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September 2015 Moms
kmcshane0211
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Hell hath no fury...
kmcshane0211
member
I just need to vent. Any words of support?
So, I've been EBF for my daughter's first 4 weeks. It's been a struggle but I've persevered through all the trials. Most difficult has been to come to terms with my low milk supply. It's up and down. Most importantly, my daughter is gaining weight slowly ( wasn't to birth weight until 3 weeks)/doctor told me my supply was low and I needed to supplement. Stab. I wasn't prepared for that. For the last week since the appointment, I've been pumping/feeding non-stop and still experiencing fluctuations in my supply. I've poured my heart into improving things and am trying so hard to make it work.
Last night my SIL decides to tell me my MIL said my daughter is "too skinny". (Never mind that it's a total a-hole thing to tell someone hurtful/critical/less than positive things others say...I already asserted myself to her about it. What's irritating is my SIL claims it was said with "concern"...Then tell me directly. Don't report what someone else said about me...that's another story..)
Honestly, hearing that comment felt like a punch in the gut. It's offensive to me and my efforts. And above all hurtful to my daughter...she's not "too" anything. She's lovely. Yes, she's small but super healthy and we're doing everything we can to increase her weight gain (including formula when my supply is really low). Husband confronted MIL and she denied through her teeth (like she's done many times) but we don't believe her as she's constantly bad mouthing others (including my other SIL's and making comments about their parenting decisions). This woman is "nice" but not genuine, VERY judgemental about EVERYONE (she'd pick apart the most saintly of human beings if she had the chance) and very intrusive in others' business.
I wish in this moment I could muster up the maturity, confidence and grace to handle this situation ideally and as well as I know I can, but I'm livid, vulnerable, exhausted and broken down from the adjustment to new parenthood, some anxiety and challenges with BFing that I'm already trying to manage.
Yes, I'm probably hormonal, over-tired and overly sensitive but both of their actions are just rude.
How would you proceed?
So, I've been EBF for my daughter's first 4 weeks. It's been a struggle but I've persevered through all the trials. Most difficult has been to come to terms with my low milk supply. It's up and down. Most importantly, my daughter is gaining weight slowly ( wasn't to birth weight until 3 weeks)/doctor told me my supply was low and I needed to supplement. Stab. I wasn't prepared for that. For the last week since the appointment, I've been pumping/feeding non-stop and still experiencing fluctuations in my supply. I've poured my heart into improving things and am trying so hard to make it work.
Last night my SIL decides to tell me my MIL said my daughter is "too skinny". (Never mind that it's a total a-hole thing to tell someone hurtful/critical/less than positive things others say...I already asserted myself to her about it. What's irritating is my SIL claims it was said with "concern"...Then tell me directly. Don't report what someone else said about me...that's another story..)
Honestly, hearing that comment felt like a punch in the gut. It's offensive to me and my efforts. And above all hurtful to my daughter...she's not "too" anything. She's lovely. Yes, she's small but super healthy and we're doing everything we can to increase her weight gain (including formula when my supply is really low). Husband confronted MIL and she denied through her teeth (like she's done many times) but we don't believe her as she's constantly bad mouthing others (including my other SIL's and making comments about their parenting decisions). This woman is "nice" but not genuine, VERY judgemental about EVERYONE (she'd pick apart the most saintly of human beings if she had the chance) and very intrusive in others' business.
I wish in this moment I could muster up the maturity, confidence and grace to handle this situation ideally and as well as I know I can, but I'm livid, vulnerable, exhausted and broken down from the adjustment to new parenthood, some anxiety and challenges with BFing that I'm already trying to manage.
Yes, I'm probably hormonal, over-tired and overly sensitive but both of their actions are just rude.
How would you proceed?
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