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anyone else struggling with jealousy?

bella2210bella2210 member
in January 2016 Moms
I've never been an overly jealous person. Before getting pregnant, I had insecure moments when I didn't feel great but never like I have in the past 3 weeks. I'm embarrassed by it but my boyfriend had become a property manager and whenever girls come by to look at the apartment I feel jealous unless I get full attention. I try to hide it because I know it's ridiculous. I'm just so emotional and I feel so vulnerable right now. I just wanted to know if any of you are feeling this and how you cope with it so that you don't drive both you and your partner nuts.
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Re: anyone else struggling with jealousy?

  • MommyduclosMommyduclos member
    I think I would put this under "emotional nesting" I don't worry about infidelity but I worry about other things- is my husband helping enough with the other kids, around the house, finances etc. it's just your heart making sure your life is in order before baby comes.
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  • enkbenkb member
    I have never been the jealous type, but I have noticed being a bit more sensitive to it since getting pregnant. My husband is British and we live in the midwest, he gets comments multiple times a day from women telling him they 'just love his accent and could listen to him talk all day'. It never bothered me before even a little, didn't even think about it that way,but since pregnancy it rubs me te wrong way sometimes. Glad to know I'm not alone!
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  • ChrissyD1203ChrissyD1203 member
    @bella2210 do you think it comes from an insecurity over not being married - I remember before my husband and I got engaged (when I wanted to and he wasn't "ready") I constantly felt insecure in our relationship and that insecurity funneled into jealousy. There was nothing to be insecure about about not being married but I was all up in my head and couldn't get out of it. The one thing I know from a prior relationship where I was really jealous was that obviously it pushed him away. I always thought he was cheating and would always question it about it and then eventually I think it got to the point where he was so tired of my being suspicious that he was just like if I am going to get blamed for cheating, I might as well cheat.

    Sorry - no advice other than I think you are doing the right thing - recognizing you are having a problem and trying to find a way to be better. That's the best you can do!
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  • bella2210bella2210 member
    I really appreciate you ladies adding your experiences. It really helps.
    @ChrissyD1203 he actually wanted to get married and I began feeling nervous and got cold feet (we still want to do it though, just nerves). This is completely baseless and I think if anything has influenced my feelings, it's my parents. They treated each other pretty terribly. That never seemed to affect me until now, I guess because I'm starting a family of my own. It's terrifying to wonder if you picked the right person to raise a child with.

    @ultln9562 I can relate to a lot of what you wrote. I feel like I've lost myself a bit while being pregnant. I'm going to stay home and be a mother while he goes out and continues to pursue his dreams. It's only for a few months but it terrifies me to lose my autonomy and sense of self.
    I'm glad this forum is here to vent these things. Jealousy is an ugly thing. It's ugly to feel and it's hard to admit. It feels so much safer to admit to it here. I'm glad I can and also read similar experiences so that I know I'm not the only one. Thank you!
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