is when someone is able to successfully have a baby after misscarriage or major issues conceiving. Essentially the "rainbow after the storm"

rebelone · October 2015

If anyone would like, I could start a weekly PGaL check in and maybe that can help somehow with those who have experienced a loss. I know other boards have them. It can be a weekly check-in for April moms who have experienced loss before this pregnancy.

huskerfan246 · October 2015

Yes, I'm 13w3d with pregnancy #2. I had a loss in June. I still worry but I'm trying to enjoy this as much as I can.

wlcromer · October 2015

I'm expecting rainbow TWINS! :-D

kimey1 · October 2015

@wlcromer That is AWESOME

Goldsgirl9 · October 2015

spatter1 said:

Goldsgirl9 said:
I've had two losses this year so I totally understand. Besides being worried about everything I am feeling or not feeling, we've also not allowed ourselves to get excited which is so opposite of my pregnancy with DS. We're superstitious about so much but just trying to have faith. I have my 12 week NT scan and genetic test on Weds and half of me is terrified. Just trying to remain calm and enjoy the today.
This. I'm hopefully having my rainbow baby as well. 11w4d today and also freak out at every cramp, flutter, gas pain, etc. I also freak out when I DONT feel these things. We just can't win DH and I have also not really let ourselves get excited. We've barely told anyone but parents and I can't bring myself to buy any maternity clothes or anything just yet. Even if I catch myself skimming baby store websites I make myself shut it down. I just feel so superstitious! I keep thinking I'll be more excited after X week... And then that week comes and goes and the worries don't get much better.

I find a lot of comfort on the pregnant after a loss board. It's hard to see this has happened to so many, but also comforting to know you aren't alone. Always here if you need to talk, vent, or just need some support! Wishing you a healthy and uneventful pregnancy!

This exactly! DH and I feel exactly the same. It's crazy! I broke down and purchased maternity clothes for work but refuse to open the package. Last time I purchased maternity clothes I ended up having to return everything. The packages are just sitting there but I know in a few weeks I will have to open them.

I told one of my sisters but really no one else knows minus doctors and trainers at the gym. I stopped working out three weeks ago because I was so exhausted and now I'm afraid to go back. If all looks good tomorrow I plan on starting again this week but slowly. It's so hard not to worry. Our plan is tell around 18 weeks if I can make it that long without showing but it's not looking like that will happen. When we do tell will only be immediate family. Others will find out when they see us.

I'm here for you as well if you need to chat. I totally get where you are coming from. Wishing everyone a happy and healthy 9 months!

aa79606 · October 2015

I'm 12 weeks today with a little boy, after two losses in the last year and a half. It's been really hard for hubby and I to get excited about or even talk much about this pregnancy, at least until the last couple of weeks. I'm 41, so obviously we've been holding our breath til we got the genetic test back yesterday. Everything looks good, thankfully! I'm still super-aware of every twinge and cramp, but I'm starting to get a real bump and really feel like this pregnancy is going to "stick." I agree with the PPs and I've also held to the "today, I am pregnant" mantra, and I'm trying to enjoy the experience as much as possible.

sarahufl · October 2015

Goldsgirl9 said:

I've had two losses this year so I totally understand. Besides being worried about everything I am feeling or not feeling, we've also not allowed ourselves to get excited which is so opposite of my pregnancy with DS. We're superstitious about so much but just trying to have faith. I have my 12 week NT scan and genetic test on Weds and half of me is terrified. Just trying to remain calm and enjoy the today.
This. I'm hopefully having my rainbow baby as well. 11w4d today and also freak out at every cramp, flutter, gas pain, etc. I also freak out when I DONT feel these things. We just can't win DH and I have also not really let ourselves get excited. We've barely told anyone but parents and I can't bring myself to buy any maternity clothes or anything just yet. Even if I catch myself skimming baby store websites I make myself shut it down. I just feel so superstitious! I keep thinking I'll be more excited after X week... And then that week comes and goes and the worries don't get much better. I find a lot of comfort on the pregnant after a loss board. It's hard to see this has happened to so many, but also comforting to know you aren't alone. Always here if you need to talk, vent, or just need some support! Wishing you a healthy and uneventful pregnancy!
This exactly! DH and I feel exactly the same. It's crazy! I broke down and purchased maternity clothes for work but refuse to open the package. Last time I purchased maternity clothes I ended up having to return everything. The packages are just sitting there but I know in a few weeks I will have to open them. I told one of my sisters but really no one else knows minus doctors and trainers at the gym. I stopped working out three weeks ago because I was so exhausted and now I'm afraid to go back. If all looks good tomorrow I plan on starting again this week but slowly. It's so hard not to worry. Our plan is tell around 18 weeks if I can make it that long without showing but it's not looking like that will happen. When we do tell will only be immediate family. Others will find out when they see us. I'm here for you as well if you need to chat. I totally get where you are coming from. Wishing everyone a happy and healthy 9 months!

