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AtlasmomAtlasmom member
in September 2015 Moms
How are you guys dealing with people wanting to come visit the baby during the early weeks?

SO doesn't want anyone around the baby. He is concerned that the baby will get sick. I keep getting a flood of txt of folks that want to stop by and see the baby plus bring food. I feel like I'm being mean by turning folks away but SO says it is our job to keep the baby safe and it is just too soon for visitors. The baby is a week old. I'm not feeling much like visitors myself but having a hard time telling people no.

Any advice? Is SO being too strict?
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Re: Visitors

  • SarahEmmons330SarahEmmons330 member
    We started having visitors once my SO went back to work that way I wasn't by myself for 12+ hours a day 5 days a week! Just make sure you have people wash their hands or use sanitizer (I love the babyganics sanitizer - it doesn't have that chemically smell/after taste) and don't let anyone come over that could possibly be sick. People understand that if they are sick they can't be around a baby and bow out of a visit.
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  • wilcoxevwilcoxev member
    This was my situation but I was the one who didn't want visitors and my dh did. I recommend scheduling when visitors can come, putting a sign on your door or entry that says something about washing hands upon entry, and keeping baby swaddled when visitors hold baby. It can be very overwhelming at first. Don't be afraid to say no, if you offend someone for wanting a little space than they are not very good friends or family.
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  • jen83mnjen83mn member
    We only had our family as visitors the first week and made sure everyone washed their hands before holding him. We started having people over the second week, but made sure they were healthy before coming over (most people are logical and will reschedule if they're sick, thank goodness!) and I made sure all visitors washed their hands right after they walked in the door. We took him to our works to meet coworkers at 4 weeks, but brought hand sanitizer and made sure whoever wanted to hold or touch him had just washed their hands or used hand sanitizer. The one coworker who was sick told me so and stayed away out of common courtesy. I'm a major germaphobe since getting super sick with the flu and pneumonia during first trimester, so I know where your SO is coming from!

    Baby is 6 weeks now and we're still keeping him away from public places like Target, etc. We did take him out to a restaurant for the first time tonight for MIL's birthday, but left him in his car seat the entire time and no one bothered him. However, I was not happy to find out FIL had a cold when we got there and didn't tell us beforehand so we could make a decision about whether we wanted our baby around him or not. He kept his distance and didn't touch the baby, but I was still irritated! MIL and FIL don't seem to understand the whole germ thing and that we don't want to expose our newborn to sick people, whereas my family is the complete opposite and would let us know ahead of time and would reschedule because they wouldn't want to get the baby sick. It's a struggle!
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