Adjusting to newborn

babybumb1229 · October 2015

Hello fellow mommas I just wanted to know how everyone is adjusting to already having newborn at home? I was good for the first 3 weeks since my husband was home but now that he is starting to go to work agian I worry not having his help. Anyone else feeling this ?

cmjn94 · October 2015

My husband is going back to work next week when LO is 3 weeks. I'm really nervous about taking care of him by myself and taking on more of the night shift so he can get rest before work. Should be interesting! I would just try to get your LO on as much of a schedule as you can.

Dawnmarie0310 · October 2015

He will go back to work once were home and I will go back wen he's around 20 days old (baby isn't here and I'm already dreading that day) I would say try and get on a schedule as soon as baby allows it lol. I think it would be beneficial. I'm trying to get myself on one in the am already. Just so I'm up and used to it so I have time to do what I need to before work and taking baby to sitters.

ElleMF728 · October 2015

I was worried about having both kids all day without DH, I have a (just turned) 2 year old and a newborn. Honestly, it hasn't been too bad and definitely not as scary or as difficult as when I had my first.

My best advice to prepare for the big day is to have DH get out and leave you on your own for an extended period of time. He can go play some golf or get together with friends etc. It can gradually get longer and prepare you for the big day. Do you have someone who can come over and give you a break for a bit every week or even just keep you company and hold LO for a bit? I try to separate my weeks in terms of activities. Ex: Only one day until we visit Grammy and Papa, 2 days until doctor's appointment etc. It makes it go by quicker and seem a bit more manageable.

I find this even more useful now that DH is having to work a ton (12 hour days, 7 days a week) only now its more like "only 3 hours until nap, 2 hours until dinner and bath, 30 minutes until bedime!!!!! YAY haha

ameares721 · October 2015

My baby was a month early so we weren't planning any time off for my husband just yet! His boss gave him the week off and I struggled a LOT when he went back. There was lots of ugly crying on my part!!! Baby girl is four weeks now and I haven't cried in maybe a week. It got a lot better but man were those first two weeks hard emotionally!!!

JAZsax · October 2015

I completely empathize with your situation! My husband went back to work after 5 days. Our little one is almost 4 weeks, and it has been rough since I have been struggling to sleep at night (baby has been sleeping fairly well though). So, I have been a little sleep deprived.

KristynLee15 · October 2015

Its comforting to know im not alone. My baby girl came 2.5 weeks early ans the delivery had a few complications. We were in the hospital a week due to some health concerns for Evelyn. Were home now on day 2 and i feel like im a disaster! Lots of crying from the both of us!!

ameares721 · October 2015

I cried because my baby was a month early and I wasn't ready to stop being pregnant. I cried because the days were going by so fast and I knew I would miss her newborn days and was afraid I would forget everything. I cried because I missed my husband soooo much when he was at work. I cried because I was alone. I cried because we had so many visitors and I felt I had to entertain and didn't have enough alone time. I cried because I knew we would stop having visitors when the excitement wore off. I cried because I am worried my baby may have complications in the future from being early despite the fact we had a perfect pregnancy, labor/delivery, and no complications/assistance after she was born. I cried because I had just started my weekly appointments and I really like my midwife and now I don't get to see her anymore. I'll probably cry tomorrow when she's a month old and on Wednesday when it's her original due date. I'll definitely cry when I pack up her newborn clothes. Hang in there!!!

rue:D · October 2015

My husband went back to work for the first time tonight leaving me here alone (MIL was here while he worked last week). I'm not having any problems with the baby herself, but I'm having a bit of pain in my c section incision and that's making it hard to do things.

You'll be okay though! It'll be hard some days but other days will be great - and the same would be true if your husband was home.

babybumb1229 · October 2015

Thank all you mommas I'm glad I'm not alone in feeling this my first day alone wasn't that bad as I thought and I did cry a bit telling my husband bye he kept checking on me Which was nice I wish the best for everyone on here

mak1020 · October 2015

My LO was two weeks early as well. My DH didn't get any time off, so it's been rough for me but luckily my mom was here during the day for the first week. It's still rough bc LO has gas all the time and isn't really sleeping a lot at night. Poor guy. But I try to nap as much as I can when I can ! I am dreading going back to work a week before xmas( I work in retAil) ugh that will be hard

kim1228 · October 2015

DH hasn't accrued PTO this year or paternity leave (he just started a new job) so he'll be taking a few unpaid days, then back to the grind! Its a great job, so it is worth it. They'll be flexible and let him put a few hours in at home etc. Still a bummer. I'm nervous for it...and it could be like 3 weeks away still!

tracij12 · October 2015

With both of my pregnancies I dreaded my H having to go back to work. He took a week off with both and with DD1 we spent almost all of that time in the hospital. Both times, once the day came it was actually kindof nice. With my first I had no idea what to do and I secretly enjoyed figuring it out on my own (probably weird I realize). With my second, I knew what to do but still loved getting to know her and her habits/needs with lots of 1:1 time.

Plus, with him at work all day, he wanted extra time with baby in the evening so I could take an extra long shower or paint my nails or do something just for me

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