I bought a bunch of maternity pants- tried them on, and left them in a pile in my closet with the receipt. I didn't want to actually wear them until I absolutely had to. H kept telling me to wear them (I was bitching about feeling like a sausage in my regular pants) but I held out till I absolutely couldn't wait any longer.

A friend is about 16 weeks pregnant and bought a car seat because it was on sale- I was like "um, zero purchase for baby yet". I don't see myself buying anything for months. And this is after a number of good scans where the doctors said everything looks amazing this time.

jessybum90 · October 2015

I'm not sure what a rainbow baby is but I definitely feel like this. I've had two miscarriages in the last year and one of them became a life threatening issue. I'm now 11+6 and every twinge or slight pain scares the life out of me. I think it's completely normal to feel scared if you've had any bad experience at all, and I don't think you ever feel truly comfortable until they're safe in your arms. Try to stay positive though, you've already got this far x

Goldsgirl9 · October 2015

@sarahufl I feel you! I can't bring myself to purchase anything or even browse newborn stuff. We don't even really discuss the baby at this point. I miss the naivety of my first pregnancy.

@jessybum90 I'm 11+6 also. We're due date buddies. NT scan and blood work for genetic test tomorrow late afternoon.

sarahufl · October 2015

Goldsgirl9 said:

@sarahufl I feel you! I can't bring myself to purchase anything or even browse newborn stuff. We don't even really discuss the baby at this point. I miss the naivety of my first pregnancy. @jessybum90 I'm 11+6 also. We're due date buddies. NT scan and blood work for genetic test tomorrow late afternoon.

We actually just told our parents a few days ago. And told them not to say anything to anyone.

My first pregnancy ended in a blaze of glory- emergency surgery on my birthday complete with internal bleeding from a ruptured tube. Sort of drains the excitement from it all.

jessybum90 · October 2015

@Goldsgirl9 Ooo bump buddies!! I'm booked in on Friday morning for my scan, although I've already had two I'm so nervous! Hope it all goes well for you tomorrow, would love to hear how you get on xx

jessybum90 · October 2015

@sarahufl It's definitely hard to get excited. When you're new to it all it seems so innocent and straight forward. You get pregnant, you might be a bit sick and then you pop out a baby. That's certainly how my first pregnancy went. It's such a massive slap in the face when you experience a miscarriage after the inital innocence you go in with. It taints any following pregnancy sadly Xx

Goldsgirl9 · October 2015

@sarahufl we're trying to hold until the thanksgiving time frame when I'll be 18 weeks but with this being my second I'm already showing in my option although no one else has caught on and I'm still wearing regular clothes but that's becoming increasingly more difficult. I give my work pants maybe another week or two before I can't button them. So let's see if we can hold out. If not we'll tell sooner but we're just so skeptical. After we told our family last pregnancy I miscarried two weeks later.

Sorry about your first pregnancy. That sounds positively brutal.

Goldsgirl9 · October 2015

@jessybum90 mine is tomorrow. Praying for a healthy baby. I've had two as well and all has looked great. The ultrasound tech, who was the same tech through my entire first pregnancy and through my two losses, cried with me when we heard the hb at 7 weeks. I'm excited but very nervous about tomorrow.

kaitlyn592 · October 2015

Yes, we had an MMC earlier this year. Now here I am 13w4d and we just had our 12(ish) week appointment with a strong hb and a big thumbs up from our midwife. She even told us we're in the clear for sharing the news (I've been delaying it until this appointment)!!

Best wishes for all of the other women who've posted before me! These sure are extra special babies

Pinguinageddon · October 2015

https://www.popsugar.com/moms/Letter-Daughter-Infertility-38755652

MamaRoni · October 2015

@rebelone ... I'd love a check in

myndihallberg · October 2015

I'm finally in the second trimester! The scariest part is behind me! I will still worry even when the baby arrives lol but this is our rainbow baby! So incredibly happy! After two pregnancy losses, I am so excited to finally be this far along.

Goldsgirl9 · October 2015

Thankfully all went well at my 12 week/NT scan today. I feel like I can breathe! Still trying to hold out until after 16 week appointment but I don't think my belly is going to allow it.

jennielara · October 2015

I also suffered a loss. Baby passed around 14 wks we didn't discover it until 17w5d. My whole family was traumatized. I got induced and delivered him April 20. I found out in early Sept. I'm expecting twins. I have seen them on ultrasound 3 times. My family and i totally get that all of this is out of our hands. I'm 12w5d today. I have felt movement from them. I haven't felt them today. Really trying not to worry. It doesn't do any good. Best wishes to all mamas and babies

Cynthia1207 · October 2015

I had an ectopic pregnancy and a MMC in less than 6 months. Got pregnant with rainbow baby 3 months after the MMC. I'm definitely scared. Every little thing worries me and it's hard to feel excited.

I'm hoping after my AS when I know everything will be fine (FX) that I'll feel a bit more excited and connected to the pregnancy.

NachosAndPeaches · October 2015

I think someone said this already but in my first BMB we had a pgal weekly checkin. Was helpful!

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