"Sleep when the baby sleeps." RANT

Re: "Sleep when the baby sleeps." RANT

• abchrist1 member

  October 2015

  Yes. But you're better than me, I'm not so worried about cleaning or cooking as I am about eating and showering. Plus I have a 2 year old, so I kind of have to be awake for her.

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• mktgarner member

  October 2015

  Same here!!! My husband gives me this advice at least daily, but in the same breath asks me to take care of tons of different tasks and things around our house.

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• jlawson23 member

  October 2015

  No I understand. I guess I just don't like hearing "man you look tired... My best advice is sleep when the baby sleeps." I guess I'm just over hearing that. Lol

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• Elecin member

  October 2015 edited October 2015

  I've only been able to sleep when she sleeps one time since she's been born. So yah, not so easy.

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• MiromiM member

  October 2015

  Agree! My priorities are:
  1. Baby
  2. Bathroom
  3. Liquids
  4. Food
  5. Sleeping
  6. Bathing
  
  In that order. Sleeping is waay down on the list. It does get better. Either because the baby sleeps for longer, more predictable stretches or because your brain forgets what it was ever like to not be tired.
  

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• alyjmac member

  October 2015

  THIS. My boyfriend expects his lunch made, dinner made, a clean place, and that I will look done up all the time. But then he says I shouldn't be so tired because I can "sleep when the baby sleeps" . I could kill him some days/nights.

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• paine0925 member

  October 2015

  OMG YES - I feel the exact same way. If I slept when the baby slept I'd never be able to shower, use the restroom, brush my teeth or eat food.

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• jlawson23 member

  October 2015

  @alyjmac I completely understand. I told my boyfriend forget it. I'm doing the best I can. I understand he goes to work all day. But I am sleep deprived. I haven't slept eight hours since BEFORE I had her. So I would like to eventually be able to sleep for just 4 hours straight again. It's just hard because I'm nursing and no one gets the emotional toll breastfeeding has on a woman whether it's going well or not... Unless of course you've been in these shoes before...

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• jlawson23 member

  October 2015

  I agree with all of you. She's asleep now, but now is my chance to eat, drink, pump for her.. Breathe... Etc.

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• rachellegiacco member

  October 2015

  It's so true. When I had my first that is all everyone said to me. Or offered to watch him while I napped. Idc how many hours I am awake straight I do not nap, it's impossible I have things to do.
  Of course after your first kid naps are not even offered anymore

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• kanga915 member

  October 2015

  abchrist1 said:

  Yes. But you're better than me, I'm not so worried about cleaning or cooking as I am about eating and showering. Plus I have a 2 year old, so I kind of have to be awake for her.

  Yes this is me too

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• melco19 member

  October 2015

  I get that advice and I also have a 21 month old. It's a little hard to nap when baby naps, when big brother naps at a different time. I have one awake at all times.

   

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• ForeverEverAfter member

  October 2015

  The last 2 days I managed to get both girls asleep in their own beds for the same naptime. No way could I join them though my MIL left 2 weeks ago and DH has been working non stop plus studying for an exam. Showering, cooking and eating cookies are higher priority than sleep! I've started cleaning with both kids because they cooperate better than if I'm sitting down (I wear the baby and let the toddler help).

  

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• ElleMF728 member

  October 2015

  alyjmac said:

  THIS. My boyfriend expects his lunch made, dinner made, a clean place, and that I will look done up all the time. But then he says I shouldn't be so tired because I can "sleep when the baby sleeps" . I could kill him some days/nights.

  LOL!  DH is impressed if none of us are in our PJs when he gets home from work.  Also, he can make his own damn lunch, especially if I'm eating mine off of my toddler's tray which I usually am.  

  

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• jen83mn member

  October 2015

  I only sleep when baby is asleep at night. I maybe took one nap during the day the first week I was home, but when he sleeps during the day I need to get stuff done!

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• jbettles member

  October 2015

  So hubby was all worried I wasn't sleeping n one day I texted him, "Jameson FINALLY fell asleep!" at 10 am. He responds, "So why aren't you sleeping, too?" (Meaning well, I really think!) and I kinda went off on him. My 4 year old daughter comes home from preschool at 11:30 and I was behind in basically EVERYTHING, plus the fact that baby sleeping + daughter gone = the only ME time I get! I had a cup of coffee and watched a show on Netflix. So sue me!!

  

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• tlc11934 member

  October 2015

  @alyjmac I can't even imagine. I shower daily and wear real clothes mostly to drop off my other kids at school, but immediately change into sweats as soon as I get home. I did 4 loads of dishes in the last 24 hours because I refuse to wash anything by hand. And if it were up to me to cook we'd have take out every night. Tell your SO you'll get back to being "you" in about 3 years.

  

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• jabeauty90 member

  October 2015

  I wish sleeping when baby sleeps is possible. When LO is asleep I'm doing housework, gardening, doing homework with my 6 year old or playing with the 2 year old. No
  Time for naps here.

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• ktbkitten member

  October 2015

  Don't throw stones at me...but am I the only one that can sleep when my LO sleeps?! I get it if you have other younger kids. My other son is 11 so that really isn't a problem because he doesn't need supervision. I don't sleep every time that he does just once, maybe twice a day. Which sounds great, but it really isn't. Lately he's been waking up every hour at night and sleeps longer times during the day. I maybe get an hour total at night, so I have to sleep at some point. Thank god I can fall asleep pretty quickly when I nap. AND the naps that I am getting are maybe an hour to an hour and a half. So, add that up about I get possibly 3 hours of sleep in a 24 hour period. Sleeping has rose pretty high on my list lately. I just feel exhausted. So, even sleeping when the baby sleeps doesn't guarantee that you are getting enough sleep. Blah  I-)

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• louiser210591 member

  October 2015

  I've been hearing this since my baby was born and she's now a month old. But Everytime she sleeps in the day that's when I like to get house chores done. If I sleep when she sleeps nothing else gets done

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• jacksonsmomma11 member

  October 2015

  alyjmac said:

  THIS. My boyfriend expects his lunch made, dinner made, a clean place, and that I will look done up all the time. But then he says I shouldn't be so tired because I can "sleep when the baby sleeps" . I could kill him some days/nights.

  Girl friend I've lived alternating the same two pairs of sweat pants and same 4 tshirts for the past month! Lol kudos to you if you can stay done up! I make dinner 3 times a week and keep up with laundry and dishes. I'd kill him too! xD
  

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