September 2015 Moms

Feeling Like Damaged Goods

I'm 3 weeks PP and not even close to being semi healed. I've already been to the doctor for issues with my stitches and have to go back again tomorrow. I feel like I'm never going to heal let alone be able to have sex again. Logically I know eventually my body will get it together but this is so frustrating. Anyone else healing extra slowly?

Re: Feeling Like Damaged Goods

  • I'm only 12 days pp and I have over 12 stitches, I feel like I'll never be the same.
    I haven't had any issues healing yet, but I do feel "damaged" like my lady bits won't ever be normal again!
    I'm still in the waddling phase because they itch and feel tight and gross..
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  • Healing from a c section so a little different but I'm not back yet at almost 5 weeks. Doc had to "dig" in my incision last week due to a possibleindection and I feel like I'm a week pp now :( had to go on antibiotics and it's still leaking so I'm not sure if I'm on the right track or not
  • Yep I'm 4 weeks since csection and my incision healed up great but I still feel pangs of burning pain in my abdomen and sluggish. I cannot wait to feel 'normal' again.
  • I'm at almost4 weeks and it does get better but I still feel like I'm broken. Last time my bleeding only lasted a few days and it was light and minimal. This time around I'm still bleeding!!! It feels like it will never end. It has lightened but ugh. It's still awful.
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  • I'm 4w pp and just this week stopped using the peri bottle. My stitches are finally healed, though it's still painful some days. It's going to be weeks yet before I feel normal. DD1 I had bad tearing and around 5-6 months I was healed and felt normal enough to give sex a go. I had torn pretty badly with her though.
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  • 5 weeks pp healing from a bad third degree tear and I totally get this feeling. My stitches still twinge and just force me to be a bit thoughtful and I'm so tired of feeling this way. I feel so unsexual, I feel like I can't imagine ever even wanting to have sex again, even if my body ever actually heals and I get past just the fear of having sex post tear.
  • Same here I was induced so went full labour then emergency c section I find most pain is in my back which may be from epidural..... Oh and the bleeding urgh when will it stop! :-( it's so gross I am so over it.

    I find heat patches work well and are comforting too , feel better soon mamas x
  • Yes! I had 2nd degree tear and internal sulcus tear... I still can't move around well/too much, which is so frustrating, and I can't imagine ever having sex again. It strikes so much fear in me.. I feel ruined down there
  • I felt a lot like this the first time in particular. It does get better, I promise. In terms of sex, be sure to take things very slowly. We rushed into it and it was actually sort of traumatic because things weren't quite the same down there. Eventually, though, everything worked out.
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  • I'm a FTM exactly six weeks pp, 2nd degree tear, 3 stitches. My OB took out my stitches at 4 weeks because they'd gotten so uncomfortable I'd thought they were ripped out or infected, but they were just healed and needed to be removed.
    I still feel a little weird down there, though, like I'm going to split open if I cough or sneeze. And taking a peek, TMI, I still look...torn. But my OB didn't say anything...we'll see next week- my 6 week appointment is at 7 weeks.
  • Damaged is how I feel. I can't complain since I only had one stitch, but my lady parts got really stretched out so I was wearing adult diapers for ten days pp. I love my daughter and am glad she is healthy, but my body still feels destroyed. My waistline is gone, my belly beyond recognition. My sex drive is totally gone. On one level I want to get intimate with my DH, but physically I'm not feeling it. Can't wait for this phase to pass.
  • I was really nervous about having sex again since we hadn't been able to since second trimester due to spotting issues and a really sensitive cervix that made it really painful. Got the all-clear at my 6-week appointment and had some hope when the cervical check didn't hurt at all! We took things slow our first time having sex pp and used lots of lube and it barely hurt at all! It was a little uncomfortable for a few moments, but nothing like I was expecting, thank goodness!
  • I'm 4 weeks pp from a c-section today & my incision is healing wonderfully but my innards still feel like they're going to fall out. The sensations are still very painful. Burning, sharp & deep aches still! When I try & rub lotion on my stretch marks around my incision it feels like I'm being tazered in the gut. Lovely stuff we ladies go through! It's definitely going to take some time & confidence boosts to feel saucey again.
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