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Crazy stranger and my baby

jennsuzanne87jennsuzanne87 member
in September 2015 Moms
Kind of a rant kind of a question here. So I don't take my 6 week baby out much and when I do he doesn't come out of his carrier so I can help prevent exposure to people touching him. Well yesterday went to a good friends house warming party and we took ds. All was well and he was sleeping in his carrier but then woke up hungry. Myself and two good friends went to the back room to bf him and somehow a girl I've never met caught wind of a baby being there. She came into the back room and asked overly excitedly to hold him. Not really sure how to respond to such an eager stranger I let her hold him. I wish I wouldn't have because then every woman there wanted to. I let people hold him for very brief periods and denied that girl when she kept asking to hold him and kiss him. Now I'm worried I've exposed him to too many germs. I've only let family hold him up until now and I'm just so weirded out by that girl. She was practically crying over him not exaggerating . I was just trying to be nice but geez. I need to step my "no" game up I feel guilty! How do you ladies politely decline people when they want to hold your baby and am I being over paranoid? He will be six weeks Tuesday so he's still pretty young but I don't want to keep us cooped up at home for another two months.
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  • jbettlesjbettles member
    I know you were surprised/thrown off by her, but I would have used bf'ing as an excuse - "Oh, he's eating, maybe later..." Then back into his carrier.

    I am a teacher and I teach the after school program, as well. Our after school coordinator has been weird about insisting I bring baby to meet the students. I'm like... NO, I'm not exposing him to gross germy children! I finally had to just lay it out and tell her he hasn't had his immunizations and so no, I wouldn't be bringing him. Sheesh!!!
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  • Yiggle09Yiggle09 member
    We're 6 weeks today and he already got a cold from family! Very p o ed. I had a random lady at a Mobil gas station bathroom just come up as we're changing him and grab his little hand. I was like wtf lady he's 4 weeks old! I said excuse me but we're trying to get changed etc. She's like we'll I love babies. Do you really love them cause if you did you'd keep your germs bathroom hands to yourself!
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  • theglitteredpterodactyltheglitteredpterodactyl member
    I'd just tell people sorry but baby is still too little. I had a woman try and touch my baby when I was at the fabric store and I just blocked her with my hand and shifted my weight (baby was in the ktan) and said please don't touch my baby, she's too little. The woman was a bit taken aback but very polite, and the other woman she was with (I'm assuming daughter, the toucher was in her 70s/80s and the woman she was with seemed mid 50s) was very reaffirming and helped navigate it as well once I made the no touching clear. I know it's hard, I'm terrible at confrontation as well! Good luck!
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  • tlc11934tlc11934 member
    We won't bring dd in public until she's vaccinated at 8 weeks. I would just say that you are waiting to vaccinate before letter others hold your LO .
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  • jennsuzanne87jennsuzanne87 member
    I know I need to just put my foot down! I was just so taken aback at the over zealousness of this strange girl haha. 
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  • verveine407verveine407 member
    Totally not thinking what she did was appropriate but I bet she was TTC. You know the old wives tale about being around babies? I would have been taken aback too but she might have been emotional for her own journey not your baby.
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  • mel0601mel0601 member
    I unapologetically tell people to not touch my daughter and decline all cuddles. My daughters health and safety is more important to me than a strangers feelings!
    I've even told my friends kids off ( kids in daycare five days a week) for trying kiss her on the mouth at two weeks old! Don't even feel bad about it. Lol
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