Waiting Game or Not

obimoma · October 2015

Last week I posted that we thought I had conceived this cycle. The next day we started getting faint positives, but Thursday I started bleeding & cramping. My hcg is already down to non pregnant levels. The ultrasound report said I need continued beta hcg monitoring and follow up ultrasound. Yet, my doctor said were good to go again as my hcg is down. He didn't even suggest waiting a full cycle. This is the second miscarriage, the first was in June. I'm scared to try again. However my clock is ticking loudly, I'll be 40 in april. The doctor seems to think this is due to my age and we should keep trying. I'm not sure if we shouldn't take a break and consult a specialist. My dh is one of those whatever you want sweetie guys. I don't know the best course of action, I just know this is all driving me crazy!

MamaBish · October 2015

Do whatever you feel comfortable with. I do know it's fairly common to not need to wait for a very early loss but it's ultimately up to you.

carrieandr · October 2015

I had a chemical pregnancy recently and my dr said I could try again right away. This was my second loss, but he said chemicals are very common, so I don't need any testing yet. He said if I have another loss like my first one (MMC at 9 weeks) he will do testing. I'm 37, so my clock is ticking, too. But like PP said, do whatever you're comfortable with.

Aera11 · October 2015

I had a chemical pregnancy in mid-September and my RE gave me the go-ahead for the next cycle as long as we felt emotionally up for it. It was my first mc and I was shocked at how upset I ended up feeling but we did decide to keep ttc. Do what's best for you and dh-- best of luck

kmmharrison · October 2015

Based on what I've read, doctor recommendations are all over the place. Some say wait, some say you don't have to. Some of what I've read says the doctors who do say to wait tell you to wait because they want you to be emotionally ready. If your doctor gave you the go ahead, then he must feel that you are physically safe. Typically, OBs aren't trained to determine emotional readiness. Do what you think is best for you. Best of luck!

obimoma · October 2015

Thanks for your replies. I'm going to see another doctor this week for a second opinion. We're going to request additional blood work, as I have lupus. I think after that we'll continue trying and start seeing a re at the same time.

It is the emotional side of it, going through the up of bfp to the drop and mourning. It's so much to take. Twice in 6 months has me wanting to tak

R0824H · October 2015

Like PPs have suggested, it's up to how you feel about it. I had an early MC (most likely a CP) in August and my OB said we didn't have to wait if we were ready so we tried again and I ended up having another early MC. I have yet to see my OB about this one (it was confirmed with a beta draw from my GP) and I think even if he were to tell us to go ahead again. We are going to take a cycle to relax, and just let my body heal.

You are completely right about the emotional side, but if you are willing to take the chance and can find ways to deal with the possibility of the up and down emotion that's a choice you and your DH will have to make.

I'm sorry for your losses and I wish you good luck in your TTC journey.

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