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Extremely clingy toddler

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My 2-year-old wants nothing to do with daddy. I'm sure this is some new sibling behavior and regression. But she won't let him do ANYTHING. He works and I am a SAHM. I'm with these two all day. He's gone from 7 am-6 pm at least (sometimes longer). He gets home and she still wants only me. "Mommy uppy. Mommy get dinner. Mommy help. Mommy change diaper. Mommy bath." She makes me feed her (she's perfectly capable of feeding herself, albeit sloppily). I can tell that it's also hurting my husband.
He has done her bath for the past 2+ years. That was their "bonding" since I EBF.
For a week now (LO is 3 weeks old), she won't have it unless I'm in the bathroom too. Tonight I was nursing downstairs and he tried to take her up for bath and she stood at the top baby gate having a major meltdown until I got there. And then I had to do the bath myself, she screamed until he left.
Is this a phase? Any tips? Besides just not letting it happen, because I can't take the screaming. But I'm also EBF LO and I neeeeed DD1 to blow off steam with dad when he gets home. I'm exhausted.
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  • kanga915kanga915 member
    I have no tips but you're not alone. I'm in the same boat. I'm just hoping it's a phase.
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  • Bat_Ish_CrazyBat_Ish_Crazy member
    How is she with dad if you leave the house? Take the baby and peace out. Then if she melts down, you're not around to hear it. And since you're not home, she may be more open to accepting dad over you.

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  • jennahkrossjennahkross member
    My now 3 year old went through a similar phase. I just tried to carve out some time during the day as our "special time together" where I focused on just him, doing whatever he wanted. Then when it was Dads time to come in and do bath or dinner that was his special time with him.
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  • Elizabeth043086Elizabeth043086 member
    No advice really but my first one did the same exact thing when my second came along.  I think it may be even worse this time because my second is a huge mama's boy to begin with whereas ds 1 really wasn't. But it will pass.  This first year was tough. 

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  • rebeccabloomwoodrebeccabloomwood member
    I think it's just a phase but I feel you. During the day when Daddy is at work, she's says 'want daddy' all day long. Once he's home and the initial excitement has worn off, she's all about me. She's been having so many tantrums for the last week or so as well. PLEASE let this all be a phase.
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